I'll tell you some stories of change and how I handled it or how did it feel in the end. I'm not saying these are the only or the best ways of handling it. However these are my experiences and I'm hoping someone can find some similarities in their own experiences.
Who knows.
<h1>Don't mind the task you're working on, it's up to the team</h1>
I've posted about getting my current job in the past. It was almost a year ago and now once again, I'm switching the position within my current company. It'll bring some changes and it's not a big trick - the tasks will differ but I'm sure I'll learn them fast. During this one year I've gotten somewhat good in my current job and I'm proud of it. I could have continued doing this for longer, but there is no long term future in the position I have right now.
This is also the reason why many of my colleagues have switched teams recently - to get permanent contracts. The real shame is that even though we're still sitting almost next to each other, our interaction is no longer the same. We used to constantly work together and I had a really awesome team. It was the best team I've ever been.
Now most of my colleagues from the past year have left the team. I see them daily, but there is no <i>us</i> anymore.
This is what pains me most.
I'm looking forward to the new job mostly in hopes that the new team will be good. With good luck, it'll be a long lasting group of great people, even though nothing is permanent. The previous team was so good so I have very high standards though, but everything better than bad is good.
I'm still wishing that I will not be left with a bitter feeling for the "dream team" getting broken up, as I already now miss some of the colleagues - or the time working together with them.
<sub>This image is from Pixabay just to attract some views for this post</sub>
<h1>How many people are in my house right now?</h1>
Finns are known to be at their happiest when they are alone. Usually a complete silence with nobody else around is the optimal situation for any Finn. However, sometimes you have the special friends who you're really comfortable with and you don't mind them being with you.
I have some friends like this and I really enjoyed when I had the people over at my place. Even though a Finn appreciates solitude and own time, after the friends left it only left an empty feeling. Can solitude be the same after enjoying other people so much?
One big question is - are other people so social only because they have more good friends whose company they enjoy? Is the reason Finns want to be alone actually the fact most Finns are annoying assholes?
Only time can take away this feeling. Maybe cheese too, but usually time. Can absence of specific friends be cured with other friends? I'm not sure. Hopefully it'll help though, but maybe I'll just roll a while longer in the misery.
<h1>Engineers against art</h1>
I'm an engineer. I prefer calling myself an engineer, even though I have a business administration degree too. Being an engineer is far more clear.
"He's good with numbers and stuff."
There is a stereotype of an engineer in Finland. Wearing and ugly shirt, boring jeans, might still own a "belt case" for a phone, as it's more convenient to carry the phone on the belt than to keep it in your pocket. Really smart you know! They might wear glasses and have a poor posture. Not very interested in art and might enjoy a sport or two, they usually have a favorite sport instead of enjoying them all. They buy a smart car instead of a cool one, get married with a nurse and will have two children and a dog.
I was a bit confused when I found myself on Steemit doing art. I have never felt like I'm good at art and I wouldn't need to be. However I've enjoyed art so far and I kind of ended up in attempting to draw and paint by kind of an accident. I'm not even sure where I got the idea, but as it all started from a joke but ended up being something I was really proud of. I think the first graphic art I made on steemit was for a contest of @erodedthoughts and I drew a clown with my blood.
As I found myself very proud of what I had done, I've been every now and then been creating new visual art on Steemit. I don't think I'm good but for the first time in my life, I'm enjoying the creative process of art. It's something completely different I've ever done before.
Can even an engineer have a sense of art?
I've always enjoyed beautiful things and people. I have so pretty friends one would assume I'm choosing them based on their appearances. I'm doing photography in an attempt to catch all the beauty I'm seeing in my life.
It usually fits neither engineering or business, but I think one of the most important things in life is beauty. What is to be considered as beautiful is not limited to specific things, but beauty can bring happiness in our hearts. This is also a reason why I want to create things. Create beauty.
I'm trying to take steps away from the cold, calculating view on life and give more appreciation to creativity. It can be a big leap - hopefully a painless one.
<sub>I wish I had hair too... image is from the pixabay though</sub>
<h1>The life changer?</h1>
I've been building mass for the last 30 years. At this point I might need to stop it, even though I have said it even otherwise. I've decided (once again) to lose some weight. However this would require some changes in my life. Some are saying that making small changes over a longer period of time is the best way to go, then losing weight slowly so the body "can handle the weight loss better". Others say it's better to change everything at once and try to drop weight quickly.
Not sure what's the best way to go, but the main issue in everything is changing everything I'm used to. The mind and the body are both working against changes, or on the other hand it might be that I'm only assuming it would be difficult. I know someone who has stopped using addictive drugs just with sheer willpower. I'm not sure how hard it was to him, but the bottom line was this: It's possible when you understand it's all up to you.
The issue here is also me. I do like sweet and greasy things so much on other hand, I wouldn't want to restrict myself from eating them.
The need for change is real though - as I've seen some photos of myself and moving my arms caused my t-shirt to rise up enough to show my belly.
This is something nobody should need to see.
Now I'm planning to drop 20 kg in an unknown period of time. This promise is now on the blockchain and can never be removed from here.
I'm glad this can be reached easily with two steps:
1. Eat less
2. Move more
A small change in life.
<sub>Once again a pony from pixabay! If you've read this far though, leave a comment with 3-5 words. I'll either create digital art of it or write a story based on the words. We'll see about that.</sub>
<h1>I'm always right - even if I change my opinion on the topic</h1>
This is one of the largest difficulties in our lives. It at least feels like it. I might be wrong though and change my mind later, but let me open this up.
It's typical that we assume our thoughts, assumptions and ideas are right. Why would we otherwise think that way? The issue with typical conversations and arguments is that neither of the people are ready to change their view on the world. Even if a fact is pointed out to them, they might just stick harder on their wrong assumptions because they feel like their precious thoughts are under attack.
At this point one might question - is it this difficult to admit that we've been wrong?
One of the real issues rise up also when you do change your point of view. You might have thought something bad about a topic, but later realize it's a good thing. People call you a turncoat, state you're just changing your mind all the time and that you're not reliable and trustworthy.
So it's better to be sticking to a lie than to change your point of view, so others will know what you really think. Are we trustworthy only if we never change? I do think the fact what we are is constantly changing. I can be real me right now and after 10 years, even though we would be very different people. However someone who would meet me now and next time in 10 years could claim that I'm not myself any longer.
<i>"It's because you have changed"</i>
We all change. At least we should.
It can be something as little as how we see different people. Someone you have liked or hated before might feel like something entirely opposite after some time. We do not need to stick with the same feelings for a longer time, as it would end up in pretending to think differently. Would I need to pretend to like someone I no longer like?
The saddest part with this is that even good friendships can end with this. One or neither of people no longer truly appreciate each other and see themselves as friends.
I've seen that happening. I've lost interest and respect to some of my former friends - and some of my good friends have abandoned me as I've changed. I was no longer anything they like in people. However I do not regret the fact I've grown to be something else than they might have hoped.
Deep down the best thing preventing loss of any friends is if you can tolerate differences in people. At least in the things which do not matter that much. I'm trying to grow into the fact that it doesn't matter if people are very different from what I am. They can be great people even though they're different.
I really do wish they are at least.