It's not me, it's you. by tarazkp

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· @tarazkp · (edited)
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It's not me, it's you.
http://i.imgur.com/bKribQD.jpg

All of my pain, all of my hardship, all of my suffering, everything is your fault. 

We live in a society of blame. Any time things do not go our way we have the tendency to find the closest scapegoat to shovel our anger and frustration at. 

Have you ever heard anyone having a bad experience at work say 'Yeah, it is because I am not good at my job'? Probably not very common. It is always the boss, the manager, a colleague, the investors or something else external that is the cause of the ills. Let me ask you this, have you ever met someone who is not good at their job?

We blame our partners for leaving us, our governments for mistreating us, advertising for misleading us, doctors for mistreating us and all manner of other targets that deserve our wrath for not living up to our standards.

Yet, our standards are not to take responsibility for the choices we make. Our personal ethics are to hold ourselves to a much lower bar than those around us. So, if our process is to be hypocritical, why would we expect anyone else to act differently?

But, even if all of our life problems are indeed the fault of someone or something else, how does it help us to lay blame? Well, it may make us feel better superficially but we are still the ones that must live in our life, walk in our own shoes.

Rather than spend the energy laying blame, use it to understand the situation and do what is possible to change it. Trying to change others is a waste of energy, especially if they feel they benefit from being the way they are.

Whatever issues we face, blame does nothing to solve them.

Taraz
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@jaibaru ·
Interesting post that inspires..good luck for you .... upvote me
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@nefey1117 ·
Or there are people who blame themselves for everything.... lol
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@tarazkp ·
Not many I have met but perhaps I have been in the wrong circles.
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@steveitt ·
You can acknowledge the ill effect of others' actions, but you are right, at some point one must ask themselves questions like"How much of this is my fault?" and "What can I do with the situation I now have?"

Choosing good, true, honest friends and reliable mentors goes a long way! I've heard that Roman rulers would sometimes have a slave whose sole purpose was to tell the ruler, "You are NOT a god! You are NOT a god!" It's funny but we do need people like that in our lives.  :)
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@tarazkp ·
I'm not? ;)

It is just not useful to lay blame. Betrer just to learn and move on quickly. Honesty is harder to come by than people realise I think.
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@steveitt ·
So true! Keep posting amigo!
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@theaustrianguy ·
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People just tend to look for the easiest solution - and this often just seems to be blaming others. 
I see this behavior in my work every day. It just makes me sick. The world could be so much better, if we just took it more seriously and wouldn't blame god or even better "the corrupt system". Blaming is not helping.
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@tarazkp ·
People take mobile gaming and entertainment news more seriously than life.
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@theaustrianguy ·
Unfortunately this is true. They take some of those thing more serious than anything. When you take a public bus in the morning you will see groups of 4+ kids not talking to each other because everybody just stares at their cellphone. So sad.
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@rudyrun ·
Don't dream it steem it 
https://youtu.be/bDDSJV8cEao
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@chuckler ·
I am a victim of this big tragedy called blame. Everyone seems to blame me for their misfortune, ever since I was a kid, which largely contributed to my self-loathing and possibly incurable depression.
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@sulev ·
I did a similar post recently what the desire for the unobtainable tells up about ourselves. Laying blame is tied with it, but I didn't discuss this.
Good read, agree with you!
Blame characterizes the blamer not the one getting blamed.
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@moderninvestor ·
well, why would anyone take responsibility.... thats just ridiculous.... see, already, its your fault that im writing this ....dont you dare put the blame on me!
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@tarazkp ·
I blame me.
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@moderninvestor ·
can....can we blame ourselves?
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