happy forever chapter two: conjugal love
part number Six
In our marriage, this concept works in the following way. the feelings and circumstances of the moment can not alter the love that my husband and I feel for each other.
our mutual dedication keeps us permanently united, although our emotions fluctuate. sometimes my husband is frustrated and as a result my romantic feelings die. On other occasions I'm the one who frustrated him because I fail in my efforts to be a tender and loving companion. Sometimes we are consumed by feelings of anger, resentment, bitterness, and despair. but we have found each other and we have promised to love unconditionally in health and in sickness, in wealth and in poverty, in good and in bad, until the end of our life.
It may be that our romantic feelings fail, but a genuine love holds us together through difficult times.
The key to putting into practice the principle of genuine love is the absence of selfishness. fullness in a relationship of complete and satisfying love, takes place when the spouses mature and shed a selfish attitude to allow the flowering of genuine love. to receive love you have to give it. Jesus said: Give and it will be given to you (Luke 6:38), and this teaching enunciated by him also applies to marriage. If a deeper love relationship is desired, it is necessary to start giving more love. Instead of waiting for the spouse to be first to show affection towards one, it is better to give oneself the first steps in that direction. So dedicate yourself to discovering the needs of your spouse and satisfy them right now.