Agree that we are people that need physical contact and have physical memory. However, if we can elevate ourselves into self actualization and touch the memory through a higher dimension, spiritual. Perhaps it could make us have better take on grief. Cheers!

This is so sad and beautiful at the same time. I don't think we ever truly get over it and there will always be a part of us that misses them immensely. I love the story behind the empty chair and now I will think about it in the same way.

I don't know if anyone deals with grief in the same way. So much depends on our own beliefs, but you found a way to process it and that's what is important. I don't think anyone I ever loved and loved me back wants me grieving too long over their passing.

>space is never empty, the presence is always there

Really agree with this. Even though we cannot really feel the presence, but yes i do agree it is always be there just like you said its only appeared in different form.

Thank you for sharing this great article.

i think about this a lot, whenever i get morbid and imagine my parents or grandparents passing, or my own mortality. Even though I don't see them every day, the thought of them just no longer being there to reach is the scariest part. Same when i was going through my break up. The thought of no longer having the option of seeing that person was the worst bit.

That's an interesting way of looking at it. It is tough to move on with a death especially if that someone or something was really close to you and played a big role in your daily living and routine. Being able to separate the fact that the physical may no longer be around but that of the spiritual still remain might be a point of view that could help.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

As I am getting older I have been wondering more about coping with losing loved ones, I simply can't wrap my head around the "they were here but now they are not" concept. And like you said, it's this missing presence that we grieve, until we realise that the eseence of that presence will always take up a space.

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<div class="text-justify">I do not think that we have the same grief.  Perhaps it is the same when a sibling dies, or a parent dies, but losing a spouse is different than those.  Also, my grief of losing an aunt might be different than you would experience in losing an aunt.<p>
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A spouse is a terrible thing to lose, and I have been through that. It is NOT just a physical phenomenon, missing their physical presence. When my husband died a few years ago, I lost not only his physical companionship, but also I lost my best friend, my spiritual partner, the one who could always calm me during times of stress, the one who could always make me feel at-ease when no one else could. We harmonized on emotional levels, intellectual levels, and spiritual levels, as well as the physical. This was the most all-encompassing loss I have ever experienced, with hardly an area of my heart and soul left untouched in some way.<p>
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That being said, I extend condolences to you in the loss you mentioned in this post, and I am glad that you feel a sense of peace now. Healing can be a long process, and I am glad you found an outlet for your feelings. Blessings to you. 💙</div>

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