### Every child has his own terms of development, HIS OWN nature predetermines these very terms, and neither pediatriсians, nor any experienced teachers or worrying parents should impact on these terms and rush the kid in his development.

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**What do I mean**?

In Russia and, I suppose, in many other countries centers of early children development are exremely popular. Parents hurry to give their kids as much as possible even not realizing that instead of use they get only harm!

### Everything has its own time. 

### And our nature is the wisest "teacher" in the Universe, we should just follow it and be able to understand its laws and signs.

Doing nothing for your baby is wrong, but doing too much and not in time is even worse!

You interfere in the natural processes, and nature doesn't forgive this rudeness...

We see millions of examples when humans consider themselves smarter than Nature (**pills, vaccination, some kind of education**) and it leads to terrible effects in future.

Rushing the kids' development leads to breaking of all laws of his personal mental and physical growth.

Many studies have proved that when parents or teachers push kids and rush them to master any skills they aren't ready for, it becomes a cause of excessive load for his intellect and psyche, so they get only the opposite results. 

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Children lose interest to knowledge, to studying, they're nervous and tired, they start to hate education and the world itself, it leads to stresses and psychological breakdowns.

This very problem touches parents who rush their kids in mastering walking skills (*Oh, My God, he is already 8 months old, and he still doesn't walk*!), speech skills (*Oh, My God, he is already 2 years old and he still doesn't talk*!), writing skills (*why is he already 4, and he can't write?!*), maths skills and so on...

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As a rule, these claims are based on the comparison with other kids (of friends and relatives, with whom parents connect most often). If somebody's kid can do it, so mine just MUST do it as well! right now! because I want him to do it!

**It's absolutely destructive practice**! You just harm your kid! 

The best result that can be obtained depends only on how much the child (his body and brain) has matured for mastering any skill!

If he is ready, he will do it fast and easily, but if he isn't, if it isn't his own time for it, then it will be extremely difficult, boring and torturing for him.

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Do you really think if your baby doesn't walk at 8 months, he will never walk?!
Or if he doesn't talk at 2 years old, then he will keep silent forever? (I don't mean cases with really sick kids).

**Most kids are healthy and clever enough to master all skills that they require for life when they need them, their nature takes care about it! So just wait and enjoy your baby's childhood**! 

### Let him be a baby, not a machine for comfort of parental vanity among their friends and relatives. 

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We all are individuals, and we all have individual terms for everything in our life, and kids have a right to develop with the speed that is comfortable for them, not for parents or teachers!

### Expectant tactics help to believe in the power of your own child. 

This does not mean that you do not need to teach at all. It's just sometimes worth taking a long pause and trying again later.

It's possible that if something seems to be absolutely inaccessible for six months old baby will become understandable and simple a little later. Just wait, don't push him! The child will pass all the preparatory stages and will be ready to enter a new level, mastering a new skill.

 ## Public education makes the same. 

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It creates standards and rules for kids development and mastering of skills in different subjects. Moreover, it sets the terms when a kid MUST be ready for schools - in Russia it's 6-7 years old.

**But are pupils kids or robots**?!

How can they ALL be ready for schools at the same time?? Who sets these terms? And who checks whether they're appropriate for this very kid? Nobody! **There's a system and its rules, that's it**.


### That's why unschooling or homeschooling form of education is the best and the most successfull scheme for your kid's development. 

**So parents have a choice - to have a free kid, who has full freedom of his wishes and development, or to upring just a screw of the system who must live according to common rules**...