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As a matter of fact, romantic love is normally the initial phase in a relationship cycle...It's based on the illusion that you have found a very special person who will solve, here and now, a number of painful and burning issues that you carry with you since you were a child.... There are very sound studies to explain the "life cycle" of relationships, and the 4 possible "scripts" (which are called collusions) that we can play with our partner :-)
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It's clear that I am stuck in the first phase. Thanks for that information, I really had no idea, to be honest.
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It normally lasts two years, then things change :-) The good news is that after the "falling in love" stage, couples go through phases called counterdependence, independence, and (if all goes well) interdependence. Eventually, we accept that the other person is not a superhero, but possibly a good fit to our needs...
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So, perhaps that experience was a stage, something to form my future with. But, the problem was the no other person since the artist has been able to evoke those burning sensations. It's like I can never go back to eating Sonic meals when I've tasted food from Spago.
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@stellabelle We should be taught .... The Ancient Greeksβ 6 Words for Love (And Why Knowing Them Can Change Your Life) http://www.yesmagazine.org/happiness/the-ancient-greeks-6-words-for-love-and-why-knowing-them-can-change-your-life
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