Hi,

in the times that we live, where people get offended by any negative tone or word, where people are brainwashed into positivity, can we have real genuine feedback?

It is a legit question, as today sincere feedback is important, even feelings might be hurt. It is better to know the truth, that we suck at some stuff or live in a bubble world of fantasy that we are perfect.

Well, I would rather have genuine feedback. It is then up to me if take the chance to improve or not, but this shall be my choice. Life is not easy and true friends who can tell some other person the truth are seldom. Most people can't even accept negative feedback, as they take it personal.

I asked my wife to tell me all the time I do something bad or where she can sees ways of improvement. I get the harsh truth on  a daily basis, which in the end helps me. Of course, feedback is important to come with arguments. The better the situation is described, the easier is to find a solution for it.

It is the same when I talk to my kid. I try to explain him why we do some things and why we don't do some others. I never tell him that this is because I say so. I give arguments and pay attention that he get's at least some information of what I say.

So, do you accept and ask for negative feedback?