Better Life: Having Dialogue — A Conversation Isn't a CONTEST to be Won! by whitelightxpress

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Better Life: Having Dialogue — A Conversation Isn't a CONTEST to be Won!
I have been absent for a few days, somewhat to my regret. However, sometimes the business of *life* keeps us busy, and I have been working on my *"Plan A"* of finishing a professional certification.


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Conversation sometimes seems almost like an *art,* and sadly it's an art many people don't seem to master.

At least, they fail to master the part of conversation that involves *listening.* Because having authentic dialogue with someone else is about *much more* than simply voicing your opinion about something!

Sadly, a lot of people enter conversations almost with the mindset that being in dialogue with someone is a *competition* to be won or lost, rather than a deeper exchange of information.


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I watch people talk to each other... and I can tell that the person who is supposedly *"listening"* is actually not *hearing* the speaker... because they are too busy — inside their head — already forming their *reply;* what they want to say next; their *counter argument.*

But if all your attention is diverted towards what you are going to say next, how can you *possibly* be hearing what the other person is saying?

Of course, you *can't*

In order to listen like a *"true friend,"* we have to set aside our *own* inner voices and just be open to *listening* to the other... and not be focused on what we plan to say next. 


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Maybe that *sounds* simple enough, but for most people it's a considerable challenge! And it's often a challenge that involves dropping into your heart and realizing that *you're not actually LISTENING* to what is being said.

Being an *"active listener"* takes a bit of practice, but it is well worth the effort because your conversations — and your relationships — will become deeper and more meaningful, as you progress.

Thanks for stopping by, and Bright Blessings to all!

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@whitelightxpress ·
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@datych ·
True. As a result, talking freely becomes too dangerous if you don't want clashes with dominance-holic people.

But it is ok when the conversation is spontaneous. This is worse when people are asking or even begging your opinion just to get an opportunity for proving you are completely wrong. You show respect to these people, invest energy in sharing your ideas and then get a slap.
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