> Berapa menit seorang laki bergunjing tiap hari? Hasil penelitian ini sangat mengagetkan. ![image](https://img.esteem.ws/mgmbsnsecz.jpg) Mari kita ingat-ingat, berapa banyak kita membicarakan orang lain setiap hari. Entah lewat percakapan atau lisan maupun lewat tulisan. Bergunjing bisa di mana saja, entah dalam angkutan, warung kopi, pos ronda, kantor, hingga grup chat dan media sosial. Namun sebagian orang tidak merasa apa yang dilakukannya sebagai pergunjingan. Apalagi bagi mereka yang dilanda "hawa panas" alias energi negatif. Sebelum kita terlalu jauh, kita coba perjelas dulu apa itu bergunjing. Menurut [Kamus Bahasa Indonesia online Kementerian Pendidikan dan Kebudayaan, bergunjing adalah: berbicara (beromong-omong) tentang kejelekan (kekurangan) seseorang dan sebagainya.](https://kbbi.kemdikbud.go.id/entri/bergunjing). Jadi bergunjing tekanannya pada sisi negatif, membicarakan kejelekan orang, kekurangan orang, dan hal-hal negarif lainnya. Jadi jika kita membicarakan kelebihan orang lain tidak termasuk dalam pergunjingan. Celakanya, selama ini perempuan kerap dipersepsikan sebagai orang yang suka bergunjing. Ada semacam "cap" bahwa bergunjing dan bergosip adalah identik dengan wanita. Padahal, tidak semua wanita suka bergunjing. Banyak wanitia yang lebih suka menghabiskan waktu senggangnya dengah hal positif -- entah membaca, ngobrol hal bermanfaat, dan mengerjakan hobinya. Begitu pula di media sosial, entah itu grup-grup chat, facebook, twitter, dan chat. Di Facebook, bahkan lebih parah lagi. Orang suka bergunjing massal. Lagi-lagi, mereka merasa apa yang mereka gunjingkan adalah kebaikan, bahkan ada yang hingga membawa-bawa agama segala. Lalu pergunjingan itu diberi like dan dishare oleh banyak orang, bahkan ribuan orang. Siapa yang memberi like dan membagi ke wall Facebook lainnya? Ya kelompok para penggunjing itu sendiri. Setidak-tidaknya, orang yang bersetuju dengan peggunjingan itu meskipun ia bukan dari kelompok penggunjing. Soalnya ada juga orang yang cinta buta pada sesuatu sehingga ia kehilangan daya kritis dalam bernalar. Akibatnya, ya itu tadi, gunjingan dianggap dan diklaim sebagai "kebaikan" dan pencerahan. Celakanya, itu mendapat tepuk tangan. Bahkan, di media sosial, hoax pun banyak mendapatkan tepuk tangan. Banyak dishare dan diberi like. Meskipun mungkin ada pula sebagian di antara itu yang boleh jadi bernilai baik, tapi kebaikan tentulah harus disampaikan dengan cara yang baik. Bukan dengan cara bergunjing. Pada taraf tertentu, bergunjing bisa disebut tindakan paling pengecut seseorang. ![image](https://img.esteem.ws/iqni0hs508.jpg) Fakta lain, coba siapa yang paling banyak bergunjing di media sosial? Amatan saya adalah laki-laki. Boleh jadi amatan saya itu salah. Namun sebuah penelitan memperlihatkan hasil sangat mengagetkan. Penelitian itu dilakukan sebuah lembaga internasional, Onepoll. Penelitian itu melibatkan 5.000 koresponden di seluruh dunia. Hasilnya penelitian itu menunjukkan bahwa pria lebih parah keranjingan gosip atau pergunjingan. Menurut [penelitian itu](https://www.merdeka.com/gaya/penelitian-pria-lebih-gila-gosip-daripada-wanita.html), para responden pria menghabiskan rata-rata 76 menit per hari untuk menggosip. Sementara wanita hanya menghabiskan 52 menit dari seluruh waktu mereka untuk bergunjing. Topik yang "populer" mereka gunjingkan adalah soal teman mereka sendiri, termasuk teman-teman mereka yang perempuan dan cantik. Adapun topik yang kerap digunjingkan oleh kaum wanita adalah tentang perempuan lain, kehidupan seksual orang lain dan berat badan. Tapi di kompleks saya, bergunjing adalah kerjaan pada pembantu rumah tangga di tengah-tengah jeda pekerjaan. Mereka suka duduk atau berdiri berkelompok di pojok tertentu. Mereka melakukan pergunjingan sebagai bagian relaksasi dan hiburan. Mungkin mereka kurang piknik. Tapi boleh jadi juga orang yang kebanyakan piknik pun suka bergunjing. Semoga kita tidak. JAKARTA, 20 April 2018 MUSTAFA ISMAIL #refleksi #bukanpuisi #inspirasi #kultum #cangpanah IlustrasiI: Pixabay.com
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azzurra92 | 0 | 1,498,137,083 | 100% | ||
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minnowsupport | 0 | 24,747,426,438 | 0.5% | ||
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feedme | 0 | 81,984,224 | 10% | ||
nwijoo | 0 | 52,179,416 | 10% | ||
nadiirsafaa | 0 | 52,015,935 | 10% | ||
hachmanisabir | 0 | 52,246,727 | 10% | ||
morwhaletip | 0 | 52,232,821 | 10% | ||
morwhaletips | 0 | 52,232,821 | 10% | ||
rewardshare | 0 | 52,232,792 | 10% | ||
rewardsshare | 0 | 52,232,792 | 10% | ||
habercitr | 0 | 6,673,014,341 | 100% | ||
morwhalear | 0 | 52,232,821 | 10% | ||
morwhalefr | 0 | 52,232,821 | 10% | ||
mdsafwankhan | 0 | 6,623,616,471 | 100% | ||
zouhalsana | 0 | 52,007,505 | 10% | ||
atmanefarouk | 0 | 51,955,685 | 10% | ||
ramanisafwan | 0 | 51,986,926 | 10% | ||
sarmitirajaa | 0 | 71,484,744 | 10% | ||
raghifjamila | 0 | 51,993,802 | 10% | ||
rawanebadre | 0 | 52,019,400 | 10% | ||
malihamoussa | 0 | 52,000,733 | 10% | ||
aminamarchalik | 0 | 52,235,982 | 10% | ||
mardibachir | 0 | 51,972,965 | 10% | ||
anoirelgama | 0 | 52,000,733 | 10% | ||
elhajjasaidia | 0 | 51,983,361 | 10% | ||
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steemnews-fr | 0 | 2,222,110,818 | 100% | ||
seakraken | 0 | 19,817,090,387 | 1.38% | ||
coral-reef | 0 | 1,099,102,378 | 100% | ||
moroccoteam | 0 | 52,179,416 | 10% | ||
wig319 | 0 | 6,191,395,383 | 100% | ||
cryptorg | 0 | 77,929,710 | 1% | ||
ryacha21 | 0 | 1,333,878,891 | 100% | ||
willyana | 0 | 519,756,568 | 100% | ||
raoul.poenar | 0 | 94,068,640 | 1% | ||
supernovastaffy | 0 | 6,240,789,154 | 100% | ||
greddyforce | 0 | 78,056,531 | 1% | ||
jkramer | 0 | 1,421,118,687 | 21% | ||
davidsteem | 0 | 612,335,234 | 100% | ||
blogiwank | 0 | 522,668,396 | 100% | ||
p-a-t | 0 | 1,336,714,237 | 100% | ||
aro.steem | 0 | 485,486,620 | 100% | ||
sdin | 0 | 241,483,804 | 100% | ||
dfunny | 0 | 6,084,826,044 | 100% | ||
gamersunited | 0 | 1,458,394,693 | 100% | ||
riezaldi | 0 | 278,366,232 | 100% |
Postingan yang sangat bagus.dan komentar yang sangat mengagumkan
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makasih
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Hey, just wanted to let you know I gave you an upvote because I appreciate your content! =D See you around
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Wow. Riset yang luar biasa. Ternyata kaum pria lebih parah ya ngegosipnya. Haduh. Lebih rempong dari mak-mak ternyata. Terima kasih sudah berbagi Bang Mus. Baru tahu kalau kaum laki-laki intensitas bergunjingnya lebih tinggi dari perempuan. Hahahaha. Mungkin memang kurang piknik atau kele ihan piknik itu Bang hahaha. Asli ngakak baca ini.
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ya makanya pikniknya jangan terlalu sedikit dan juga jangan terlalu banyak. seperti obat, kalau kurang dosisnya gak bikin sembuh. Kalau kelebihan dosisnya bisa berbahaya. Jadi pakai ukuran dan takaran yang pas ya @willyana
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