陌生人见面一般都会互相通报姓名,这样才算正式认识。这种“通名之交”其实古来有之,苏舜钦有首诗中就写道:“有士不相识,通名叩余舟。”可见,从古至今,见面后相互之间通报姓名都是一种礼节。 《弟子规》提出:"人问谁,对以名。吾与我,不分明。" 别人问自己是谁,应该把自己的名字告诉对方,因为只说我或者吾之类的人称代词,会让对方难以清楚地分辨出来到底是谁。 《弟子规》指出,在日常生活中,有一些不确定的人称回复往往会造成不必要的误会,所以在他人询问自己姓名的时候,我们应该简洁明了地据实以告,而不是含糊不清地以人称代词代替,这不仅不利于社交,也是极其不礼貌的行为。 所以,在与人交往的过程中,我们要在他人询问时清楚地告知对方自己的身份信息,一方面是因为这是人际交往过程中的基本礼貌,另一方面则是为了方便接下来的沟通交流。含糊其辞只会让对方怀疑自己的素质和诚意,不利于交流目标的达成。 古时候,上门拜访一般需要提前给主家投送拜帖,拜帖中写明自己的姓名、身份、拜访的具体时间、拜访的大概目的等内容,也称“拜谒”,这是通名之礼更为正规的体现。而主家在收到拜帖之后,会根据拜帖内容初步定下接待工作,包括接待的规格以及时间等。如此双方达成一致,见面的时候才能沟通得更为顺畅。这种形式延伸至现代,变成了登门拜访之前的电话约定。当我们要去某人家拜访之时,提前打电话告知对方并预约时间是基本的礼貌,这样一方面可以防止主人不在家而“碰壁”,另一方面也可以让主人做好待客准备。要知道,不请自来的“不速之客”往往是很难受到欢迎的。所以,在初次与人交往交流时,主动告知自己的姓名是礼貌沟通的第一步。 事实上,通名之礼古已有之,也是现代社会所提倡的礼节。从“拜帖”到“名片”,从“拜谒”到“预约”,可以看到有些礼仪的生命力十分强大,这也从侧面证明了这些礼仪的实用性和重要性。而在现实生活中,很多人不愿意大方主动地告知他人自己的姓名,有时候不是因为不礼貌、没修养,只是有的人不习惯自己介绍自己的名字,或许还可能是因为害羞等多方面的原因,这些都需要我们在人际交往中将其克服。 在实际生活中,我们还需要礼貌地回复他人的询问,这一点在电话沟通中显得尤为重要。曾经有这么一个笑话,说是某人打电话,对方问:“您是谁啊?”这人极其不耐烦地回答:“是我啊!”对方一头雾水,继续问:“您是?”这人气急败坏地说:“就是我啊,居然连我的声音都记不起来了。哎呀,别说那么多废话,我跟你说啊……”足足说了两三分钟,然后问:“听懂了吗?”对方却说:“听是听懂了,只是……您打错电话了。”这人一看手机,发现果然是拨错了一个号码。试想一下,如果这个人早在对方询问的时候,就礼貌地告知对方自己的名字,对方知道了不是自己认识的人,可能当即就告诉那人他打错了电话,也不至于有后面的对话,平白浪费了许多的时间和精力。可见,礼仪礼貌很多时候不仅是修养的体现,还是便人便己的妙方。 所以,姓名是自身形象的“名片”,是发展感情的“敲门砖”。主动告知自己姓名是交友的第一步,有的时候我们还应该及时告知对方自己的姓名,从而避免产生一些不必要的误会。 # 本帖同步首发 [ 有士不相识,通名叩余舟 ](https://steemit.com/@longye/20200728tongming) # 最近新帖 1. [ 欲速则不达 ](https://steemit.com/@longye/20200727buda) 2. [ 礼节者,仁之貌 ](https://steemit.com/@longye/20200726liren) 2. [ 疾恶若巷伯,好贤如缁衣 ](https://steemit.com/@longye/20200725yifu) 2. [ 先敬罗衣后敬人 ](https://steemit.com/@longye/20200724yizhuang) 2. [ 老吾老以及人之老,幼吾幼以及人之幼 ](https://steemit.com/@longye/20200723laoyou) 2. [ 不卑不亢 ](https://steemit.com/@longye/20200722beikang) 2. [ 无礼不立 ](https://steemit.com/@longye/20200721lili) 2. [ 至乐莫如读书,至要莫如教子 ](https://steemit.com/@longye/20200720jiaozi) 2. [ 龙爷教子:乐趣教育从成语故事开始 ](https://steemit.com/@longye/20200611chengyu) 2. 总是要快出第一步,既然孙哥来改造steem,那就有的赚 [ steem ](https://steemit.com/hive-180932/@longye/steem) | [ hive ](https://hive.blog/hive-180932/@longye/steem)
post_id | 86,863,065 | ||||||
---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
author | longye | ||||||
permlink | 20200728tongming | ||||||
category | hive-165526 | ||||||
json_metadata | {"canonical_url":"https:\/\/hive.blog\/hive-165526\/@longye\/20200728tongming","community":"hive-165526","app":"beempy\/0.24.5","links":["https:\/\/steemit.com\/@longye\/20200727buda","https:\/\/steemit.com\/@longye\/20200611chengyu","https:\/\/hive.blog\/hive-180932\/@longye\/steem","https:\/\/steemit.com\/@longye\/20200724yizhuang","https:\/\/steemit.com\/@longye\/20200720jiaozi","https:\/\/steemit.com\/hive-180932\/@longye\/steem","https:\/\/steemit.com\/@longye\/20200728tongming","https:\/\/steemit.com\/@longye\/20200721lili","https:\/\/steemit.com\/@longye\/20200726liren","https:\/\/steemit.com\/@longye\/20200725yifu","https:\/\/steemit.com\/@longye\/20200723laoyou","https:\/\/steemit.com\/@longye\/20200722beikang"],"tags":["chinese","hnt","zzan","lifestyle","dblog","upfundme","marlians","aaa","spt","actnearn","palnet","neoxian","liv","iv","creativecoin","steemleo","mediaofficials","lassecash","busy","wherein","partiko","sct","sct-cn","sct-freeboard","cn-reader","cn","hk","tw","cn-marlians","cn-curation"]} | ||||||
created | 2020-07-28 04:31:30 | ||||||
last_update | 2020-07-28 04:31:30 | ||||||
depth | 0 | ||||||
children | 2 | ||||||
net_rshares | 102,923,326,272,478 | ||||||
last_payout | 2020-08-04 04:31:30 | ||||||
cashout_time | 1969-12-31 23:59:59 | ||||||
total_payout_value | 0.000 SBD | ||||||
curator_payout_value | 35.733 SBD | ||||||
pending_payout_value | 0.000 SBD | ||||||
promoted | 0.000 SBD | ||||||
body_length | 2,101 | ||||||
author_reputation | 288,403,150,312,661 | ||||||
root_title | 有士不相识,通名叩余舟 | ||||||
beneficiaries |
| ||||||
max_accepted_payout | 1,000,000.000 SBD | ||||||
percent_steem_dollars | 10,000 | ||||||
author_curate_reward | "" |
voter | weight | wgt% | rshares | pct | time |
---|---|---|---|---|---|
mangou007 | 0 | 4,135,688,219 | 2.6% | ||
gerber | 0 | 57,880,034,719 | 12% | ||
ezzy | 0 | 795,446,851,670 | 12% | ||
exyle | 0 | 1,190,652,890,955 | 12% | ||
bert0 | 0 | 13,977,740,519 | 2.6% | ||
taspingo | 0 | 2,416,865,187 | 100% | ||
apoloo1 | 0 | 6,345,174,095 | 10% | ||
matzep | 0 | 0 | 100% | ||
neuehorizonte | 0 | 0 | 100% | ||
topzehn | 0 | 3,971,716 | 100% | ||
filme | 0 | 0 | 100% | ||
wissenschaft | 0 | 59,129,581 | 100% | ||
steemvote | 0 | 470,268,167,275 | 28.74% | ||
steemtools | 0 | 0 | 100% | ||
steemwin | 0 | 0 | 100% | ||
karja | 0 | 489,209,413,904 | 25% | ||
tipu | 0 | 23,529,062,687,335 | 55.36% | ||
accelerator | 0 | 62,378,006,196 | 12% | ||
secrettv | 0 | 0 | 100% | ||
kidstv | 0 | 0 | 100% | ||
jsquare | 0 | 1,448,636,218,578 | 19% | ||
khaleelkazi | 0 | 4,449,348,763 | 12% | ||
flamingirl | 0 | 639,495,330 | 2.6% | ||
pataty69 | 0 | 78,883,845,158 | 100% | ||
emrebeyler | 0 | 33,046,384 | 12% | ||
aezakmi | 0 | 3,385,742,669 | 100% | ||
fortunex | 0 | 19,358,613,051 | 99% | ||
upmewhale | 0 | 54,201,465,815,393 | 49% | ||
pingpong | 0 | 0 | 100% | ||
nealmcspadden | 0 | 43,195,601,736 | 12% | ||
heidimarie | 0 | 66,222,164,616 | 20% | ||
katysavage | 0 | 40,350,880,205 | 100% | ||
whalewatch | 0 | 149,601,287 | 100% | ||
steembeamer | 0 | 38,880,922 | 100% | ||
whalo | 0 | 0 | 100% | ||
appreciato | 0 | 0 | 100% | ||
josevas217 | 0 | 4,731,267,865 | 5% | ||
cashbidbot | 0 | 0 | 100% | ||
coinbooster | 0 | 0 | 100% | ||
dlike | 0 | 52,191,745,045 | 3.9% | ||
hf20 | 0 | 8,167,102,850 | 100% | ||
limka | 0 | 98,494,162 | 100% | ||
star.lord | 0 | 71,812,282,367 | 99.84% | ||
sm-silva | 0 | 231,496,663,418 | 100% | ||
steem.leo | 0 | 14,260,516,030 | 12% | ||
leo.voter | 0 | 802,823,072 | 12% | ||
stonertv | 0 | 0 | 100% | ||
thranax | 0 | 4,913,588,683 | 10% | ||
maxuvd | 0 | 6,940,393,593 | 11% | ||
maxuve | 0 | 43,284,484,660 | 11.52% | ||
dappcoder | 0 | 195,746,704,804 | 100% | ||
tex.fund | 0 | 1,361,862,096 | 100% | ||
hnt | 0 | 647,794,651,668 | 100% | ||
acu.fund | 0 | 973,202,223 | 100% | ||
mana.bank | 0 | 860,400,320 | 100% | ||
acu.fund.witness | 0 | 1,580,682,898 | 100% | ||
spbank | 0 | 1,533,939,094 | 100% | ||
yaowl | 0 | 1,537,509,507 | 100% | ||
alanyao | 0 | 5,278,809,136,127 | 100% | ||
missingwolf | 0 | 1,214,739,888 | 100% | ||
xinhuaren | 0 | 1,565,081,419 | 100% | ||
acufund | 0 | 1,530,424,141 | 100% | ||
downvoter | 0 | 1,355,535,049 | 100% | ||
manabot1 | 0 | 1,586,198,127 | 100% | ||
manabot | 0 | 2,250,688,750 | 100% | ||
huaren.news | 0 | 7,494,372,352,840 | 100% | ||
cameron.barnes | 0 | 399,425,824 | 100% | ||
manabot2 | 0 | 1,585,403,817 | 100% | ||
sherryzhou | 0 | 2,232,006,571,449 | 100% | ||
goodvoter | 0 | 1,533,987,108 | 100% | ||
anonymity.inlet | 0 | 1,944,854,138 | 100% | ||
manabot3 | 0 | 1,561,508,761 | 100% | ||
manabank | 0 | 1,533,627,221 | 100% | ||
texfund | 0 | 1,545,352,925 | 100% | ||
goodreader | 0 | 1,951,970,484,895 | 100% | ||
goodposter | 0 | 1,589,442,160 | 100% | ||
goodcurator | 0 | 1,500,015,149 | 100% | ||
goodauthor | 0 | 1,501,458,297 | 100% | ||
shanyi | 0 | 1,562,519,279 | 100% | ||
yuwenzhaobin | 0 | 1,566,496,172 | 100% | ||
huangyiru | 0 | 2,242,131,593 | 100% | ||
qiuruling | 0 | 1,636,387,103 | 100% | ||
tongpingxia | 0 | 1,536,277,913 | 100% | ||
fushuo | 0 | 1,541,824,437 | 100% | ||
downscaner | 0 | 1,572,171,705 | 100% | ||
wang.han | 0 | 2,177,995,328 | 100% | ||
anonym.inlet | 0 | 1,965,886,021 | 100% | ||
javb | 0 | 3,530,259,136 | 10% | ||
rongyongyu | 0 | 1,567,503,188 | 100% | ||
heyaochen | 0 | 1,492,798,691 | 100% | ||
miyijuan | 0 | 1,560,140,737 | 100% | ||
xiangsong | 0 | 1,539,104,603 | 100% | ||
haiyaochang | 0 | 1,542,324,685 | 100% | ||
zhangyanxie | 0 | 1,554,697,585 | 100% | ||
jiduanren | 0 | 1,570,418,767 | 100% | ||
hanyiya | 0 | 1,561,694,954 | 100% | ||
guxiefeng | 0 | 1,568,554,564 | 100% | ||
hejuangang | 0 | 1,544,933,576 | 100% | ||
mengyin | 0 | 1,587,005,386 | 100% | ||
liaohepeng | 0 | 1,590,910,360 | 100% | ||
gaituan | 0 | 1,556,443,678 | 100% | ||
quxibei | 0 | 1,595,317,285 | 100% | ||
realmankwon.cur | 0 | 45,364,089 | 25% | ||
huarennews | 0 | 861,892,212 | 100% | ||
qukehan | 0 | 1,581,282,683 | 100% | ||
lvziyun | 0 | 1,545,331,322 | 100% | ||
telangpu | 0 | 1,577,331,110 | 100% | ||
chinesebi | 0 | 821,555,429 | 100% | ||
staryao | 0 | 1,334,110,037,063 | 100% | ||
william.turner | 0 | 1,710,458,095 | 100% | ||
alyssa.mey | 0 | 1,567,775,199 | 100% | ||
raven.mottram | 0 | 1,624,460,954 | 100% | ||
brian.shanno | 0 | 1,542,774,359 | 100% | ||
annmarie.prigge | 0 | 1,543,329,655 | 100% | ||
meaghan.dajer | 0 | 1,556,674,901 | 100% | ||
longye | 0 | 2,263,490,095 | 100% | ||
wangping | 0 | 1,547,269,500 | 100% | ||
likeqianq | 0 | 1,578,927,787 | 100% | ||
jinpingxi | 0 | 1,583,358,554 | 100% | ||
gavinyao | 0 | 1,609,734,023 | 100% | ||
dragon8king | 0 | 1,543,455,147 | 100% | ||
gavin.yao | 0 | 1,538,397,245 | 100% | ||
wangfang | 0 | 1,532,807,102 | 100% | ||
zhangjin | 0 | 1,556,337,181 | 100% | ||
china.news | 0 | 1,570,090,101 | 100% | ||
mingji | 0 | 1,569,797,142 | 100% | ||
zhtb | 0 | 1,546,027,875 | 100% | ||
liuyan | 0 | 1,556,080,941 | 100% | ||
newcoder | 0 | 2,242,804,148 | 100% | ||
sunyuchen | 0 | 1,574,051,838 | 100% | ||
trxsun | 0 | 1,556,862,855 | 100% | ||
coderhappy | 0 | 1,555,712,205 | 100% | ||
steem.voice | 0 | 1,499,852,132 | 100% | ||
gongsunyan | 0 | 1,573,702,237 | 100% | ||
siturenxiong | 0 | 1,645,649,738 | 100% | ||
yangshuyi | 0 | 1,583,005,896 | 100% | ||
yukaiyi | 0 | 1,604,994,957 | 100% | ||
coolvoter | 0 | 1,544,541,797 | 100% | ||
news.bot | 0 | 1,553,585,609 | 100% | ||
douxili | 0 | 1,460,092,016 | 100% | ||
voterking | 0 | 1,569,937,582 | 100% | ||
aivote | 0 | 33,614,215,127 | 100% | ||
yangsiyu | 0 | 1,585,016,276 | 100% | ||
hivesteem | 0 | 1,538,183,495 | 100% | ||
hbi | 0 | 1,612,735,783 | 100% | ||
steemflag | 0 | 17,387,476,281 | 100% | ||
votemypost | 0 | 634,285,538,093 | 100% |
You got a 100.00% upvote from @votemypost Send any amount of Steem to @votemypost with your post link in the memo for a proportional upvote. Earn a passive income by delegating Steem Power to @votemypost If you are looking to earn a passive no hassle return on your Steem Power, delegate your SP to @votemypost by clicking on one of the ready to delegate links: [25SP](https://steemconnect.com/sign/delegateVestingShares?delegator=&delegatee=votemypost&vesting_shares=25%20SP) | [50SP](https://steemconnect.com/sign/delegateVestingShares?delegator=&delegatee=votemypost&vesting_shares=50%20SP) | [75SP](https://steemconnect.com/sign/delegateVestingShares?delegator=&delegatee=votemypost&vesting_shares=75%20SP) | [100SP](https://steemconnect.com/sign/delegateVestingShares?delegator=&delegatee=votemypost&vesting_shares=100%20SP) | [250SP](https://steemconnect.com/sign/delegateVestingShares?delegator=&delegatee=votemypost&vesting_shares=250%20SP) | [500SP](https://steemconnect.com/sign/delegateVestingShares?delegator=&delegatee=votemypost&vesting_shares=500%20SP) | [1000SP](https://steemconnect.com/sign/delegateVestingShares?delegator=&delegatee=votemypost&vesting_shares=1000%20SP) | [2500SP](https://steemconnect.com/sign/delegateVestingShares?delegator=&delegatee=votemypost&vesting_shares=2500%20SP) | [5000SP](https://steemconnect.com/sign/delegateVestingShares?delegator=&delegatee=votemypost&vesting_shares=5000%20SP) [Another Amount](https://steembottracker.com/delegation.html?delegatee=votemypost) <hr> You will earn 85% of the voting bot's earnings based on your delegated SP's prorated share of the bot's SP each day! You can also undelegate at anytime.
post_id | 86,886,359 |
---|---|
author | votemypost |
permlink | re-longye-20200728tongming-20200730t033902772z |
category | hive-165526 |
json_metadata | {"app":"postpromoter\/2.1.1"} |
created | 2020-07-30 03:39:03 |
last_update | 2020-07-30 03:39:03 |
depth | 1 |
children | 0 |
net_rshares | 0 |
last_payout | 2020-08-06 03:39:03 |
cashout_time | 1969-12-31 23:59:59 |
total_payout_value | 0.000 SBD |
curator_payout_value | 0.000 SBD |
pending_payout_value | 0.000 SBD |
promoted | 0.000 SBD |
body_length | 1,679 |
author_reputation | 270,534,229,464 |
root_title | 有士不相识,通名叩余舟 |
beneficiaries | [] |
max_accepted_payout | 1,000,000.000 SBD |
percent_steem_dollars | 10,000 |
This post was resteemed by @steemvote and received a 28.74% Upvote. Send 0.5 SBD or STEEM to @steemvote
post_id | 86,898,441 |
---|---|
author | steembots.info |
permlink | 20200728tongming2020-07-31 |
category | hive-165526 |
json_metadata | {"tags":[""],"app":"steemjs\/steemvote"} |
created | 2020-07-31 05:31:18 |
last_update | 2020-07-31 05:31:18 |
depth | 1 |
children | 0 |
net_rshares | 0 |
last_payout | 2020-08-07 05:31:18 |
cashout_time | 1969-12-31 23:59:59 |
total_payout_value | 0.000 SBD |
curator_payout_value | 0.000 SBD |
pending_payout_value | 0.000 SBD |
promoted | 0.000 SBD |
body_length | 103 |
author_reputation | 86,430,428,607,483 |
root_title | 有士不相识,通名叩余舟 |
beneficiaries | [] |
max_accepted_payout | 1,000,000.000 SBD |
percent_steem_dollars | 10,000 |