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This is, on the one hand, seems all is clear and known, but on the other hand, is fairly tabulated, that is to talk about sexuality in the family is not accepted.
- And where do we get our knowledge in this area?
- They reflect the true position of things?
And how can you enjoy a relationship if we are different (someone wants all the time and "always ready", and someone needs longer to tune)


In a previous article, I described three areas that are very important to build a happy family. Sphere of sexual relations between spouses is one of the basic, the backbone (along with the fellowship and spiritual life of the spouse).

This is, on the one hand, seems all is clear and known, but on the other hand, is fairly tabulated, that is to talk about sexuality in the family is not accepted. More popular in our society are jokes and jokes about sex (where, in most and get knowledge), as well as a discussion of various aberrations (such as homosexuality) or "adventures of the men left." And even young boys and girls discuss this area, based on the knowledge gained from movies or magazines. Unfortunately, accurate information there are very few, that is, whole generations of young people grow up without having a true vision of sexuality and even fewer know how to build relations in this sphere in the family.

In my opinion, knowledge in the sphere of marital sexual relations would be transmitted in families from mother to daughter and from father to son. Then fewer young people would seek this knowledge and "forbidden fruit" before marriage, worrying about "sexual compatibility" and the fear of the relationship for life. And even those who have maintained purity prior to marriage, it would be much easier to build those relationships in marriage. After all, to properly build, you need to understand the needs of each other. But in this area men and women are very different (again, about the differences!).

Women need to understand that sexual cohabitation for men is extremely important, not just important, but essential on a regular basis. Men are fertile all the time (from adolescence to death, about this in more detail in the article about the physiological differences in detail), and therefore the sex urge they have to constantly (morning, afternoon and evening... every day). And this is not a feature just of your men. No, he's right. He was "always ready!" If not sick.

For the marital act, men don't have long to prepare. Eyes to see, brain realized: "I Want!" and the body immediately responds willingly. By the way, thanks to movies and other various information men believe that "normal" women are all exactly the same: they constantly seek sexual satisfaction and they also "always ready". To convince my husband that in movies (especially in erotic or porn) is shown by real life hard enough...

After the marital act the man quickly calms down and usually falls asleep peacefully... that Is, it quickly ignited and quickly extinguished. By the way, the conjugal act is for men is a "discharge" from exercise and stress. This means, act to men is not the best way out of stress, "switching" from problems and in General relaxation.

Wives should know that the conjugal act (completed) is a manifestation of the love of a woman and as perceived. That is, if a woman refuses, it is interpreted by man as the fact that his wife does not love him. The man does not understand the reasons for the refusal, for him the state is not of great importance, therefore, to understand why his wife refuses (and most of this is due to her emotional state) quite difficult. He feels rejected, devalued as a man. People effective, proves his love in action. Conjugal intercourse is the proof of his courage.

And men should understand that women are different (not all women constantly seek sexual pleasure, as shown in the movies). Physiologically, due to the fact that a woman is fruitful only a few days a month, and only in these days, as a rule, has a strong libido (which is logical, because the nature of the "calling" of a woman to pregnancy and reproduction). I'm not saying that sexual cohabitation with his wife is possible only a few days a month, just in these days a woman is excited faster and sometimes even faster husband and then excites him. But if the couple is practicing natural family planning and while postponing pregnancy, it is in these days, unfortunately, sexual cohabitation is not recommended...

On other days, the excitement of the woman is not so fast and depends on many factors: its physical and emotional state, as well as from the actions of men. But even physically and emotionally tired woman man by his actions, tenderness and sensitivity, along with a willingness to listen to her (so she dumps her emotional stress) can lead to sexual arousal.

The conjugal act is so important for women, much more important is the depth of relationships, a sense of understanding and acceptance. For women, it is important to FEEL loved and desired, she is waiting for tenderness, delicacy, caress and touch. In this case, marital AK may not happen, for women this is normal.

Her excitement grows very slowly and also slowly subsides. They say that good sex starts in the morning when a man shows a special tenderness to the woman, as if courting her, in a special way cares for her, but notes that, "now I'll do the dishes tonight..." in order not to turn this sacred sphere of married life in the market, "You - I, I - You!". For women, it is important to feel that the man loves her and just like that, she's under no obligation "to perform the conjugal duty", only then it will truly give themselves and the quality of the marital act will significantly improve.

And for women are very important conditions, namely safety and comfort. Only in a safe and comfortable environment, a woman can relax, to completely give themselves unconditionally to the man and enjoy the unity with the beloved.

Here we are different, But knowing this, it is much easier to build relationships in the spouse area!