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<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">在分析这句Robin怼Alice的台词之前，我们先要来看看一看Alice为什么一定要和交往地很顺利即将迈向婚姻殿堂的Josh分手，去寻找独立的自己。从影片中我们可以看到，Alice从小是在父母的关爱之下成长起来的，进入大学没多久就遇到了男友Josh。</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">用她的话来说就是，之前是跟着父母一起住，离开家以后就是和男朋友同居。没有真正意义上体验过独身生活的她，在夜店狂欢回家后都没有办法靠自己把连衣裙的拉链拉下。Alice提出要“暂停”在我看来只是想要戒掉对Josh的依赖，却没有真对从心理上独立过。</p>
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<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">这部电影里面的Alice，会让我联想到《他其实没那么喜欢你》中的<strong>Gigi</strong>（Ginnifer Goodwin 饰）。她们都是极度缺爱的人，只要别人稍微给个眼神就认为对方对自己有意思。她们会与对方迅速坠入爱河，并且连在哪里举办婚礼以后要几个小孩都脑补完成。</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">当Alice要学会独立的时候，我以为她会成为另一个横穿纽约街头，像Anne Hathaway那样做个穿Prada的女魔头。结果呢，Alice只是从一个酒吧到另一个酒吧买醉，在不同的人床上醒来然后悄然离开。这不过是从一个男人身上寄居，再转移到另一个男人身上，根本就不是独立。</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">没有男人就活不下去的女人，以爱情为人生第一要务的女生，真的很可悲。</p>
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<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">《单身指南》中一直强调人们需要具备一种能力，就是要懂得如何区分<strong>Alone和Lonely</strong>。Alone和Lonely并不是一回事，前者只是代表独处，而后者才具有一定孤独的意味。</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">影片的最后，Alice回忆了身边经历的那些人。她慢慢发现，比起一次次地在男女关系里迷失，不如先找到真正的自己。她开始有计划的健身、读书，甚至还做出了可以帮助自己顺利拉动连衣裙后背拉链的小工具。然后有一天，她终于去了之前她一直想要去的大峡谷看日出。</p>
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<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">文章的最后，我想分享给大家Alice在片尾出的独白，送给那些不愿意向世俗之见妥协，不打算让爱情成为全部的女孩子们。我想用这一小段话告诉大家，<strong>适时的学会独处能让我们拥抱更好的自己</strong>。</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">I’ve been thinking that the time we have to be single, is really the time we have to get good at being alone.
（我一直在思考我们不得不单身的时间，这个时间我们需要擅长一个人独处。）</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">But, how good at being alone do we really want to be?
（但是有多少独处的状态是我们想要拥有的呢？）</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">Isn’t there a danger that you ‘ll get so good at being single, so set in your ways, that you’ll miss out the chance to be with somebody great?
（当你适应状态并如鱼得水的时候，这难道不是一件危险的事情吗？）</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">Some people take baby steps to settle down.
（有些人一小步一小步慢慢安定下来。）</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">Some people refuse to settle at all.
（有些人则完全拒绝安顿。）</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">Sometimes,it’s not statistics.
（有时候，爱情不是统计学，数字，公式，概率。）</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">It’s just chemistry.
（它仅仅是化学反应。）</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">And sometimes, just because it is over, doesn’t mean the love ends.
（有些时候，恋爱关系虽然结束了，但这不代表爱就会烟消云散。）</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">The thing about being single is you should cherish it.
（单身的关键是珍惜这段时光。）</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">Because in a week or a lifetime of being alone, you may only get one moment,one moment when you’re not tied up in a relationship with anyone, a parent, a pet, a sibling, a friend.
（因为，在这孤独的一周或是孤独的一生之后，你会发现这个时刻，也只有这样一个时刻，你与任何人都没有感情交集，哪怕是你的父母，你的宠物，你的兄弟姐妹，你的朋友。）</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">One moment, when you stand on your own, really truly single.
（在这样的一个时刻，你独身一人，自由自立，这是真真正正的单身。）</p>
<p style="margin: 0px 0px 1.2em !important">And then, it’s gone.
（然后呢，它转瞬即逝。）</p>
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