If I could write to future kiddos, what would I say? What would you say? by kubbyelizabeth

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If I could write to future kiddos, what would I say? What would you say?
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## I wonder about my future children

If I could write a letter to my son, which would be a letter for myself wondering about him. I can't imagine raising boys. I've never been one of those. I would have a lot more questions than he. Thankfully, my mother raised my brother she will be a great resource on the topic. As well as my husband, as he has personal experience. Such silly thoughts, I wonder if men wonder about raising girls like I do about boys?

I often wonder about, what his name be? Who will he look up to? Will he look like me? Will he act like his father? What will my sons and daughter grow up to be? Will they live out my dreams? Will their dreams out dream my dreams for them? I wonder why I think more about my children than my husband? 

### You could have children now, you know?

Physical I could have a child. Personally, I could be married. The shock value in hearing these comments have faded. What hasn't is the desire to have a child or a marriage with just any partner? I miss the days where having children implied that you were married. I missed the society that encouraged couples to wed not long after dating and frown upon divorce. 

Today's society is so far removed from those times and in many ways for the better. As well intended as those principles were intended to be it doesn't elude the quality of those relationships. Relationships in this century have become quite shallow, but at least they don't hide it as much now as they did then.

Do thoughts like these or similar cross your mind? Maybe they did until you were married and or had children. Share your thoughts with me! 

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@josediccus ·
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A lot of questions asked, so many rhetorical ones too. You see the thoughts about what the future holds sometimes makes one muse. I've definitely not had children and sometimes I wonder if I end up with the woman of my dream, how many children would we even birth,
How tender they'd look when I hold him/her. They're endless.

You made me muse this morning I really enjoyed reading this.
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@kubbyelizabeth ·
I had a dream about my future kids names. ๐Ÿ˜‚ dreaming can be fun sometimes
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@empress-eremmy ·
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Hiya Kubby. I think most boys tend to be attached to their moms... At least from what I've observed 

>I missed the society that encouraged couples to wed not long after dating and frown upon divorce.

Relationships these days are indeed quite shallow, but I don't think it's for the better. There was a lot of hypocrisy then, but I don't think that's died now... The general acceptance of current structures simply makes it easier to be hypocritical
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@kubbyelizabeth ·
Times and social norms are constantly changing and not always improving. I would say they make broken principles seem normal and force it to be acceptable.
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@mayib ·
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I don't have kids yet, and I often wonder whether I should because I feel the world isn't safe anymore. The thought of raising kids in a world full of mentally depraved people makes me cringe, and I feel I would be doing my unborn kids a favor if I don't bring them into this world at all.

Personally, I would really like to see a world where being married does not necessarily mean having kids. This way, people won't be selfish in their reasons for having kids and would always put their unborn kids first before they think about themselves.
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@kubbyelizabeth ·
It amazes me how many broken families think children will fix their marriages. It wonโ€™t and only purpose driven families with hope in Christ jesus can over come anything this crazy world throughs at us.
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@snowpea ·
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For some reason Mr. T came into my head for the letter I would write my future children:

*Don't do drugs!*
*Drink your milk!*
*Stay in school!*
*I pity the fool!*

๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

Then again I already have my kids, maybe that's why I didn't put much thought into this comment.
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@snowpea ·
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Hahaha! Mr. T is talking to me! This totally made my day. Thanks @o07! :D
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@kubbyelizabeth ·
Lol, how many little ones do you have?
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@snowpea ·
Five, which is a very noisy and overwhelming experience haha!
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@choogirl · (edited)
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I don't have thoughts of non-existent children. Or a husband actually. That life sounds terrible to me.

If I did have kids, I'd probably tell them to stop being little shits.
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@kubbyelizabeth ·
Children and husband sounds like a prison sentence until it becomes more than the fear youโ€™ve built it up to be. Iโ€™m still holding out hope that one day youโ€™ll find a life long husband. :)
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@choogirl ·
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Haha, K. We'll see how that goes given I'm so looking forward to living on my own again.

At least the fertility ship is fast sailing away from me so that's probably not something I have to worry for too much longer. Come on early menopause! &#129310;
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@o07 · (edited)
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Hey Kubby ๐Ÿ‘‹ 

After reflecting on your post...

I think not having my dad around when I was young, has certainly made me appreciate the relationship I have with my mother.

Idolisation and respect can also come from a third party, and Iโ€™m a big fan of the big brother or sister model in society.

With no kids of my own, I find being there to help support someone is a great feeling when you can make a difference.

Itโ€™s something that really helped me when I was younger, and now I have the ability to give back.

I donโ€™t spend time thinking about the kids I might have down the track.

In saying this, I do keep a positive outlook of being able to help shape young lives for the better.

It doesnโ€™t even matter if we werenโ€™t cut from the same cloth, as long as I can be a good influence.

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@kubbyelizabeth ·
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You said it all. Having the ideal family is t always reality, but choosing to mentor others from our own experience still shapes the principles of family that people need. You will be a great dad one day, because your a great big brother now, because you invest in peopleโ€™s lives, and because you are initial about guarding/shaping friendships. :D
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