![nothanks.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmcP2DMdGACYM5JGtJU38QnBLtun9WbhLNyMugcUkPgb6U/nothanks.jpg) <center>[Image](https://theamericangenius.com/business-news/3-quick-rules-saying-work/)</center> *"Be a good kid"*. More or less we have all been raised with that phrase. I can still hear it in my ears. But what makes actually a kid, a good kid? First of all obedience, then politeness and to a further extend acceptance. I cannot remember how I interpreted the word "good" back then. However I believe that it was the opposite of being naughty. When you feel like being naughty though and someone asks you to behave, then the whole thing may be translated into your mind to "Oh so I have to please others". Of course it is not that tragic after all to put limits to a kid. Kids need limits in order to feel safe and not being constantly out of control. The problem starts when this label of the "good kid" follows you or even worse hunts you in your adult life. When you feel that you owe to others and through the acceptance of others you accept yourself. Let alone the expression of anger which is not "allowed" at all. And this road of hell is being built by "Yeses". Thank god I realised that this is not the case at all in an early age as my parents -the ones who once used to tell me to be nice- explained to me that my value doesn't depend on what others think about me. (Thank you for that mum and dad). Saying "NO" whenever you feel it, unlocks the balanced self and a balanced life. We cannot satisfy everyone and we don't have to satisfy everyone. By always making other people's favours and accepting from minor to more important things, you're only heading towards losing who you are. We need to say no sometimes. Whether this is to an invitation to go out, a collaboration, a phone call we decline, a job, or anything else. There is no need to suppress yourself in order to make someone happy. Ok sometimes you may need to help a loved one and it sounds reasonable to make an exception there. But overall people don't even know that you're doing them a favour. They don't know that you want to say no but instead you're saying yes in order to please them. They get what you give them. A yes means a yes. That simple. In addition humans tend to "expand" more an more towards your personal space as long as you let them to. So some nos show to others who you are, what you want and what you don't.
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Από τότε που άρχισα να λέω «όχι» αρχίσαν όλοι να με υπολογίζου…. να μη με θεωρούν δεδομένο… και στο τέλος παιχνιδάκι Το όχι είναι μια μαγική λέξη… :)))
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Έτσι ακριβώς είναι Νίκο μου.. Με τα ναι δεν σε υπολογίζουν οι άλλοι δυστυχώς...
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Saying No to people sometimes differentiate you for being just a People - Pleaser. Something i use to do, until i realized and stoped.
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Exactly!! And I'm glad you stopped it since there are many people literally suffering and suffocating from the "yes" disease..
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You can't make everyone happy unless you sell ice-cream... No, is indeed a powerful word... And there is better one ... NO WAY !!! :)
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hahah that's true! And yes No Way is way more satisfying sometimes!! :))
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For me this wasn't an issue at all. I never remember myself saying only yes and do things that i don't like ( except at home, "clean your room :P") Aside from that even if the family is crappy and make the kid being like that, after a certain age and during the period that we live in, i will stop blaming the family and start blaming him/her Taking for example that >When you feel that you owe to others and through the acceptance of others you accept yourself. I have seen tons of people that want the acceptance of others and thus do what the others are doing, check emo,goth,some people in the rap, metal,rock community,social justice warriors etc etc etc etc etc etc (too many etc :p) Those kind of people are far from it was "mommy's and daddy's" fault, they are grownups now, they have free internet they can check and learn whatever they want. If they keep saying only yes it's entire up to them
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You have a point! Adults have the ability -or at least I think they do- to filter everything in a more mature way and act according to an "adult" mind. However sometimes some behaviours are really hard to change.. I hope that eventually everyone finds his/her path in life in a way that sets them free...
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