This is partly inspired by @wolfenlord's arguments for polyamorous relationships. He jokingly lays out all the reasons why monogamous couplings are obsolete and un-natural in this post:  https://steemit.com/blog/@wolfenlord/humor-with-acid-episode-1-nsfw I appreciated his viewpoints and his humor, as well as the conversation we had, but it did give me idea of writing on the subject myself. His opinions are not unique. More and more people are speaking and writing the same sentiments and advocating for a more polyamorous culture. I would like to swim against the flow and share my thoughts as well as some new reasons why monogamy is more appealing.

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*Being the only one feels good!* There is beauty when one feels such a deep connection with another human being, that they are the only choice. I don't think a truly deep connection can be made when one's mate is bent on joining with and pleasing another. Even if both parties are in agreement... Monogamy is safe, comfortable, and powerful.

*Fruits of the spirit* I admit that pledging fidelity for life, and following through with it is challenging. However it allows for immense personal growth. The biblical fruits of the spirit are love, joy, peace, patience, goodness, kindness, faithfulness, and self-control. When one is freely giving into every impulse, the soul and spirit are not expanding. These are in order for a reason, because they develop in order, the ultimate quality to achieve being self-control.

*An example for our youth* We have failed them. About 100,000 university students between the ages of 18-24 from all over the globe were recently asked, "What are your most pressing questions in life?" The 2 most common questions were, "How do I cope with the urge to kill myself?" And, "How do I conquer/defeat/deal with my porn addiction?" These are people trying to make their way in the world, struggling with dehumanization, depression, emptiness. They crave meaning in their lives. What kind of homes did they grow up in? What have we done to fail them? Selfishness? The emphasis on lust, vanity, and violence in media that they have been bombarded with at a young age? Broken homes? Having a confidant in life, a true best friend that they love, live with, spend time with, have sex with and find purpose with can help them heal. I doubt multiple partners would help in this dilemma. We need to be an example too! :)

*Emotions are valid* Emotions like insecurity, jealousy, fear, and rage don't just go away. They are here for a reason. Deep down, most men and women don't want to share, and rightfully so. You can't tell me people in open relationships don't experience these feelings. I'm convinced they *do,* even if they have to stuff them down to cope.

*Part of the agenda* Now this may make me seem like a nut, but let me explain. The integrity and honor of the family unit is nothing to scoff at, as it is a pillar of a healthy, cultured society. Forces at work want to dehumanize us, make us sheep, make us stupid, lustful, brutish, soulless, lemmings. Take a look at the points in Vladimir Lenin's 1921 speech: ![446d59470a63e8d323ac5f785d36c35d.jpg](https://steemitimages.com/DQmaVHZY3iW21kmc4YcX1ey7Hqy1PtbfRMViDnPtZay1yzx/446d59470a63e8d323ac5f785d36c35d.jpg)

Now take a look at this quote by Stalin:
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Ask yourself, why would they say these things? Take a look at our world today. Regardless of who is in power, how far have we fallen? What has happened here?

I don't mean to offend anyone, as these are just my opinions. I'm not suggesting that any way of life would be forced on another person, but I do think it's clear that monogamy, and the principles therein, are better for us all. 

Thanks for reading!

Love, snowpea ❤

*First image from Pixabay, second and third images from Pinterest*