I had the same nightmare three times before the eventful evening. I woke up seeing a light and realizing that there was a stranger in our bedroom, I tried to scream to warn my family of the danger but only a muffled gurgling sound came out of my throat. I could not go back to sleep afterwards because of the adrenalin rush and cold sweat all over my body and my racing heart.
The winters evening before my husband’s 50th birthday was as every other Saturday evening. My teenage daughter and one of her friends that were sleeping over wanted to go to the local show with their other friends and so we said our family prayers before they went out, asking for their and our protection. They returned home at about 10.30 pm and said good night to us. Our house was built in a U and my teenage daughter and her friend slept on the
This is one of the big question that goes unanswered for many. How many times have you posed this question and how many times have you dumped it unanswered because it doesn't look like a valid question.
I hadn't really started to properly learn until I was finished my first Charity job and dedicated enough time to sit at my computer and digest information in a good way. Beforehand it wasn't encouraged to grab books and learn from them. I had wanted to learn about body language a couple of years back but it was strangely taken away from me. I only assume that people didn't want me digesting what they were thinking; it may have scared them a little, perhaps knowing a bit more about them would have been backwards to what they had planned for me? Who knows? One can only assume.
About 6 months into my sobriety I remember having the 'great awakening' as I called it. I was slowly beginning to realise that there was more to life than meets the eye. That there is so much to learn about that I haven't even considered yet. It hit me one day as I was sitting at my desk at work
As everybody knows, life can be quite surprising. So surprising as some people’s attitudes are. If you didn’t know, you are living near ghouls! Disguised ghouls, that is. They come dressed as neighbors, friends, relatives (closed or removed ones, depending on the context), colleagues and so on and so forth. They are so well disguised that when you are betrayed, you just feel flabbergasted of how come that particular individual, whom you’ve helped, has done this to you. If you are still wondering why you shouldn’t trust people, keep on reading.
While you are reading, let’s listen some music. I'm sure it will be more relaxing.
The two hardest things to handle in life are failure and success.
That especially applies in poker.
@surfermarly after a hard poker night | Showing a happy face after all
Yesterday's poker session was quite a wild ride.
I started like a boss. Pair of Asses on the Flop having two more players in the game. I raised a bit more than half of the pot and one of them called.
Then I got a third As on the River and just hoped that nobody would notice my inner reaction.
I raised again, a bit more aggressive than I did before since I somehow felt he wanted to see my cards any
Cognitive dissonance is a warning signal about conflicts in our automatic or willful journey of understanding reality. How we resolve that internal disharmony is another issue.
There was a great post on cognitive dissonance that I recently resteemed but it didn't get resteemed on my blog despite showing up as a green success on the post itself. So check that out. I wanted to do a post on this topic that I have covered more lightly in past posts.
Cognitive dissonance happens when external information contradicts internal information, or when our own behavior conflicts with how others are behaving. We then feel that conflict, disunity and disharmony. That's the general broad way it works, but this can happen in a few ways:
1) when our perception of reality (internal subjective) is in disharmony, disunity or disequilibrium with the actual reality (e
Many people meet unfortunate ends and it is sad that in many cases these deaths could have been prevented.
This is particularly true of mental illness related deaths where the signs and symptoms are often missed and a particular situation only comes to light after a person's death.
**The Elisa Lam case appears to be one of these situations. What I find particularly troubling here is that despite the outward
Ok, so I got some charges around the whole world of conspiracy theories,
And I confess, I was fairly deep in it for several years.
I'm not proud to admit that yes, I was one of those self-righteous, rebellious, social justice warriors sure as death that Monsanto was the corporate reincarnation of the devil itself, all GMOs and any non-organic food were absolutely horrific, all vaccines were part of some huge world depopulation ploy, chemtrails were being sprayed in the air as part of the same elitist agenda, as was flouride in the water, etc, etc, etc.
I never had a tinfoil hat. And maybe I wasn't that nuts. But in hindsight, it is.
I'm not here to try convince anybody in those low-theta storylines that their theories are full of holes. We are each free to make as big of a fool of ourselves as unconsciously desired until fate smacks us on the head and cracks us out of our delusions.
However, I came across something
A lot of us go through life on autopilot, never questioning the things we do and why we do them....
We assume that the way we were brought up and what we have been thought so far is
correct and we keep building on these assumptions. But what if our own foundation can be improved or what if most of it is
Maybe we should take some time out and actually start asking
why do I do, think, say the things I do?.
What do you think?
Here are some other posts you might like!
On how language influences us: https://steemit.com/psychology/@athenajade/do-we-speak-the-same-language
On the limitations our conditioning puts upon us: https://steemit.com/life/@athenajade/t
Home should be a perfect place to rest ourselves. Many of us live in buildings with flats similar to a honey bee.
How do we relax? Some of us watching tv, some in good company, some smoking weed...
The perfect combination for me is a good company and beautiful garden. Especially in the summer garden can be a perfect place for the rest and relaxation.
Here are some photos of my garden where all of you are invited for a beer.
we had dozens of roses; some of then I dismissed with my ball but we still have plenty of it
Several times lately I've expressed gratitude and admiration and inspiration to lovely friends, and while they usually will say
thank you they are also very quick to defend their smallness and deflect the credit.
For instance, I thanked and acknowledged my friend for some things she said, which had inspired me. Her response -
well, those weren't really my original words, but were just stolen from another. In other words she is implying she doesn't deserve the credit I want to give her. Then there is another friend with whom I shared my admiration for how she seems to me to have her life all in order. She responds,
well...My world isn't really as good as it seems. Things are actually quite a shit storm behind what you're seeing.
Why do we do this? We do we work and strive to do our best and yet squirm and deflect in avoidance and discomfort when someone says the way we be inspires them?!
I do it
If you're like me and have spent most of your life bowing to people’s needs then STOP! It's about time you served yourself some wake-the-fuck-up justice. You aren't doing yourself or anyone else around you any good by letting people walk all over you, after all, you want some respect in your life, right? Yes! I thought so. Here are a few sure-fire ways to gain confidence rapidly.
Firstly, surround yourself amongst weak-minded losers. Nothing says I'm the king of the hill than positioning yourself at the head spot in a dynamic of arched-back limp-wristed nobodies. They'll never question your superiority or better judgement like others have done in the past. You'll always be looked up to, and asked questions like you're the sear of all knowledge. If one of them dares to oust you off that top spot then isolate them from the group. Can't have anyone tr
For those of you my age and older, cast your mind back to a time when you were a kid and we roamed the streets with our friends. Do any of you remember playing some crazy made up games to get ourselves into trouble? Usually this would be the social norm for kids about to go into High School or reaching puberty. It was basically us testing our boundaries and lashing out at the system slightly.
There was a time when we were all out, as a gang, it was the summer before we entered High School and the girl that most of us wanted in her knickers, or at least I did; by then I fully knew what an orgasm felt like, suggested that we all play Garden skippy. For the better behaved of us that don't know what this game is, it's basically where we skip through back gardens to irritate house owners. It's a stupid game but boy did it wind up residents the wrong way where we liv
Being a young person working, going to school, and trying to make my way in life, I felt that stress was just something that I had to accept. As of the past few weeks it had been building and building and I could feel my body crying out for help. My eye would twitch, I was extremely irritable, and my mind was whirring with questions. I knew that there had to be something more than this.
I stumbled upon a local meetup for guided meditation and figured that I had nothing left to lose. I'd tried yoga, working out, alcohol, and other means to try to quiet my mind and help me reset. If you had told me a month ago that I'd be lying down listening to music in a dark room full of strangers, I would have asked what the hell you were smoking.
We sat in a room with a friendly woman who answered all of my questions. It started with my Western mind asking,
How does this, err, start? Many people think
Before getting started, just a reminder of the current competition I am doing:
This is the third part of understanding the 3 modes of explanation. Logos is a Greek word describing logic. Logic is perhaps something people are more aware of that 'ethos' or 'pathos' but it is still worth explaining...
Logos is very closely linked with philosophy and most philosophical discourse is based on logic. Logic often refers to the facts and the statistics concerning a topic. Using logic will require that you understand the topic and that you can use the facts to formulate an argument that cannot be disproven. Using an argument with logic at its core may seem far less emotional as the facts often ignore the feelings of others. These 'facts' may sometimes be fabrications to try and fool or trick your opponent and in su
I first got into the world of trading over a decade ago, spending a couple years immersed in forex studying technicals as well as psychology. It was due to failure in the psychology department that my forex engagement got nulled shortly after beginning trading live.
However years later, lots of what I learned back then looped back around to be of use in the world of crypto. Go figure.
And just as true as it is in the realm of trading forex, stock, futures, or any other asset class, it's equally applicable in the crypto-trading domain: the psychology of trading can be a real bitch sometimes.
Of course, it's an integral part of the game. One of the most challenging - and rewarding.
Keeping one's head straight, emotions chained up, and focused on a systematic approach really is critical.
A solid decision-making process is a priceless asset to have when trading, and it's a tough one to build, as everyone's individual psychology and goals are different. But without a firm decisiveness, clearly-set object
Ah, the wondrous world of Facebook, where people can congregate from all walks of life and without any accountability we can openly hate on each other. When did that become a thing by the way? A fashionable way to present oneself? To jump on someone's profile that you barely know, take his wording entirely out of context and begin to shout obscenities at your fellow 'friends'? It stirs me up the wrong way because I was targeted today, not because I was being unfair, but because I was a man. This is cold-hearted right there what's wrong with Feminism today. It's why so many women are distancing themselves more and more from the idea, and it's why we are seeing a male movement when one did not exist beforehand.
I've always believed that women are the same as men. Maybe that's a far-out idea for this day and age but to label and vilify someone that you don'
I was always a super clingy young man. My first memory of clinging on to people for dear life was when I was about seven years old and my friend was out seeing his gran and grandad. I waited outside of his house the entire time. I think I waited for four hours; as you've probably guessed by now I had abandonment issues. I've never enjoyed being alone until recently, recently being in the last 10 years. I've always been one for sucking out the life of my friends through their noses. Even now I must watch myself when I enjoy being in the company of another that I don't start dominating their time. I do still have tendencies.
I equivalate enjoying my own company with finding my inner peace. It's a version of finding the harmony within oneself. Someone told me once that I am only ever going to be with myself 100% of the time when I'm on this earth so isn't it
Ask and you shall receive. Is it really that simple?
There are two parts to this, the asking and the receiving. We can also take two perspectives on this question, one mystical or philosophical and the other, the activities of the mundane world, personal relationships, business ect. What ever prism you want look at this through, the principle remains the same.
Firstly you have to know what you are asking for. Having no clear desire or outcome will either get you nothing, something detrimental, half useful, or if you are really lucky, something you might actually like, making it a bit of a lucky dip. Decisiveness is the first step.
Knowing how to ask for something is an artform in itself. Your request has to be formulated and presented in a manner that it will be well received by the other party. Again, mystical and mundane have their methods of request to optimise th
I know a woman who is perfect. Her hair is always glossy, her lips are always a flawless shade of cherry red, her skin is always clear. She wears comfortable and fashionable heels, has a meticulously organized purse, and her accessories always match. She has an interesting and creative job, has a nice office, and gets a very big paycheck. She has a beautiful and spotlessly clean home, and this home has a large kitchen which allows her to cook fabulous meals — since she is also a perfect cook. She has a similarly perfect boyfriend, who has a similarly perfect life. Together, they have the most perfect little dog.
I know this woman so well that I could go on to describe various minute aspects of her life in unnerving detail. If I thought about it for a moment, I could probably tell you the exact shade of lipstick she's wearing (Kyoto Red by Tatcha), the city she lives in (Paris), a