<img src="https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmY9B9poR3GzQuVKogn741GHrjfMgK1VWSKiiDMcj9CHWP/hot.jpg"> <h3>Oh Men! I am one, and I know what it means to be a man and have all the feelings and attributes that men have. I have desires, fantasies, and will often look at any beautiful woman (or man for that matter) with appreciation or admiration.. and yes sometimes even lust! Even though I am a man, not all men are the same, and some are more driven by their hormones desires and instincts than others. Personally speaking I have experienced being relatively <strong>un</strong>affected by a beautiful woman for most of my young adulthood, as well as the primal feelings and urges of a more mature man. Having experienced both sides of the fence, it puts me me in a good place to share a little about this very important question!</h3> <p>Question. Why do many religions seek to prevent women from 'dressing up' too much? Muslims, Orthodox Jews, Amish, and Indian to name a few are so careful and restrictive about how women dress and present themselves. Is this to protect the women, the men, or both? Whilst I don't really appreciate or value forcing women to dress down, especially in the case of things like face covering, I can see why this is done, and the value of keeping modesty in public areas. These days especially, we live in a very multicultural world, and we have to learn to respect and live together. In general my opinion on very provocative dress is that there is a time and a place for everything. </p> <p>Here's the thing... many men are unable to control themselves. This is even more apparent when I visit certain countries like Israel and Egypt for example. I will never forget when i once passed through the Egypt border with my women friends, and saw the way in which the police looked at them. They were clearly and without any shame undressing these women in their minds and doing who knows what with them. It was not nice to see and I dont think ive ever looked at a women that way. These men were out of control a far as I'm concerned. Who to blame for that? I’m not even sure.. maybe the culture, maybe the oppression, maybe its just the genetics of being middle eastern? The same can really be said for most guys that are also European. I think the main difference is that men have learned to temper it a bit, and have a bit less of an intensity or desire when seeing a beautiful woman. Nevertheless, guys seems to be guys wherever I go, and its fair to say that most guys are totally preoccupied with beautiful women. Its only when you are a guy that you really get an insight into this world. Put a few men together and let a stunning woman walk past and see what happens! All eyes follow, and the guys will always mention it to each other afterwards in some kind of comment.. Whilst men react to different degrees to this kind of stimulus, its far to say that most men are wired in the same way. They have this kind of instinct to seduce a woman... they have a carnal desire to procreate and have sex with different women, even if they are married. It's fair to say that MOST men cheat (may women too!), and whether or not they are married, they are always on the look out for someone else. I know this because of ALL the men i have ever known, VERY VERY VERY few have been faithful.. For the record, I am one of them! </p> <p>So the question needs to be asked.. can we realistically expect men to control their behaviour toward women or not? I think the simple answer is Absolutely, but not always. Look, here is the thing.. Women who REALLY make an effort to look stereotypically beautiful, dress up in incredible sexy and revealing clothes, anoint themselves with perfumes containing pheromones, and make themselves appear to be wanting attention are sending out a message. It is one thing to be presentable and pretty, but its quite another thing to dress to impress and even be flirtatious. Whilst i personally DON'T think it is OK for men to be rude, shout out obscene comments, or otherwise interfere with a woman who hasn’t asked for it, I do understand why it happens. I would love to say that men should learn to control themselves, however i don't really think that is going to work! It's sad but true that most men are out of control, and that our society doesn’t really have a problem with men shouting out after a pretty lady on the street. I’m sure many women smile and welcome it, because that is why many women dress up in the first place.. but equally many women DON'T want this kind of attention and just want to look good for themselves and their partner.. and want to get respect. With that said, im sure in countries like Japan you are rarely going to see the kind of behaviour that a construction worker from the UK would exhibit for example. There are cultural differences and big differences in behaviour around the world. .. and that makes this question even harder to answer. <br> <br> Therefore, I would have to say that a woman should understand When and Where it is OK to dress provocatively. If you are going out clubbing and want to impress and yes Maybe meet a nice guy then i would say that IS the time and place for a women to go all out and display herself however she desires. In that case men also should learn to respect that, and control themselves. At least in theory, but alcohol sure makes that a hard thing to really expect. On the other hand, if a woman is just going out to go shopping, or is going to work, then she needs to be aware of her impact on others. I'm not sure it is totally fair to REALLY dress up to the nines and then expect all men to ignore her! As hard as it to say, it is asking for trouble. It may not be their fault exactly, but I do wonder if we can really expect anything different? I think when a woman really understands her effects on men, then she can learn when it is appropriate to be dressed provocatively or not. </p> <p>So in conclusion, I would say we have to find a balance. Men do need to learn to control themselves, and to a large extent many do.. It's just that one stupid guy in a large group who can cause problems, and so whilst 99% of men may well have their actions and carnal desires under control, that one guy who doesn’t sure stands out and can make life a misery for many women... and that guy is probably too far gone for us to expect him to change.. at least without significant social pressure.. That is the crazy thing about life, it only takes one idiot to ruin everything for us all! So the balance lies with men to correct each other a bit and put that pressure on each other, but also for women to dress appropriately for any given situation. It does SHOck me when i see VERY young girls dressed up like they are 10 or 20 years older than they really are, and that is the worst thing because they look the part, but they are not mature enough to really know what they are doing or how to handle it. </p> <p>The final part of this question is RESPONSIBILITY! Who is responsible for unwanted attention? Well im going to have to be Very honest again and say women are! That doesn’t make the attention OK, or acceptable, but it is how things work. Men are responsible for their own actions, but if we are honest and pragmatic we can understand that they are also biological beings who have evolved to notice seduction and respond to it. When a peacock does her dance, the male comes forward. When a cat is on heat and releases her pheromones and sings her cat like song, the males cats all come running. So likewise when a woman does the same we can not really be surprised that the men also come forward. Our culture is based around finding partners and sexual experiences, and flirting and trying to seduce a woman successfully is a part of life. Thats is what makes this question SO hard, because women DO want attention, and Do want to be seduced, but only by the right guy! What to do, I wish I had an answer that protected women more WHATEVER they choose to do, but really and truly I think we have accept the consequences of our action and not deny human nature at the same time. Just to be VERY clear, this opinion does not include abuse, groping or any kind of physical contact which in my opinion is totally unacceptable and that responsibility rests on the shoulders of men. </p> <center> <img src="https://steemitimages.com/0x0/https://steemitimages.com/DQmZR49XcTz1MrvVwVB25hWVtStNSULCRUdwb3dy3zqeAPc/divder.png"><br> <p><a href="https://steemit.com/tribesteemup/@kennyskitchen/the-8-pillars-of-tribesteemup-clarification-refinement-and-re-casting-the-spell"><img src="https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmRJymaqthw7kj7TA3N839RmM4KyBuM2iyB62vAk7XuGGg/tribe-steemup-member-banner2.jpg"><br> The 8 Pillars of @TribeSteemUp</a></p> <p> </p> <h1>@ecoTrain</h1> <h2><em>Supporting People Who Help <br> Make The World A Better Place</em></h2> <a href="steemit.com/@ecotrain"><img src="https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmPJZ3fi9L9T46o5JavG4kPQTvjNNh7SxqRxcqTjF6V1bY/driver.jpg"></a> <h2><em>Discover amazing people in the ecoTrain magazine at @ecoTrain</em></h2> <p> </p> </center>
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A bold question and wohld love to see the input on the subject. Looking forward to make one too...
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The biological imperatives are real, for both women desiring to be found attractive and men desiring to respond. it's an eternal dance, a poem, a song... and I don't think it will ever neatly fit into an intellectually constructed box. Me? Im happy that there is no clear answer and that a delicious tension remains. I say that as a woman who has also been violently raped, and yet who has come to accept that the myriad of signals we send out may be misheard, and that so many of our brothers are also frustrated, angry and desperately in need of intimacy and connection. Grateful for your perspectives.
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wow.. im SO sorry .. i was going to write at the end of this post, that maybe 80% or more of the women i have known have been abused.. it is one of the unspoken things that is vastly underestimated. i really love how you say about that 'delicious tension', what a way to put it! this was surely a hard post to write, im not even sure i know how i feel even after writing it! hugs to your perfectly healed arm <3
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Hugs back. :) It IS a delicious tension and will always be an art more than a science. We CAN heal and release the wounds we carry... and we are better, stronger women, men and lovers for it. The part of us which has been gouged and healed feels more deeply and holds a greater depth.
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Why would a women dress provocatively if she didn't want the attention?
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to feel good about herself, and get Looks and attention and the kind of attention she does want..
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So she does want attention? She wants looks but only from specific people? Lol 😂
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this assumes that women's presentations always have something to do with men.
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what an amazing place this is! Just amazing.
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This question cannot be answered. Your analysis misses... almost everything that is of real importance to the subject. "grab them by the pussy." -- a clip played over and over to disparage Chump. But, what was the whole sentence? It was something like "they let you grab them by the pussy." In order to answer this question, we have to frame it correctly. You have to add in hypergamy, the female sex drive. Women want to date up. They want the alpha man. And for these men they are outright sluts. Women will do anything, including have sex in front of others, for these guys. They will have sex with them on the night before their wedding. 20% of men have 80% of the sex. 40% of men have 20% of the sex. 40% of men have NO sex, no touching, no hand holding, no kissing, nothing. Women dress up for those top 20% of men. The next 40% of men can look but not touch. The bottom 40% of men shouldn't look. So, when you bring up this question, you are asking, what should the bottom 80% of men do? What should be their responsibility? Well, what do you say to a group of men who have had sex thrown at them in every advert all their lives, who have been sold the lie of marrying a good woman. Their entire world view is wrong. But, if we actually told them the truth, the world would burn. And i haven't even gotten into over-stimulation that is caused by the make-up and clothing. Sure, you can ask of a man to ignore stimulation, but can you push him past the breaking point and then tell him to control himself?
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well, there are a LOT of pretty wrong generalisations there.. most women will not do as you say.. but maybe some will. anyways.. the bottom line is .. as you say at the end.. that most men are sexually starved or desperate.. and fed a never ending stream of provocative messages.. and we cant really blame them.. that was <strong>actually</strong> my conclusion.. that we cant tell them to control themselves..
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> well, there are a LOT of pretty wrong generalisations there.. most women will not do as you say.. but maybe 20% will. That is why i started my response as i did. From actual statistics it is about 80% of women who would. It is the vast majority of women. But, we are a gynocentric society, so we never say anything bad about women. Take this for instance: From blood tests, 1/4th of babies born in the UK are not the father's. And that is just comparing O A B AB. not DNA. When asked if women would lie to a man about who's baby it was, 1/3 said they would. 1/3 said they wouldn't. 1/3 said they did. --- It is DNA programmed female nature. And, woman aren't even asked to control it anymore. Men are "bad" for even looking. But women get a free pass on all transgressions. So, as i said, to discuss this we have to delve into REAL female nature, and that gets you banned from every platform out there. The flag wars would be real even on this platform.
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i think this is what i was getting from your article and i have to 100% disagree. > anyways.. the bottom line is .. as you say at the end.. that most men are sexually starved or desperate.. and fed a never ending stream of provocative messages.. and we cant really blame them.. that was actually my conclusion.. that we cant tell them to control themselves.. the fact that men are sexually starved or desperate is not women's jobs. a high percentage of women never even have orgasms from vaginal intercourse from their parter as men don't take the time to learn about female anatomy. men are oversexualized yes, and not taught healthy outlets for that, or healthy communication/emotional patterns that would lead to better sex for those all around, but i disagree, i think we can blame them. and blame the culture. and by blame i really mean hold them to a higher standard, but through the word blame i am referring to the act of taking responsibility. if someone is perpetrating another person, the blame rests with them. as you've seen from @riverflows article answering this qotw, women get raped and molested no matter what they're wearing. if we can't tell men to control themselves, what else is there to do in this situation? for me, as a woman, i can tell you that that's the conclusion i've had to be made to live with. men can't control themselves so as a woman i have to limit and control my behavior. where men have more freedom and autonomy because, as a rule their bodies aren't sites of the potential for such gross violation, women have to be more aware of their surroundings. because men aren't safe and there is no culture of safety. especially as i read these comments and realize that "we can't tell them to control themselves" -- from a young age we absolutely need to tell them to control themselves. just like every woman is taught how to control herself....
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I think the rest of that quote was "They never even see it coming". that is predator talk, homie.
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predator talk? No, its just what all alpha men experience. People like rock stars have women throwing themselves at them. You know, Chump, a young, good looking billionaire. Women will do anything to get with that type. So, go look up some stories on ThemTube from the top 20% of men. And they all have stories of women doing all kinds of nasty things to get with them. I am sorry, there are two worlds. Men who are constantly bombarded with female attention. And the 80% who have to work hard to get a woman to look their way. Women stalking men happens far more than its opposite, but we, as a society, just ignore it. Just like we ignore males being raped. here is one of those ThemTube conversations: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UY5lYjfFHYg&t=915s
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>And i haven't even gotten into over-stimulation that is caused by the make-up and clothing. I'm pretty sure I'm in a minority here. But over-stimulation? I'm mostly just bored by most of the models I see. Maybe I'm just used to it or it's just my years worth meditation. I just don't see enough stimulation. Most of the time I see men rating 8 and higher out of 10 and I wouldn't sleep with those women even if I was paid to. Either way I believe that the defining trait of humanity is the ability to transcend boundaries. The natural state of homo Sapiens is basically being cave men or Amazonian/African tribes. But both of us have been using laptops, smartphones, air conditioning, air travel etc. The true humanity lies in taking control away from the nature and deciding one's own fate. So my solution would be to actually treat those men and women who can't control their urges/nature as a different species altogether. So basically I'm talking about a psycho-speciesism. Some might abhor the idea. But I believe that humanity has evolved to a point where biology itself cannot define our species and it is only going to get more complicated with a more cyberpunk future. PS: I just realized that I sound somewhat like Nietzsche who mentioned something about master morality and slave morality (or something similar) I haven't read much about it. So I'm not sure if I'm actually saying the same thing.
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I too find super-models... not so super. When most animals are in heat, it is quite obvious. In the human animal it is not as obvious, however, makeup is designed around making a woman look like she is in heat. So, what was once a once a month thing that was subtle, is now an all the time thing that is very pronounced. And yes, some people are able to overcome/manage their lustful urges better than others. Women are currently being taught to give into theirs, as it is female empowerment. (read self-destruction) ---- Man ... DNA responds to consciousness. Therefor, man can change his DNA. And so, change human nature. It is in fact happening right now. In a couple generations, there will be no war. War will be seen as shtupid, wasteful, unimaginative, and something like, if i wanted to blow up all my stuff and commit suicide, i would just blow up all my stuff and commit suicide. And there will be slight changes in mating strategies.
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> But I believe that humanity has evolved to a point where biology itself cannot define our species yes - mind you, i'm not sure why you are buying into a rating system, but i agree that humanity means taking control. YOu can't just follow base urges!!
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I live in a very rare subculture due to the woman I married. I chose my wife because of her modesty, expressed in every facet of her character including dress. She has a vivacious spirit, a friendly disposition, and can look a man in the eye and sometimes be sassy, but she understands true humility. Her spiritual directors and mentors throughout her life have modeled meekness and ego-death, having come to the place of surrender that they no longer need to impress anyone, defend themselves, nor do they need anything. If a woman sits down with a short skirt and uncrosses her legs, the carpet pattern on the floor seems to suddenly capture every man's attention. She is obviously ignorant of what she is doing, and should not be taken advantage of because of her naivete. However, most women in the community take great attention to their wardrobe and see to it that their chests, thighs, and shoulders are not paraded publicly for all to enjoy. the body is sacred and should be treated and viewed as sacred. that being said, there are men who make a great loud stink about modesty, creating strict rules for how long dresses must be, how a woman's hair must be done, etc. Fundamentalist Christians, Jews and Muslims seem to share the opinion that if they could just wrap the female body in enough layers it would cure their own hearts of lust. How could that possibly be?! who is responsible for your heart except for you? I find that the ones who are going around measuring skirts are often found with their hands up them. This is an intolerable hypocrisy! I intend to teach my daughters to respect their sacred vessels and to treat their bodies with respect, and to teach my sons that their hearts are their own responsibility. My sons will learn respect for women and all living things. I will teach my children about their individual rights, and about consent. there are so many nuanced aspects to human sexuality and power dynamics, many of which are not even intentionally taught, but there are plenty of ways to create a healthy culture for another generation. I would like to avoid both shame and lust- both of which are unhealthy attachments to form instead of essence.
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very nicely said sir! I think repression has its dark side.. and as you say it is the worst kind of hypocrisy! your children are Very lucky to have such a good Dad.. bless!
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Thank you for this piece @ecoalex and the topic. It is quite a good one and all i can say is your clothing and how you dress says a lot about you. It is a fact that no one can deny. So if you want to be treated like a lady and with respect then dress like one and vice versa.
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good post, @eco-alex. Thanks for bringing this up.
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Cool waters you are surfing here :-). I don't know about other guys and would love to know but the more provocative, the less it excites me.
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haha,. i know what you mean! its all about the way you carry yourself right!?
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@wwf you should be here
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Nice post, I am also unaffected by beautiful women. Women are definitely responsible for how they dress and portray themselves. Women dictate how they want to be perceived by how they carry themselves. That's really true for both gender.
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Both. Women dress provocatively in order to get attention. Otherwise, there is no reason for the various provocative clothes to be put on. They could wear things like mean, the cover up and aren't so tight. They do dress in low cut shirts showing cleavage because it draws attention, otherwise they could dress in another way that doesn't show cleavage. As men don't dress in the same way with low cut shirts because there is no sexually provocative purpose for it. Men need to be able to control themselves from raping women or assaulting them, but the provocative dressing stimulates attention and attraction. If women didn't want the attention or attraction, they could change how they dress and be more "conservative" or "modest" in exposing their sexualized attributes. The whole purpose of dressing provocatively is to draw attention.
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i agree.. i think my main point is about the kind of guy who is just really inappropriate or pushing the boundaries too far.. which happens a lot.. theres a difference between just looking and admiring, and someone not taking a hint and being a real pain in the ass! thanks for your inputs krnel!
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>Here's the thing... many men are unable to control themselves. <b>there are doctors who could help with that...</b> >Put a few men together and let a stunning woman walk past and see what happens! All eyes follow, and the guys will always mention it to each other afterwards in some kind of comment.. <b>Women do that too...</b> As for the responsibility and dressing appropriately... Who determines what is appropriate? You said it your self that we are multicultural in big cities now. When I dress up in the morning, do I need to think about all the different men my clothes may offend or attract? Some men are attracted by sneakers, SNEAKERS!!! Should I stop wearing sneakers? Some men are attracted by tight clothes, ok so only baggy clothes from now on. No cleavage and no skirts, only pants and shirts to my neck. Fine.. Oh, wait. I dont think so :) The problem is that we are all subjective and what you or your friend find attractive is not what some other man will like. How are we to please you all? I have an idea, screw pleasing you. Learn to control yourself or go see a doctor. Not you, you are lovely honey, but men who can not control themselves should seek professional help. I wonder if men are careful what they wear, they are not. I wonder why that is... And as for the animal world... All around animal kingdom, males are seducing females, not the other way around. Males have pretty shiny feathers, horns and are showing off in front of ladies. Why is it different for humans is beyond me. We should put men in sparkles, I vote for that :D Thank you for a wonderful read, you made some good points and it shows that you really tried to look at this from every angle. I respect your message that we should know and understand before we judge, that is always an important thing to know. Much love 💚
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thanks for your comment.. when i wrote about men making comments about a pretty woman i realise women also do that too.. i have seen it.. But,.. the whole Vibe of it when men do it is quite different. They say the most gross things and really like too much!! I was careful to word this question using the word provocative.. so to answer your question about whether you should have to think about whether you carry sneakers or not.. i would say not.. one thing i didnt mention in the post, which i think i could have.. is that its also about the way you carry yourself and present yourself.. if you are not being flirtatcious and really not dressed up to impress then that is a different thing.. women shouldn't, in theory, have to overthink this... but in practice.. we have to just realise how things work.. also it all depends on the person and what they can tollerate and deal with. Some women can just brush off some stupid guy, whereas another may get quite upset.. so generalising isnt really fair to this answer.. p.s id wear eye glitter <3
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i totally agree.
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We (both sexes) are all animals with a veneer of concousness and social awareness stretched thinly over the surface. Its not womens fault that they want to provoke men, and its not mens fault that they react; billions of years of evolution have resulted in that, with just a few thousands of years of culture trying to compete with it. However our animalistic urges do need to be contolled (by both men and women) and they offer no excuse for physically or emotionally hurting anyone else.
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> However our animalistic urges do need to be contolled (by both men and women) and they offer no excuse for physically or emotionally hurting anyone else. Yes!!
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> Whilst men react to different degrees to this kind of stimulus, its far to say that most men are wired in the same way. They have this kind of instinct to seduce a woman... they have a carnal desire to procreate and have sex with different women, even if they are married. It's fair to say that MOST men cheat (may women too!), and whether or not they are married, they are always on the look out for someone else. I know this because of ALL the men i have ever known, VERY VERY VERY few have been faithful. I'm sorry, but I disagree, and a lot. The problem is that they've been told it's okay to follow their instincts and primal desires, because that's their make up. However, it's because they haven't been raised to control themselves - it's just another symptom of a hedonistic, ego driven, desire culture that allows for men to have these freedoms and not woman and then say 'it's in their nature'. It's just an excuse. You can't compare human beings to animals - we have the ability to reason and have self control. There's never, ever any excuse for unwanted attention especially when the message is loud and clear. Sure, woman might want attention - but they never WANT men to behave in a way that is harmful i.e rape etc. I guess it depends what you're classifying as unwanted attention. To be honest, it's a cultural thing and it's an identification thing and this seems to have crossed cultures in the favour of men too. Men are socialised to demand, woman to take it. It's everywhere and all pervasive in the media. If men could control themselves and tell their boys how to handle their desires - and i'm saying mothers too have this responsiblity - then maybe we wouldnt have this question in the first place. It's not just woman who are responsible, it's men, it's the culture, it's all of us.
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yeah .. i can see what you are saying.. just look at some asian cultures,, like i think Japan, where the men would not dream of acting out like they do in many parts of the world .. they have learned respect and self control.. with some trade off's maybe.. i think a lot of this has to do with sexual repression, and unfulfilled desire. I think your average joe doesn't know how to make love to his woman, and just knows how to shag.. so his sex life is stagnant and boring.. and his wife or partner all too familiar.. and then, boom. . he's out of control .. because the whole culture is out of balance .. and that is also what it is.. a symptom of a very sick culture.. a very ill society indeed.. just to also clarify. . when i wrote this i used the words "unwanted attention".. I think it was a good choice of words, and to me meant none physical attention. .. let's say at worst a guy pinching your ass and getting all in your personal space.. and not backing off after you tell him No. Generally though it meant things like wolf whistling, saying inappropriate things, or just being an ass.. My Personal feeling is also that this is about a cultural thing. We live in ever mixed societies.. and have to ask ourselves to what extent we are willing to compromise to show our respect for others that we co exist with. I saw a facebook post the other week from an israeli girl who was really horrified that she took flack and was asked to cover up whilst wearing fairly revealing clothing on the train.. The train was shared by both religious and non-religious jews and others.. and the religious jews, especially the men find it very offensive and difficult to witness. So my feeling was that she could have just taken a shawl or something to look a little less enticing, and taken it off when out of an enclosed public space.. this might be a good QOTW in itself.. "To what extent should we compromise our lifestyle or personal choices to satisfy the need of others" .. or something!
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I guess for woman, we can't help but extend 'unwanted attention' into it's worst possible outcome, because that's very real for us. It's more a problem with the question and how it can be interpreted - I just posted mine, and it was tricky to say the least. I do agree it's cultural, and I wrote as much on mine too. I'm offended by girls who wear revealing things on trains - I mean, come on - !! I hate it when girls wear bikinis into shops (my husband doesn't) - it's just that we don't need to see that, thanks, in that situation! I definitely don't buy that 'I should wear what i want, where I want, in any situation' because that's just not polite. Mind you, why can men go topless and not woman? See, it's a big, big topic. But absolutely, we should show respect for others. As for unfulfilled desires, I do think it's more about NOT KNOWING HOW TO HANDLE our desires. Why should every desire be filled? Shouldn't we be looking at how to handle the range of human emotions we have and how to deal with them? If your sexual desire isn't fulfilled in a relationshiop, that doesn't mean you have an excuse to have an affair (sorry, I know this is personal, and tbh, I've been guilty in my youth too, and I'd like to argue I didn't know better, and I suffered guilt for a long time because of it - and J's Dad did the same, which affected his kids for a long time too) - maybe it should be about looking at the range of emotions that led you to want to act on that primal desire? And talk it through with one's partner/call it off before doing something even more to cause damage? It's definitely a cultural thing, and that means WE ALL HAVE RESPONSIBILITY to do something about it. Many woman will argue it's all harmless - but I would argue they haven't been the ones subject to abuse and rape and the worse extensions of 'unwanted attention'.
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well well said.
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As a guy, I sort of understanding where your coming from, but as you say, we're all different. To understand if a woman is being provocative or not, first off, you need to understand what a woman thinks is provocative - and you could only understand that, if you understood what they think a man finds attractive, assuming we are speaking hetorsexual here :) .... hence the crack whore in the photo. Sexuality and sexual provocation is the most subtle of things. To really know the answer to your question, you would have to know how your hormones are dressed rather than the person that contains them. Personally for me its back and shoulder muscles - show me a healthy Trapezius or Deltoid any day :) Some 'women' that I have met, find things like 'wrists', shoulders and 5 day beard growth attractive. Its always seemed to me that people over estimate the power of presentation, and underestimate the power of those unseen forces that lay beneath the skin. You can certainly make an impression with dress, and you can shock or make a statement, but if you believe that's going to get you laid, then that would be a rather unfortunate mindset. Rather than associate someones dress with their sexual prowess or vibrance, we could alternatively consider it a gauge of just how desperate someone has become. Anyway, very brave of you to post this Alex :) U crazy man !
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