Loneliness by nikolina

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Loneliness
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@revisesociology ·
Hey, 

If you're a weirdo who feels like they don't belong in the 'real world' Steem is the right place for you! It's full of us!

I haven't quite ever got my head around the whole loneliness feeling TBH. I've always enjoyed a lot of my own space, like you, I can go days without speaking to anyone and feel fine (it gets a bit much after 10 days), but just lately I've been feeling the need for more meaningful connections with people - I feel the need to be working or doing something constructive with a bunch of nice people. 

If I look back in life I realise the most balanced periods (ie having personal space and enough meaningful social contact) were when I had a solid group of friends around me - most of my childhood and university days, as a proper adult that's sort of faded. 

I think when we were younger our dreams bonded us together, friendships in adulthood are different, emptier and more distant somehow. 

My recent problem is that I can't seem to meet ANYONE who I click with in my local town and I've bee here 18 months now - people to chat to, but besides that nothing. And I work from home. 

I've come to the conclusion I need to move, I mean I like my own space too, but this lack of social connection is getting silly now!

I have, however, met loads of nice people on Steem, IRL as well as online! 

Hope you find the balance you're looking for! 


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@nikolina ·
Thank you for this comment, reading this already makes me feel so much better. 

> I think when we were younger our dreams bonded us together, friendships in adulthood are different, emptier and more distant somehow.

This made me think and it really seems to be that way. As an introvert, I never had big groups of friends, but the ones I had I felt connected to at those times. Now, as you mentioned, I also seek a deeper connection and maybe even spiritual connection that is hard to find. 

I hope you'll find someone in your local town to bond with, I saw in one of your previous posts that you have some plans on changing the location and even though we just 'met' on Steemit, I'm looking forward to follow your journey and really do hope you'll make your dreams come true. :)
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@revisesociology ·
>Thank you for this comment, reading this already makes me feel so much better.

I'm very glad! 

>even though we just 'met' on Steemit, I'm looking forward to follow your journey 

Same here, and I hope you find what you're looking for too Nikolina. 

In the meantime, just fill your time constructively and you're less likely to get consumed by any feelings of loneliness! 

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@barbara-orenya ·
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As far as I can read and feel, you are on your perfect way even if  you let doubts sometimes interfere, you seem to have a solid connection with your inner being, you just have to be more aware of that, but clearly you are really close to "understand" it...
in fact you get the whole picture each time you feel like to uplift yourself, each time you grab that there is no wrong to feel a negative emotion, that negative emotion is the indicator that you have a temporary disconnection with your spiritual nature, 
and by uplifting yourself, by reaching a better feeling, you reach toward the alignment with your true nature that is joy and happiness 😊 
All human beings true nature is joy, that's why you can have now this feeling of loneliness, because you don't feel like to connect with the others, you want to connect with yourself...once you are aligned with your true nature, you will not suffer of loneliness anymore, and you will also attract the same people as you, the ones who are connected with their soul 😉 
Have a ![xffoly.png](https://img.esteem.app/xffoly.png) @nikolina !
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@nikolina ·
Hey @barbara-orenya, thank you so much for your words of encouragement, it really means a lot to me! 

I also believe that our true nature is joy and just by being born, we have the right to be happy and abundant. 

> negative emotion is the indicator that you have a temporary disconnection with your spiritual nature

I like this point of view, I'll make sure to remember this and remind myself of it. It just feels better thinking that way, being aware that I'm out of alignment, asking myself how I can raise my vibration. :) I am filling my time with things that bring me joy and make sure that I stop and just be present in the moment multiple times a day and express my gratitude even if it's something 'small' like a warm cup of coffee, sunshine, my plants... 

Thank you again for your wise,helpful words, I am happy to connect with you on Steemit and I wish you a wonderful day/weekend! :)
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@barbara-orenya ·
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