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If you feel that the people in your surroundings are not helping you move forward toward your achievement or goal. This is for you!
In order for you to be successful in life, you must come to realize that some of your friends are unaspiring losers and you need to remove them from your life. If you surround yourself with lazy and unambitious people, you might as well become a part of them, unless you are willing and there is a burning desire from inside you to change,then you are ready for the new life ahead. With difficult people in your life, problems can be more constant and insidious. It could be a friend,family or neighbor whose negativity is dragging from achieving your goals. When you feel you are ready to cut off ties with toxic people, you must
Limit the conversations
Limit the time
And you must look after your mental health
Make sure it’s the right reasons
Convince yourself that it’s for the best
Prepared for any confrontations
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One of my favorite quote from Dwayne Johnson Distance yourself from people who:
Lie to you
Disrespect you
Use you
Put you down
Ambition comes and goes in every stage of our life. You can’t just decide to distance yourself from people not until you know them and their behavioral attitudes. Some are basically unaware of the negative influence they have on those around them. While others seems to derive satisfaction from creating chaos in people’s lives. Toxic people should never be worth your time and energy. They create stress, strife and unnecessary complexity. Hansen F Hansen once quoted that “People inspire you or they drain you.” According to studies, it is said that stress can have a negative and lasting impact on the brain. Trust me! You don’t want that. Take a good look around you! Who are the people you link with? Your family? Your friends? Your colleague at work? Your neighbor? Do they have an impact in your life? Or do they have any negative attributes in your life? If No! Then you have a lot of cutting off to do!
Avoid people that try to:
-Play the victim card to get your sympathy.
-Lack of empathy.
-Have nothing good to say about you to anyone.
-They gossip about you behind your back.
-They try to crush your dreams and ambitions.
But before doing any of these, try to study the behavioral pattern of people you know,either positively or negatively. There are lots of subtle and straight-forward ways to distance yourself from unambitious people, but since you are unable to control how a person feels and reacts, there is no assurance that you won't hurt his/her feelings. If you are trying to create distance between a family or former co-worker, this can prove to be easier than trying to put distance between you and a friend you were once close to. But Before taking any decisions, evaluate what you need or want from the person. Do you want more positivity from the friendship or does your friend seem to ask for more than you can possibly give at this time in your life? As times goes on, people tend to grow and change, hence, it sometimes becomes impossible to nurture the friendship you had in the past, especially if it centered around your family or work. Having a clear understanding of your reasoning for wanting some distance will help you communicate your needs in a more respectful way. When you need to distance yourself from a friend, family or colleague and you do so in a positive manner, people will learn from it.
When you are no longer in love with a particular person (your girlfriend), You can’t fix a broken relationship, there’s is no way you can help someone who isn’t willing to help his/her self. If he or she has zero motivation to change then you cannot help him or her as he or she is already in denial of their place in life. After all these years, you are surely gonna feel guilty about leaving a long-time friend. It’s up to you to make a decision. Do you want to ambitious or you want to settle for less. As a person, you must learn how to emotionally detach from yourself when making certain decisions.
Change begins with you!
When you free yourself from unambitious people, you begin to feel yourself to be YOU. A need and clingy friend is likely to drag you down but you don’t want to hurt his or her feelings by cutting him or her from your life. “We can really get tired around some people”. We have some certain people that just suck the life out of us without doing anything bad but we feel insecure whenever we are around them yet we don’t know why.