How to wield personal power, detach from situations, and expand trust. by raymondspeaks

steempress · @raymondspeaks · Nov 10 '19

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How to wield personal power, detach from situations, and expand trust.

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<p>Personal power is a funny concept.&nbsp;</p>
<p>It's something I've taken from the art of building up my self-confidence over the years.</p>
<blockquote>A concept only has as much power as you are willing to give it</blockquote>
<p>It may sound strange me saying this, but sometimes we can give an idea, a situation, a confrontation, or even people too much of our own power. Think of it in the sense that a friend or neighbour has done something that you didn't like, and now you're in bed, angry about it, mulling it over a thousand times in your head -- when realistically all you want to do is get some damn sleep. It can be frustrating, yes.</p>
<p>You may have heard someone say to you that you're spending too much time being angry over that instance, when in the grand scheme of things it isn't really that important at all. But to you, it's <em>really</em> damn important. It's also easy for me to sit here and talk about it like it doesn't matter. I'm not going to do that. These things, they're important to you. Of course they are.</p>
<p>So let's start with this:</p>
<p>To understand personal power we at first have to understand the art of trust.</p>
<p>People often tell me that I'm too trusting with others, but I disagree.</p>
<p>I have a two strikes method. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. I like to give people the benefit of the doubt at first -- I'm willing to give the most socially inept person a chance if they're willing to put the effort in with me. I'm often told that one can't be too trusting, but in my environment there has to be some element of trust, else I would never get anything done.</p>
<p>I call this part giving away my personal power. To trust someone to interact with me on any given level is to give them a slice of my personal power. It's like an in-roads to better getting to know me. Like I say, if you're willing to put in the effort with me, then I'm willing to put the effort in with you. This is my trust and my personal power. I give it away easily.</p>
<p>Okay, so, if you mess up with me once then I allow mistakes. Everyone fly's off the wall, everyone has bad days; you know? I get it. We're all human, we're absolutely prone to fuckups -- and some? Royally. I'm no stranger to letting my behaviour go down the toilet.</p>
<p>Mess up twice and I take all of that personal power back. Trust is gone. no more chances. I'm very strict with the last one -- else I can get walked all over quite quickly.</p>
<p>Did you see where I went with that? I don't trust you anymore so you are less likely to influence me, or steer me in any direction. You wield none of my personal power and I'm not willing to give you any more of it. It can hurt of course, but these things usually do.</p>
<p>Personal power is just like trust; in fact it probably is trust. Trusting someone is giving them an in-roads to the deeper and intricate parts of your life, whereas if you don't trust someone, then you don't go near them. It's easier to let people influence and guide you if you give them your trust.</p>
<p>But how to detach? Why are you still angry at this person you trusted? And why is it keeping you up all night?</p>
<p>Well, sometimes it's hard. I recently had a friend completely detach from me without even discussing it first and that hurt. I laid awake all night wondering what I had done, what was my actions that were that heinous that they just.. didn't want me to be in their life anymore?</p>
<p>This is where acceptance helps. I'm a BIG user of radical acceptance. For me, I tend to accept the world as it is, and use the tools that I have at my disposal to overcome the obstacles that life throws in my way. Changing the way the world spins seems too much hard work.</p>
<p>I used to get upset for days, months, sometimes years at the way my Dad treated me. There was once he tried to get me drunk and ship me off to the foreign legion -- I look back and laugh at that now, but in the situation it wasn't funny at all,</p>
<blockquote>Why can't my Dad be like any other dad, loving and nurturing to their son?</blockquote>
<p>He had so much of my personal power an I didn't even realise it.</p>
<p>Then something brilliant happened. I stopped trying to magically change him into this brilliant father, and just accepted him for who he was. My dad; the only dad I'd ever had.He'd never change. If he can't change for himself then he's never going to change for me.</p>
<p>Then as soon as I had accepted him as he was, he had no more power over me. I was ready to take on his sh*t.</p>
<p>To detach from situations you have to at first accept the situation that you're in.&nbsp;</p>
<p>Then, and only then, can you move mountains!!</p>
<p>So to recap. Your personal power is yours to give, and take back. And you have to first accept the world for what it is before you can change it!</p>
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