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Hi Steemers, I came into Steemit the way I came into this world ..naked to the fundamentals of how things are. For this reason I didn't do a proper introduction and it has for long played on my mind. So, despite being with Steemit for couple months, I want to take the time to explain who I am and purpose on Steemit. - I want to inspire, motivate and help my fellow Steemit Peers. 

To people who know me, I am often more than a friend. I am there source of guidance through darkness. I am proudly the rock to many of my friends and family and their source of council.  

<h1> How did I become like this <h1>

I grew up very, very quick. My parents have a very dysfunctional marriage, which they keep just to function as an entire family, for the sake of my siblings and I (supposedly). Consequently, being in the close perimeter of each others daily poison, and in constant battle with one another, they developed various mental disorders such as Depression, Anxiety, and Bipolar. As you can imagine, this is not a healthy environment for raising children. Inevitably, being trapped in their own toxic minds and wars, my parents neglected my siblings and I. 

As the eldest, of children of four, I felt like a baby cub thrown into the jungle, left to fend for himself. Subsequently, within my adolescence years in particular, finding myself came at a large cost. I fell into crime related behavior, I surrounded myself with troubled people, I was heavily addicted to drugs for years ..that I had to teach myself how to speak properly again. Long story short ..I learnt every rule in the book the hard way. 

<h1>Becoming a Father Before Having Kids<h1> 

It was my 18th birthday that everything really changed. This particular birthday, my parents decided to cancel. I did not receive any gifts, cards or verbal pleasantries. However, I did receive a birthday card from my three younger siblings, it said ..Happy Birthday Dad. I still remember to this day that gut wrenching feeling I had in my stomach. I was disgusted! I was disgusted at myself because my three beautiful siblings saw this 'no good, drug addict, waste of space' the closest thing to a father. To this point, I saw myself as a lousy brother, I never imagined them seeing me as a father. Therefore, it was at that moment I decided to step up, stop living in the shadows of my circumstances and start dictating them. 

From the age of 18, I began to get myself clean, and taught myself how to function like a normal human being. I stopped crime related incidents as I did not want my siblings 'father' to get into trouble. I did not want them to be left to fend alone, after all ..that's how I felt ..father and motherless. In a sense, I stepped up my game. I even began indulging in their lives more, guiding them from the precious mistakes I had made with my life ....
  .....You see, making all the crazy mistakes in the book allowed me to see things in various perspectives. Taught me first hand what is right and wrong, why and how the mechanics of decisions shapes peoples perceptions, values and reason. This allowed me to inspire, motivate and encourage my siblings. Additionally, it also empowered me to help them. 

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<h1>The Counselor with no Education<h1>

Although things developed between my siblings and I, my parents were still a tragedy. Even to this day, I remember during one of the thousand interventions held by me with them, I asked ..." do you guys even know what subjects your kids have chosen at school?"  ...I asked in attempt to make them realize how neglected us children were by them. Unsurprisingly, my parents could not even respond to that question as they did not know the answer.  - Attempt successful 
Although the attempt was a success, that did not prevent a further million interventions. 
Being empowered to really protect my siblings, I felt responsible to shield them from my parents wars and toxic behaviors. Whenever my siblings came under fire from my parents I would always come to their aid, whenever my siblings felt the distress of my parents wars with one another ..I did my best with interventions or one on one conversations to take out the fires. - This is where I became a counselor. 

Listening to my Mother in particular, talk about her pain really taught me the mechanics of understanding mental disorders and pain. Listening to your mother talking about how she hates your own father, her troubled childhood, her depression, anxiety, even her suicidal thoughts really educated me in a way no book could ever. I learnt pattern of behaviors, how behaviors are a cause and effect of a thought. I learnt that the only way people change is through their relationship with love and fear! I learnt so damn much, all before the age of 20! 

Now obviously being seen as father by your siblings and a counselor by your parents changes you as a person. You grow up quick, one way I grew up quick was the way my heart beat. It no longer beat the way it did when I was a troubled child. All the in house experiences made me grow a big heart, and a conscious of my actions. The pain I bear in the house made me warm towards people, it made want nobody to feel stranded as I have, and help those who need it. - That is why I have become the motivator, inspiration, adviser and rock for my beloved friends and family now. 

<h1>My Steemit Purpose<h1>

This is why I have done a re-introduction page, to share my background, because I want you to understand and trust me. Which brings me to my Steemit purpose. In just recent times, I have taken up life coaching through emails, where I now even help strangers who I have been referred too.  just-an-opinion@hotmail.com  (if you want life coaching.)

However I want to take it even further, by providing life coaching, mental health content on Steemit. I want to help people find the light within the dark tunnel they find themselves. For that, I am grateful to @kamalee for introducing me to a platform that allows me to do so. Additionally, I also intend to use the Dtube platform, to go through life coaching emails (with consent and anonymity of course) to speak about the issue in hand and then provide my advice ..just for those who are going through something similar can also pull through the current. 
 
Life does not get easier, but as individuals we can get stronger. I am passionate in helping others, I feel it is my life purpose, so from here on out, I promise to deliver in depth content and a hand to any Steemit friend in need of assistance.  

just-an-opinion@hotmail.com

Thank you