 This post will briefly explore some reasons why self expression of negative emotions can be positive and why. 1. You are not a robot. Expressing good or bad feelings is okay. They will come out eventually one way or the other. You can't just compartmentalize them forever. 2. You are not alone. You may find that by opening up to some people, you are not so alone after all. Which will possibly enrich your relationships with other people. 3. You need to process things. Going around pretending like you're okay or nothing matters is like a boil....it will explode eventually and it won't be pretty!  4. You don't need to fake being happy. 5. **Conversely**, you also don't need to go out of your way to make sure others know you are unhappy. You don't need to make sure others are hurting as much as you. It is counterproductive & wrong. 6. Knowing that no one is okay all the time can be helpful. Appearances of "okay-ness" could be an illusion. 7. Expressing emotions is not a weakness. In fact, confronting your demons and **eradicating** them isn't a bad idea. *So there you have it,* my seven reasons why it is okay not to be okay. Too many people are allowing their problems to fester. That's unhealthy. Get it out before it gets ugly. You don't want to let it get that far. My theory is that is why we have people going "postal" and doing these crazy horrific crimes, like mass shootings. NOW, I am not pardoning that behavior. I'm fact, one of my points was get it out and don't hurt others in the process! I didn't sit here planning to come up with exactly 7 reasons. It just happened. Would be happy to hear any other reasons on why you think regular self expression is okay. (PS. I don't know why the formatting on this post keeps restarting my list after the gif, but, it is 7 reasons.) *Image 1: my own created by me* *Gif from Giphy*
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Great post! Sooooo true! I grew up in a part of the country where it was very normal for people to express themselves, fully speak their minds, have a full range of emotions, etc.. I moved to the west coast of the US in my 30s and found that nobody was allowed to do anything except smile and nod. Conversations were typically kept short and the range of expression was minimal. It was odd to me bc I had always heard that the west coast was very animated. I have found that many people who move west experience this phenomenonal social difference. Not to single out only the west coast USA, but, in general, where there is major self-control and social policing, the darkest and sickest behaviors tend to erupt (see Hollywood mass pedophilia and satanism for instance?) as you suggested in your post. And of course, now, with the major therapeutization of society and socially engineered political correctness, people police their own thoughts even! Lets get animated people! @dakini5d Thanks, Chelsea
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yeah the "policing" of your own thoughts is a real issue for me. Thats a relative to if not straight up toxic shame or guilt. Not necessary!!
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This is so true, and it's a hard lesson to learn. Both as someone dealing with Anxiety/Depression and for those around them. You are very right in that you can't bottle it up forever. It does eventually come out. Those are the times when you throw an entire stack of plates in the floor just to hear them crash, and then plop down in the middle of the wreckage and cry for an hour straight. (NOT that I have ever done that...) It is good to have those around you that can understand, or at the very least *try* to understand. Keep the meaningful posts coming! โฅyou
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Thank you so much tabz. And if you have ever done that.... No judgement! {{Hugs}}
You are correct a good support system of people who at least try to understand is so paramount. you keep being strong. โกโกโก| post_id | 18,432,206 |
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