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The Peace Academy: Curriculum on Personal Boundaries (Part 1)
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# <center> Personal Boundaries </center>

Personal Boundaries refer to the rules and limits that we set for ourselves in regard to our relationships with others. 
You can think of boundaries as a spectrum with *porous boundaries* on one side and *rigid boundaries* on the other. 
Healthy boundaries fall somewhere in between these 2 extremes.

Healthy boundaries include being able to say “no” to others when you want or need to, but also being comfortable opening up to others and forming close relationships.

Someone with rigid boundaries keeps themselves at a distance from others  while someone with porous boundaries gets too involved with others.

People are multi-faceted, so someone may have porous boundaries in one area of their lives while having rigid boundaries in another. 
Most people have different boundaries depending on the situation.

A healthy range for boundaries would be to set them at 20% on the low end and 80% on the high end, depending on your personality and the specific situation.


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# <center> How To Achieve Healthy Boundaries Within a Community </center>

Healthy boundaries are essential to maintaining peace within a community or workplace.  
Being completely porous and emotionally raw can be as problematic as being rigid and closed off from others.
We can create healthy boundaries by being mindful of our emotional state and setting intentions.  


***Mindfulness:***
Being mindful and aware of our emotional state is a key element for successfully working with others.  
For example, if we are having an emotionally raw day we need to first be aware of this in order to manage it so that we don’t explode and cause problems within the community.

***Setting intentions and managing your emotional state:***
We need to manage our emotional states to successfully work with others and maintain peace.  
We can’t always wear our hearts on our sleeves or be distant and unapproachable when working with others.

Before entering a situation, you can focus your mind to set your personal shield strength. 
Imagine your personal walls and either build them or take them down depending on your current emotional state.
If you are feeling emotionally raw then build your walls to guard yourself.
If you are feeling overly guarded, then take down your walls in order to process the needs and concerns of others.

If you find that you aren’t able to successfully manage your emotional state in this way then it is best to take a break if possible.


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It is not necessarily easy and it takes some work, but creating healthy boundaries is  essential in order to successfully work with other community members and to ultimately maintain peace.
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@sikhanteuk · 
great post, upvote and back comment
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@violetmed · 
This is all very good information and hopefully people that read you post will take it to heart!
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@simondocherty · 
I feel that since I am getting older my becoming less in control of my emotional state. I don't know whether it is, alcohol intake, stress, work, lack of fitness or none of the above.

I think we need to take a closer a look at ourselves yet get distracted by other stimuli around us like, tablets, tv's, phones.

Good post, I will focus on this in the coming months.
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@lilastar ·
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Thank you for this and Peace Academy! I'm so happy to be finding like minded kin here with consciousness expanding posts. I upvoted you. If you have time, check out my content. I'll be posting as tag Starseed Academy soon. You've inspired me with your tag! Blessings <3 Love Lila*Star
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@shello · 
Hey @aggroed, good explanation on personal boundaries, I definitely fall closer to the rigid end. Some participation omce in a while wouldn't kill me as I'm slow to open up. Something to work on I suppose c:
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@aburmeseabroad · 
Inner peace and mindfulness of ourselves. Reminding myself to be better at them. Thank you
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@bigtakosensei · 
Yes boundaries are an important part of communication and for me for has been a little tricky. The older I've gotten the more I've struggled with how much to share with different people I interact with. And in it really has gone both ways at different points.

A lot of that was just me being afraid of not being what I thought was expected of me in certain situations. 

But here recently I'm learning that some mistakes probably need to be made in order to figure out where I fit in, how others can make me better, or even how I may be able to help someone else. 

Boundaries have a very important purpose though, but maintaining them at appropriate levels takes a little work sometimes. 

Don't want to do too much ranting but great post
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@outerground · 
nice @aggroed. I think that sagely advice equally applies to discord channels  and steemit comment posts. 

In lieu of body language and tone of voice, (which make up 70% of communication) It can be difficult to read the *emotional* tone of a written comment, thus judicious use of **emoticons** is recommended to convey the mood in which it was written &#128513;  	&#128539; &#128540;

[>>>Steemit Emoji Master List by @blueorgy<<<](https://steemit.com/emojis/@blueorgy/steemit-emojis-master-list)
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@sebcam · 
"The Peace Academy" --LOVE ITTTT :)
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@outerground · 
nice @aggroed. I think that sagely advice equally applies to discord channels  and steemit comment posts. 

In lieu of body language and tone of voice, (which make up 70% of communication) It can be difficult to read the *emotional* tone of a written comment, thus judicious use of **emoticons** is recommended to convey the mood in which it was written &#128513;  	&#128539; &#128540;

[>>>Steemit Emoji Master List by @blueorgy<<<](https://steemit.com/emojis/@blueorgy/steemit-emojis-master-list)
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