No doubt, many girls and probably few guys will challenge the topic but this misconception about a girl loving a guy has led to many breakups and a shattered relationship and most times we conceive in our hearts a negative impression about the other gender. Everything in life as well as relationship are guided by principles, the Bible contributed to this knowledge when it said **"husbands dwell with your wives according to knowledge and vice versa"** . This implies gaining knowledge about your spouse could go an extra mile to ensuring peace and a happy relationship. 

I will start with the fact that "it's abnormal for a girl to love a guy, she only end up doing what the guy should do" yes , I know you maybe surprise with this statement, we have always used the word love in every issue relating courtship but that's because love is the bounding rope to a relationship. Every individual has a role to play and between those roles, **loving** is a guys duty. Guys doesn't give much attention to the word "love" neither do they understand what love means because that's not a guy's top desire and it's the reason most girls who shower love on guys get betrayed at the long run and they wonder what went wrong. The truth is loving is a man's duty and not that of a woman.

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[Source](https://www.improvutopia.com/2017/10/07/for-the-love-of-improv/)

I have read articles that talks about love fading away with time and commitment becoming the pillar holding a marriage from falling apart. Though I agree to this fact but it only happens when the both partners don't understand the definition of love in the perspective of his or her partner. If a woman is not meant to love, then what is she meant  to do? Most people must already being wondering what the magic attitude is, let's get to it.

**What women are meant to do, in a relationship**
The Bible said **"women submit (Respect) to your husband and husband love your wife"** . This is simple -women submit-----men love . 99.5% of men love women who show attitude of submission or respect and can go an extra mile to die just to gain such respect . Men understand love in the perspective of submission and that's exactly the attribute men desire when you hear them saying **"character"** makes a woman beautiful. The only time a man start misbehaving is when a woman deny him such respect no matter how little he may be. If you had carefully studied the excuses men give for breakups, they all point to respect.  Women in return desired to be love and that's one reason they were design with a soft and fragile heart and as for a man, he never truly loves a woman when respect is lacking .

Men desire beauty, good in bed , educated, straight legs , sexy etc but just as an added advantage. You wonder why a handsome guy go for a girl less beauty and sexy and they live happily, there is something he watches out for ---Respect. Respect to opinions, respect to the nature of whom they are , respect as a suitable help mate and in decision.

From the beginning women were created with the purpose of being a helper and in return the man give out love. Relationship in this view is like a game of exchange, you give me respect and prove helpful and in return you gain my love. This is how it works with a woman-man relationship not the believed , I love you and I love you too, this doesn't guarantee success with test of time when the odd days come.
In movies we have watched how broken marriages are always mended , usually it ends with the woman submitting and the man loving. Submission is the primary factor to gain  a man's love.

**What should the woman submit**
This is far off regarding sex as a tool to prove submissiveness. Every individual has an ego and this ego serves as a defence or opposition to a submissive spirit in most cases  and that's why you hear statements like "am not use to this, I can't...., My parents have never asked me to do this, I wouldn't.., am big for this...., No, don't push me around, etc
These such ego is what a woman submit in return for a man's love. You see yourself as a help meet and not a boss mate.

**What happens when a woman love**
When a woman love, she finds herself doing what ordinarily she wouldn't do, she do things in excess or over grown boundaries, start watching out a guys activities, who he goes out with, what he says, get too pleased even with lies , deny him space (one thing guys value alot) , this attitude with time pushed men away as one become obsolete. When a woman loves , she loves, she do the petting, calling and easily get blinded to the truth, she gives her all and allow just a little space for the man's participation because when they love, they take over even what a guy should do.

Am not saying loving a guy is wrong, am only saying guys doesn't understand love from the view of love but by submission.

In conclusion 
**Men see love from submission , women see love from attention**

So stop the obsolete love and show submission 

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