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  <center>**HOW TO BE A POSITIVE PARENT**</center>

_Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things (Philippians 4:8).__ 

Many parents see discipline, punishment or chastisement as the key to successful parenting. But, although punishment is sometimes appropriate, a nurturing and supportive relationship is the key to success as a father or mother. 

Paul described how mothers are supposed to act when he wrote:

_We were gentle among you, like a mother caring for her little children (1 Thessalonians 2:7)_

The father also is called on to be nurturing, gentle and loving, not gruff like an army drill sergeant. 

Paul described the way fathers are supposed to act when he wrote:

_For you know that we dealt with each of you as a father deals with his own children, encouraging, comforting and urging you to live lives worthy of God, who calls you into his kingdom and glory (1 Thessalonians 2:11-12)._

**BE A POSITIVE PARENT:**
 
Provide, nurture and support by focusing on the positive. 

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•	**Look for and comment on the positive.**

Many parents specialize in instructing, ordering, nagging, criticizing, threatening and punishing—catching their children being "bad." That’s an easy trap to fall into, since you usually can find a lot to criticize. Yet look at what the Bible says about our words:

_The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life (Proverbs 10:11).__

_The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit (Proverbs 18:21)._

_Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen (Ephesians 4:29)._

_Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things (Philippians 4:8)._
 
o	**Say words of praise throughout the day. Your praise can have a powerful, encouraging effect upon your children.** 

o	**Be sure that at least 90% of your communication is positive (praise, encouragement or appreciation) or neutral (normal conversation).**


o	**Usually do not include criticism when you praise. Some parents frequently respond to their children’s efforts by saying they could have done more or better. That is not the moment, always wait the right moment to comment on areas for make ups.**

o	**Do not expect perfection! If you do, your children will think they never are good enough and will carry a sense of inadequacy or fear of trying into adulthood.**

•	 **Speak respectfully.** 

Do not call your children names. Never say words along the lines of: "Where are your brains, you dummy?" "Baby." "Stupid." "Liar." "Thief." "Loser." "Cry baby." "I can't believe you did such an idiotic thing." "You're going to get pregnant, just like your aunt." 

•	**Establish special times of warmth.**

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Establish a friendly, positive atmosphere during special times of the day.

•	**When your children wake up: Greet them with friendly words.**

•	**Meals: Eat together as a family. Make meals fun. Turn off the TV and visit. Don't discuss personal problems (yours or your children's). Save these talks for private times. Teach basic manners, but do not turn your meals into a battleground over them. One idea: Have one "formal meal" a week when "company manners" are practiced.**


•	**Before and after school: Send your children off to school with friendly words. Likewise, greet them warmly when they return.**

•	**Bedtime: Develop routines. Spend time with your children after they go to bed. Have a friendly talk. Tell a story. Pray. Sing a song.**


**Personal application:**
 
_How did your parents’ words affect you? Although you shouldn't blame your current sins or problems on your background, you can learn from your parents’ mistakes, as well as from their successes._ 

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