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Looking back now I can only imagine some of my thoughts and how much I have changed from the person I used to be. In my head I live in fantasy and a perfect world and how everyone should be perfect. I was so wrong and life have really found a way to teach me a lesson. 


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Some many things and people I judged and I was so wrong, I lack the back knowledge of things and I wish I knew better but growth and experience can be a great teacher. At a point in my extended family, my sister in-law was staying with us and I just had a feeling about her that she's lazy and that would always cloud my judgement about her,along the line while staying with us, she gave birth and I think I was really mean., lol. So in my place a nursing mother is taking care of by older women in the family, no nanny culture over here as well because we rely on the older women and the mothers to take care of the babies. I wish I helped her with some of the activities she was doing those days to ease her work. I will literally ignore her and just focus on the baby because of what I thought about her, she wants everybody to work and not do any work but I had no idea pregnancy and taking care of a baby can take a troll on people. 


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Fast forward to when I had my own child, I felt very ashamed of how I did and I wish I could have done better. Pregnancy and taking care of a child is not a small work and we all need a strong support  system, no woman is a super woman and we need to be more patience in our dealings with others especially If we've not walked in their shoes. There are a lot of great lessons I have learnt looking back and they have mold and form me to be a better person. I don't let my past define me, I learnt my lesson and get better from it. I think we should all learn from our mistakes and not let it define who we are. We should all treat others with compassion and not judge from the outside. We will only know other people's struggle if we walk in their shoes. 



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