Losing Dad.... Part I by katdvine

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· @katdvine ·
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Losing Dad.... Part I
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Mum and Dad were visiting friends for a meal. They were only half-way through the meal when Dad excused himself to go to the bathroom. 

He was gone for a while, and Mum went to check on him. She knocked on the bathroom door. Suddenly Dad rushed out white as a sheet and insisted that they leave immediately...he seemed in a panic but wouldn't elaborate any further. You can imagine what their hosts where thinking..."was there something wrong with the food? "" Is he sick? ". Poor people thought they had poisoned him! (Mum did explain later). 

Apparently, no sooner had Dad sat on the toilet when he had what he thought was diarrhoea...but it didn't feel right...he looked, and the bowl was full of blood! He had passed blood a few times before, perhaps the equivalent of quarter of an eggcup. He had thought that his haemorrhoids had come back (he had previously had haemorrhoids cauterised and didn't want to go through it again),  but this was a lot more. 


The family doctor referred Dad to hospital where he had tests. He underwent both a sigmoidoscopy and colonoscopy, and a biopsy was done on a sample taken. He went home to wait for the result. 

Two days later Mum and Dad sat together in the Consultant's office. They were told that polyps were discovered, and the biopsy had shown malignant cancer cells. Surgery was the only option, and although this usually yielded good results, Dad's cancer was too advanced. For him it may just buy a little time. 😞 

The Consultant stepped out of the office to allow Mum and Dad a little privacy, and to decide about the surgery. At first they just felt numb as they discussed the surgical option. But as the shock really hit home, the tears just flowed as they lamented the unfairness of it all. Everything they had planned for the future, travel, holidays, theatre, concerts...not a hope. Now, every single second that Dad had left was precious. 

Dad was booked in for surgery in three days time, and the Consultant suggested that they spend the time telling relatives and friends, and making a Will. 

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You can find the Introduction to this story here:


https://steemit.com/story/@katdvine/losing-dad-part-i

COLORECTAL CANCER
Colorectal cancer is a malignant tumour that grows from the inner wall of the large intestine. 
It is the third leading cause of cancer in the world affecting both men and women. 

Ulcerative colitis and colon polyps are the cause...particularly the latter. 

Sigmoidoscopy or Colonoscopy with biopsy confirmation of cancerous tissue are used to diagnose the cancer. 

Removal of colon polyps can aid in the prevention of Colorectal cancer. Treatment depends on the location, size and extent of spread, as well as the health (physical and mental) of the patient. 

Early stage Colorectal cancer is typically treatable by surgery alone. It is one of the most treatable cancers and has good success rates if caught in time.

Symptoms :
.  Change in bowel habits including diarrhoea or constipation. 
.  Rectal bleeding or blood in stool. 
.  Persistent abdominal discomfort, cramps, gas or pain. 
.  A feeling of bowel not emptying completely. 
.  Weakness or fatigue.
.  Unexplained weight loss.
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@riostarr ·
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nice, thanks for sharing
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@koalafamily ·
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Oh my god 😔. How long ago your Dad passed away? I am so sorry. Hug! 💛
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@katdvine · (edited)
He actually passed in 1992, although it still feels like yesterday. But I still see so many people diagnosed with this treatable illness...I think he would want me to do this. Perhaps someone who has lost someone recently, or thinks they or a relative may have it will read it. 
Dad could be alive today (he was only 69 when he died) if only he had gone to the doctor in time. 
I just got a reply from a guy here who said he probably wouldn't want to know. By the time I finish Dad's story, I think he may change his mind. 
Losing my mother recently brought all of this back. She had Alzheimers....but that's another story. 
Thanks for the hug...I still miss him so much.
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@koalafamily ·
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It is a real tricky thing, those symptoms can stand for something really bad or just a part of getting old. And nobody wants to go to the doctor whether you don't wanna feel embarrassed cuz it was "nothing" or you don't wanna go cuz we fear a really bad diagnosis. And men don't wanna go and see the doctor cuz it's kinda not manly. .. by the way ... here is another hug...a big Bavarian bear hug!💛💛
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@maninayton ·
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It does seem to be a male thing that men leave medical conditions until they are worse. Head in sand syndrome or toughing it out? I don't know, but I must admit to being guilty of it in the past. Something like passing blood though? I think I would definitely visit the docs asap. Thanks for raising awareness of this @katdvine.
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@katdvine ·
Ooh...thank you
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@jlufer ·
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I'm sorry, my dear friend, @katdvine, I also go through that.
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@katdvine ·
The pain doesn't ever go completely. But a piece of our loved ones lives on within us. And everything my father taught me...I know he is proud of me.
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@karenb54 ·
My heart goes out to you, must be awful to have to watch him go through this
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@katdvine ·
As time went on it was,  plus I was faced with a heart-rending decision. 
Losing Mum ( another series of stories) just brought everything back. 
I learned so much more about them both in the last few months.
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@karenb54 ·
Bless  them both,  remember your good memories  of them :)
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@animal-shelter ·
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Oh, I'm so sorry:( I've lost my father in January this year, I understand what you felt
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@katdvine ·
Thank you. The heartache fades a little, but some pain remains always. Words, places, little things sometimes awaken the tears...but then there so many wonderful memories too. And a piece of him lives forever in me and my children.
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