**...continued...** from [[Part 1]](https://steemit.com/hive-174578/@olawalium/being-single-should-be-a-choice) and [[Part 2]](https://steemit.com/hive-174578/@olawalium/being-single-should-be-a-choice-ii)

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I have a friend. She is the type that feels the need to be in a relationship so she won’t be lonely. She calls herself a loner and I would never blame her at all because her background contributed so much to it. She is such an adorable soul and I love her. A lot needs to be done on her and I pray for strength to do that.

She is not single by choice, but by circumstance, so that is why her boyfriend acts anyhow because she is defined by this guy. The guy would act up and she would be the one running after him because she doesn’t want to be all alone by herself. It is a bad state for anyone to be in. I said in the last chapter that, in a relationship, no one should be at the mercy of the other.

When you go into a relationship, go into it not to fill a void, but because you know you have the capacity to love another, knowing fully well that you have loved yourself first. If you are not capable of loving yourself, how can you be capable of loving another? It takes only an understanding partner not to take advantage of your insecurities and lack of self-love.

There was a time this guy blocked her on all social media and she still felt it was her fault. I was really angry with her on that. This is what not loving yourself enough can cause. It is not so much in having a partner, but in being happy. What usually causes this, is the pressure from the society who look at people differently when they hear they are not in a relationship. Being in a relationship is by choice. Being married is by choice, being single should also be by choice, if we are to enjoy it and have a clear head about it.

**...to be continued...**

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