Hey, 
I am 26 and thought chivalry had died and rotted into the ground. I was single for 4 years, and that was me being open to dating! 
I thought this is why people settle. 
But one night I went out to a country bar to celebrate being accepted into my program at university and I asked a guy to two-step. 
He is now my boyfriend and he is the gentleman I thought didn't exist like big-foot. 
He takes care of me. Literally makes my breakfast every morning and tea, cooks supper, will do laundry, takes garbage out whenever needed, feeds my fish whenever he looks hungry, supports anything I do. It is amazing. And I never once asked him to do these things. I have never asked him to pick up groceries and toilet paper. But he does. I am sure if tampons was on the list he would call to make sure he got the right kind. He is everything I didn't expect to find again. So it is there. It may be like freak sightings, but maybe big-foot does exist hahaha.

It's alive.  It might not be as common.  But it's alive.  My father in law still waits for all of us to go in the car before he goes in.  When we go out to eat, I still open the door for my wife to go in and still make sure she sits down first before I sit.  I think it depends what kind of culture you grow up in.  I grew up in an old school Asian culture.  I remember my grandfather scolding me and sitting me down for a "talk" when I didn't take my girlfriend home and just let her go home on my own.  My dad would always remind me that if I'm walking on a sidewalk, to walk on the side where the car will hit me first just incase an accident happens.

At the same time, I've seen just super butch guys turn into knights in shining armour after they've learned how to be chivalrous.  It can be taught as well.  In fact, it's something we also taught at John Robert Powers Manila.  Probably because the Philippines is very old school.

Thought-provoking.  I hope your hubby doesn't see this video though! LOL - blockchain forever!

If the measure of this is the amount of lawn mowing, due to where I am, it is currently dead.  But as of May 1st every year, I have approximately 2 - 3 acres to push mow.  There aren't any women here though, so does that count?

As for the Amish around here, I see the women doing plenty of work too.  But an Amish man is practically never idle either.  They've got hundreds of acres of farm land that they plant using no other equipment than a couple of horses, sunup to sundown...

My work around here is pretty seasonal, so either it's chopping wood, stacking wood, shoveling snow, mowing the lawn, watering the garden (often using the tractor and trailer with water jugs from snake creek).  When there's drought, we shut down the pipes and haul 5 gallon buckets using the creek water about 150 yards away and use it to flush the toilet by pouring it into the back every flush.  Life around here is hard, but it helps keep my blood sugar in control.

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Beth, I think a lot of guys nowadays have this idea that women should be perfectly capable of doing more strenuous things or less desirable things because they have this perception that women want to be equal so they just kind of in their head throw their hands up in the air, and kind of declare, "okay then be equal". That being said it has been taken too far. And I think a lot of it has to do with men being lazy. My wife and I had a similar struggle to yours where she felt I wasn't having her back on some things, but she was very vocal about it, over a long period of time, and although I may not agree with everything, I've had to make an adjustment because I love her and I value her. And in doing so I've come to realign my thoughts on chivalry. I used to be of the mindset that I didn't need to have her back because she could defend herself just fine, but in actuality it meant so much to her when I did have her back that I realized I needed to realign my perception of things. I hope your husband is receptive to this because I think it's important for him to hear what you're saying about it. I won't lie at times I thought my wife was nagging me about things like this, and maybe some of my own maturity has played a part in my perception that she needs to be treated like a lady and that it's important to her. But that only became important to me after she kept on and on about it. Hopefully this doesn't really become as big of an issue with you and your husband as it did with us, but really the only cure in my opinion is if your husband sits down and listens to what you have to say about this. Good luck.

Fuck yeah that shit is dead.
Chivalry died with feminism.

It's not dead.  I buy Suit jackets from Goodwill and throw them on mud puddles for women crossing the street.  LOL not...

First off chivalry shouldn't be confused with slavery. Rather, it's a motivation, that MAY produce such acts of service, but it comes from a place of strength within the man, not fear.

Is it dead? In the heart of weak feminist snowflakes. 

Not a big fan of chivalry. I think the idea that men should act different than women is weird and I myself just dont give a shit. 
But human relationships should be up to only their participants and if there are women and men that enjoy chivalry thats great for them.

Is this chivalry?

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Most men are naturally chivalrous (imo) - it's part of that whole natural male/ female thing.
Weird stuff!

Modern feminism has ripped that out of men's natural 'behaviour' to girls - which is really sad. (although in fairness, blame can be attributed to the men also, for _allowing the change).

It twists natural dynamics. Which is shite!

I love showing respect, and caring for the opposite sex. (yes, I will go to the shop  for tampons - I never even thought if it as a 'thing', until I read another comment here!)

The over zealous feminists have killed chivalry. The de-balling of men by society has also killed it. I still open the door for women and wait for them to be seated first when eating. It is not completely dead but it is in the death bed.

Definitely not dead, lol, but I do know what you are talking about, and also been one of those told "I don't need you to "insert genuine chivalrous gesture." Also coming from someone that I had already established a dating relationship. The standing up with family issue thing is tough. I've been put in these situation multiple times, and either reaction just spurs more turmoil it seems. You want to stand up and say it, or hold ground, but there is this age old notion of parental obedience, and honestly, sometimes, parents want to be heard but will respect your actions as an adult and still be your parents. So, easier for the couple to just march on doing themselves, and not letting a narcissistic judgmental attention trap spur more tension in the relationship itself. I also get wanting to feel stood up for to the other side of the family, but do we have to pit the relationship against the blood? Unless total subversion from the family unit is okay, it's kind of along the lines of getting tilted at windmills as my mother likes to tell me. Parents have their opinion and that's it, only your actions would change them, and that's up to you. So to get offended and stand up to them doesn't do much. They are doing what they believe is correct by parenting in the way they think is right, you know what I mean? Showing them they are wrong works better, probably because their kids standing up for them selves in a real way, not just verbally, by being independent confident citizens not tripped up by someone's opinion, is probably their point all along. I know I rambled their for a minute, and I don't mean to directly disagree, because I get it, but coming from a man that was raised in the South and holds true to that age old notion of chivalry, the battle against the family seems to end poorly every time. It's like picking battles with children in a weird way. Anyways, point is, some of us are still out there trying to keep it alive, in the most respectful way possible. Sometimes, gals make the situation as precarious as possible without even knowing it. Honestly, fits right into one of our human paradoxes. They say look at the way a man treats his mother to see how he would treat you as a woman. Then y'all want us to stand up and go rouge on that same mother. Again, not saying this is some intentional manipulation, while it may be sometimes, I still give you ladies the benefit of the doubt, naturally of course, lol. The lawn mowing thing is a solid point. If your lady wants something done, just do it, lol. That coming from someone that generally lives in a comfortable environment, not necessarily one with everything put in it's place and trimmed back, ya know? Point is, I'm not a lawn mowing fan, per say, but if it appeases my ladies in any way, I'll add it to my list. Good post, hope it spurs some good convo! You now have a new follower. Cheers!

Yep, thank femenism for that one.  And yes chivalry is not dead.  Men don't want to be yell at anymore.