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Ego is the one who whispers to us ears, that we will not be able to find happiness than in the outside world, through the accumulation of things. He's the one who whispers to us that if we find partner, couple fit, all will be harmony in our lives and we will no longer know suffering. When it seems that everything goes wrong, he teaches that the only thing we can do is to blame someone else. Ego has his own system of beliefs. If we want, we can take beliefs. If we want, we can look for other perspectives from which to look at the world. Of course, we should not forget that our ego is an integral part of us. Therefore, we will develop discernment, recognizing thoughts due to terrible ego, the more free we are to be to in one life full of love and peace.
Belief system - ego-based fear, guilt and condemnation. If I select only the principles and lines of their catalogs, we choose practicality in a state of perpetual conflict and I don't know when some inner peace and happiness. He, being the mechanism of the ego, it should not surprise us that he does not believe in forgiveness. In fact, he will always do whatever it will stand the power to convince us that no one in this world deserves to be forgiven. Moreover, will go up to what we say we do not deserve forgiveness! Ego is cramponează desperate belief that no one should be forgiven for their mistakes.
On the other hand, he is absolutely convinced that we have to defend constantly against the attacks of others. It continuously sends this message, in the form of feelings, which can be recognized easily. For example, the mind is forgiving to the ego will always try to convince us that the only way to protect yourself from the new wounds of the soul is to punish the person who wronged us, through the anger and hatred is ours, isolating it and showing him the contempt of our so you feel bad for business.
Our ego is that inner feeling that makes us think that it would be inappropriate, foolish and even stupid to forgive someone whose actions hurt us or we have done, we feel threatened in any way. As it would not be enough, ego reminds us constantly that in our lives there are people who want nothing more in the world than we blow in like a chip, people who deserve only our anger, but not forgiveness. Over all, the ego is very cunning. He knows how to perfectly choose their witnesses. And you can be absolutely sure that he would choose only those who will support quite opinions. Ego is essentially contradictory. For example, it hides the fact that when concessions to the momentum, that we get angry at other people, wishing them pedepsim, we ourselves in our own prison. Another secret we hide it, is that our thoughts, devoid of forgiveness, creates in the center of our inner emptiness, sense of loss and sadness that prevent us from living the state of inner peace and love. This empty inside separates us from others and from the state of the disk, which we must describe.
If we believe in God, the self is us, whispers in ears that God is angry and vengeful, ready to hit us with trăsnetul it to punish us for "sins," and our thoughts are "wrong". The ego teaches that we cannot trust, we cannot feel safe in the presence of God. He argues that the unconditional love of God is nothing like the illusion that we create ourselves, and that while we crampona this vision stupid, we won't do what you have to delude yourself. Ego tries to convince us constantly that God is eternal was angry and ready to cause the death of people through various natural disasters like earthquakes and tornadelor that kill so many people or leave them without a home. He goes on to affirm that God sends us these misfortunes, only to punish us for our sins. The mind is not in a state of forgiveness ego is constantly cramponează thoughts, fear, suffering, pain, despair, anxiety and doubt. She believes that every mistake is an unforgivable sin.
**The top 20 reasons why we will never forgive**
It is very difficult to forgive when you listen to the voice of the ego, which teaches that the best thing to do to punish the person who hurt you, and denying him your love. It is very difficult to forgive when you have ego, stubborn, who is constantly trying to convince you that hatred gives you security and confidence much more than love. It is very important not to make the ego our enemy, but we should not make it too loud. It is just as important, but we understand that it can lead us in the wrong way. Our ego never stops with the sermon. He cramponează belief system that valued the fear, conflict, indifference and unhappiness, making them its main priority. The ego thinks love is just a note of madness.
When we become too attached to the voice of the ego that happens, especially in moments of stress or when things do not go in our life as we would like, we hear clearly in our minds the voice of the ego that sends us a message that is not the case, to forgive. In fact, we have always a choice: we can listen to the voice of love, or ego. How can we find out exactly when to say ego? Just the voice of ego always creates fear. His advice leaves us is always in a state of internal conflict, never peace. When we listen to the mind, not able to forgive to the ego, it gives us countless reasons not to forgive, hiding us, but the fact that the only one we are suffering, losing our internal peace, we.
**Here are 20 examples of how to argue - ego:**
*1. That man, he was deeply wounded. He fully deserves to be mad at him, not love him anymore, and punished.*
*2. Don't be a fool! If you'll excuse me, that man will hurt you again and again.*
*3. If you forgive him, you're not only proving your own weakness.*
*4. If you forgive this man, it is, as you say, he was right, and the one who is wrong!*
*5. Only a man devoid of self-respect could forgive this person.*
*6. When you don't forgive someone, you control the man. Control is the main method that we use for the ego to feel safe.*
*7. The surest way to keep from the person who hurt you not to forgive her ever.
*8. If you don't forgive that person, you will feel better, because it is the surest way to get back at her.*
*9. If you don't forgive that person, you will get control over them.*
*10. Forgiving those who have hurt you is the stupidest thing in the world.*
*11. When you forgive someone, you give up your own internal security.*
*12. If you will excuse me, with whom you had a fight, you risk to make him believe that you agree with what he did.*
*13. Forgiveness is nothing other than acceptance of wrong behavior.*
*14. At the limit, you can forgive someone, but only if they sincerely apologize for what he did. Even then You don't have to forgive him, but fully.*
*15. If you forgive this man, who has sinned, God will punish you.*
*16. Admit it: always, error refers to others, so what's the point to forgive?*
*17. Never believe someone who tells you that you are projecting on others their own mistakes, dismissing them.*
*18. Don't fall into the trap of those who tell you that if You can't forgive someone for a mistake is due to the fact that You can't take a thing you made yourself and that you think is unforgivable.*
*19. If you'll excuse this barbarous act, you are not better than the one who committed it.*
*20. If you believe there is a God or higher power that protects you not be an innocent victim as long as you forgive those around you, it means you're crazy!*
**Change our belief system**
If we want to learn the value of forgiveness – so other people and our – we have to change the belief system. For this purpose, we can begin to abandon the beliefs of the ego that we must necessarily find someone to blame when our life is something bad. We can then accept the new beliefs in your heart to help us to understand the importance of refusal from auto-condemnation and condemnation of others so that we can surround love.
One of the ways by which we can do this is to change the way of thinking in relation to ourselves. The ego identifies itself completely in the physical body and not to imagine that we are spiritual beings who have come to live for some time in the body. If we manage to change that perception, looking at us, as spiritual beings are eternal, and not only that some simple body it will be much easier understand the value of forgiveness.
Happiness and inner peace does not come only when we refuse to apportion blame for what is not going well in our lives. Friend does not bring us the happiness we want as well as can't do any revenge or punishment. The only thing that can bring us the happiness is forgiveness. We are the only ones who can stop the cycle of anger, pain, grief and sorrow caused by our conflicts, internal and external. Each person is responsible for the rejection of narrow places that say one thing, forgiveness of self and forgiveness of others that can bring healing, joy and peace that they are looking for a long time.
**Changes begin to appear after overcoming each obstacle**
*Overcoming fear, shame and guilt.* The first barrier that must be overcome is our inability for us to change the belief system. Maybe the bottleneck on the path of forgiveness is the belief system based on fear, not on love. This blockade is starting to vanish as soon as we exercise the will to look with different eyes at other people, as creatures who use love, or being scared that they desperately need love. In other words, not to interpret other people's behavior from the point of view of the guilt or innocence of them. He doesn't need to look through the eyes of the critic, to see if it attacks us or not, but should, we believe, some creatures are harmonious that I know to enjoy love, or Vice versa, scares, and in this case, we pass on their request help.
*It is necessary to understand the mechanism of perception and projection.* In our quality of human beings, we have a mechanism, particularly that we provide meaning to our lives. We have wonderful memories of all the things we did, ever, almost from the day of our birth, and sometimes even up to this point. If in childhood or in youth we things have been painful or traumatic, we are not only what we remember about them, but even we tend cramponăm them, evaluating from the point of view of their present and our future.
Mechanism of perception and projection is an integral part of a human being, but she is able to use this mechanism in their own interests. He assures us that our predictions in relation to other persons or situations, is the reality itself. In the end, he convinces us that all of our thoughts and feelings unpleasant due to individuals or situations present in the outside world. The last thing I wanted would now understand it, is that everything that we experience in the present time is solely determined by the thoughts in our minds.
In General, we are not responsible for the perception and projection of our own, but if we begin to do this, we will have the freedom to choose really between a belief system - ego and love. If we realize how he uses his own " I " - our projection mechanism, we may be, we are truly free will. We can provide you with all due respect our senses, deciding if we want to develop them or we can escape from them.
*Control the past and the future.* If we want to prepare the mind and heart to forgiveness, you must give up forever the belief that the past will be repeated including in the future. When we attacked, the fear to do what we do defensively. This fear continues to exist in our subconscious years, saving us the confidence that we could be at any moment attacked again as well. Our ego teaches us not to trust other people, and even expected, that we will again attack. There is one aspect of our consciousness that lives constantly in the past, full spaime and who is convinced that the past will repeat itself. This aspect of our consciousness there is a confidence unwavering that painful past to predict the future automatically it is also painful.
The belief that events from the past, in the future they portend is grown ego, which is not fed than our thoughts full of fear, unable to forgive the one who judges and condemns. Unfortunately, this unhealthy diet to keep us separate from our divine self, the experience of love and unity with other people, including the experience of God's presence.
The symptoms of suffering and pain, they always have roots in our thoughts, in our inability to forgive, and can take various forms. Little who allows for the possibility that when cramponează their thoughts are critical, and they refuse forgiveness, they choose mostly to suffer. Ego we often whispers in my ear that this is the best way to punish him for that, which hurt us, but, in fact, the only ones we punished ourselves. To remind you that pain, fear, insecurity, and disease to do than to feed the ego. Therefore, his hate, inner peace, love, happiness and health.
The perception of the ego (which we seek to give him to believe) is that if we don't hold a grudge against the person who wronged us, we put ourselves in danger. Unfortunately, this negative energy that we use builds up inside us and sooner or later turns against us, just like a boomerang.
Remember, our thoughts and our beliefs always determine our life experience. The purpose of forgiveness is to release us from the past, including all the misunderstandings and resentments that we have in front of other people. Forgiveness not only puts us all in danger, but even helps us to live a more fulfilling and happier now. If at the moment to feel peaceful, and we tend to project this state of inner peace in and for the future. Thus, this happy covers happy future, seeking to become one with him. Unfortunately, most people live in a reality where the past is full of fear, it determines (via projection) with a future full of fears, a reality that seeks to become effective, because our beliefs will always create the reality in which we live.
Likely that while we will continue to live in this body, we will tend to constantly produced important decisions and refuse to forgive. Therefore, we have to remind ourselves constantly that each moment is a new opportunity to make a choice their due. Personally, I have a sincere belief that one of the most beautiful gifts of even this power to choose thoughts that are cultivated in his mind. Free will can liberate us from our own important decisions that we, and our own attachment to the past.
**Forgiveness helps us to move on to another vibration – the vibration of love. It reminds us that love is our only reality, and that beyond it there is nothing. Love is the answer to all the questions and problems that we face!**