We know that how parenting affects a child's development, from reading to infants to helping with schoolwork to enunciating values as the child grows, parents exert enormous influence over their children's personality, success, and overall happiness. But unknowingly we can do some mistakes, you and any of us can be such parents or guardians.
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## What is helicopter parenting

Helicopter parent means parents who hover over children like helicopters. Control them more, pay more attention to them, protect them more, stay with them most of the time. Although it is necessary to give the right guidance to the children in every way in the changing times, the helicopter parent stays together in every task of the child, such as school tests, choosing friends, going for walks and playing etc.



Every parent is protective of their child, but many parents become helicopter parents due to many reasons.

**Fear of failure**: In this age of fierce competition, many parents are left behind, thinking that the child should not be left behind. They feel that by paying more attention to them, the child will be successful.

**Engagement or concern**: Seeing the state of the world economy, many parents get worried about how the future of the child will be. They are engaged with the child so that the child does not become depressed if he fails.
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**Over Compensation**: Parents who were neglected in childhood want to compensate by giving more love, more time to their child.

**Seeing other parents**: Seeing other parents busy with children's work, many times parents feel that they too interfere in their child's work.

## Benefits of helicopter parenting


Helicopter Parents are involved with children all the time, so they know where their children are, what they are doing, who are their friends, it is also good in terms of security. It is good to take care of children, monitor them, get them working with them. A child develops a feeling of being loved, accepted, which builds his personality. There is a possibility of progress in it.



Helicopter parents are very positive towards children. They do not let them work, they do their work before that. You can also learn by examining some things:

* Do you pick up the child every morning to go to school / college?

* Do you go after him when he goes to college or school, see from a distance? Do you keep in constant contact with his teachers?

* Do you argue with the teacher for the marks given in the test?

* Do you feed the older child by hand?

* Do you even do small jobs of that yourself?

* When you lose in a game or a fight in a colony, do you go and fight on your own instead of a child?

* Do you always feel the fault of the judges if the child fails?

* Do you keep searching for a job on your own by taking the bio data of the child after passing it from college?

* Do you get upset as soon as the child gets sick?

* Can you not see your children unhappy? Do you never let children go out in the sun, dust or crowd, do not let them play in the mud?

* Other people's bad eyes are always on your child, do you feel like this?


* Do you constantly follow the child? Keep him doing various kind of courses?

If the answer to all the above questions is 'yes' then you are or are going to become a helicopter parent. Wait, think, all things are bad.
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## The consequences of helicopter parenting

Parents who tie the shoes of children, pick up plates, pack lunches, their children are unable to become self-reliant both physically and mentally.

The child is not able to keep his own side because the parents are already speaking in his favor.
The child is unable to handle challenge and failure at times. His self-esteem decreases.

Such children do not learn to face the adverse situations because parents are present to protect them from every bad situation.

It is necessary for such children to meet the expectations of the parents and if they are not successful, they go into deputation.

Such children are never able to take the credit of being successful because they get success due to the parents.

Remember, you can be the best friend of all of her, but your thinking of keeping her safe at all times will block her personality development. He will not be able to face the struggle of life.


## Do not become overprotective

Remember how you grew up, did not your parents teach you to take defeat and win equally? Didn't they say 'no problem, ant is dead' when you fell? Didn't you explain to 'settle yourself' when you put up a complaint with friends about a fight?
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Break yourself, test your behavior. If you are becoming overprotective then stop, change yourself.

Quit going extreme. Let the child handle problems, situations.

Inform the child not dictate. Tell the child about the positive and negative effects of everything, let him take the decision himself.


Do not take all the credit for the success of the child. Let him realize that he has done good or bad.

Do not defend the child at all times. Let him realize his mistake.

The child is undoubtedly the star of your eyes, but over protection will harm him, not benefit.

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Thanks for reading.