You are obviously a great writer.You every article is more valuable & educative.
Thanks @tarazkp for sharing your creativity.

This is true, sometimes we create some kind of behavior or modify our way of life to deal with certain conditions but the one way or the other the condition changes but we find it hard to change our ways. Sometimes this things become addictive and maybe harmful

Man, how do you have so many thoughts in your mind. How do you get so many ideas?

>This gets me into trouble as I haven't learned to keep my mouth shut and will often let people know of possible outcomes of problems before they have considered there is a problem at all. 

This is my weakness too. I can identify me with your post very well. I'm a big friend of to have empathy for other people. Leading me to the problem of thinking too much about the problems of other. This then leading me back to the point you did mention above. If there ever been a real problem.... :)

>My answer was, "You will feel it before you see it." 

Yes, feelings can give a good idea where everything will go.
However, for me it's a good text I can identify myself with.

Understand yourself, try to understand other, think and act.

That's one thing many people world over are caged in.. Identifying with who they are and thinking who they are. This is a norm that runs in all societies. We are always blocked in discoverying more about the world by not getting this perspective of life out of our way. I hope the message in this post can reach everyone. Coz I too are a victim myself and am starting to work on that side of me.

I was reading an article today by Claire Miller where he was talking about the changing skills required in today's society. He said  'We should be actually well prepared for  flexible world, in which skills are typically outdated by the time you finish  a four year degree' this applies to every aspect of our life. The future doesn't belongs to the strongest but to those who are ready to adapt fastest.

At the beginning of this piece, you asked a very pertinent question which is...

>we set up personal heuristics to deal with a whole range of situations, habits to get us through. But, what happens as situations slowly change yet, our habits do not?

What happens when the situations change and our habbits don't. Talking about change this morning...change they say is constant and as humans and as higher animals, it is natural for us to change as our environment changes because not doing so will leave you stagnated and layed back.

But in a bid to change, we should be flexible about it. People in the United states, from what I heard, smoke because of the cold weather. When an African man why is used to hot weather goes to the United state and begins to smoke due to the cold, it might become a habit and when he comes back to Africa , changing that habit becomes difficult for him and that's because of his inflexibility to change so I think we should embrace change but don't stay too long doing something that it becomes difficult to change again when the need arises....

My 2cents though.

> My approach is much simpler but requires more work as instead of creating good habits, I look to help people build environmental awareness, the sensitivity to see what is changing and then the understanding that new actions must take place. 

I personally am an advocate of focussing on changing habits if you want to want to improve as a person. For me, habits are what defines persons. I have the habits of eating healthy and exercises about three times a week, so I'm a sporty, lean kind af guy. That defines me. I have the habit of listening carefully, trying to empathize with others, choosing my words carefully so that I won't be misunderstood, keeping secrets... so that makes me a good listener. I have the habit of taking things personal very quickly, so that makes me a complex and sometimes exhausting person to understand. These are habits of mine I want to keep or want to change, and will let me grow as a person. Creating awareness of these things is done by self-reflection. Being critical of yourself and being completely honest about your own strenghts and shortcomings.


> The main reason is that people identify with who they are and they think who they are, is their behaviours which means changing action, changes the person. This is of course quite silly considering that our actions are continually changing all the time anyway, identifying with what we do means we can never truly mature from childhood behaviours. 

I disagree. Our behavior is  something we have fully control over and is the main thing people will judge us on, therefore it's a gigantic part of how we're perceived and how the environment will react to us. On the other hand: I could read a thousand books, meditate for years and try other things to change my mentality or way of thinking, but would it change me as a perosn if I didn't translate those renewed thoughts into action? If in a year my thoughts are completely changed, but I'd still *act, speak, do* the same things... Would I really be a different person?

> It doesn't take much to create change, you just have to have environmental awareness and the ability to adapt for it which means, the willingness to throw away what you think you are, and become something else entirely. "You will feel it before you see it."

Flexibility and reflection are hugely important to create change within yourself, but to create change I feel like it takes a lot of work. It takes a huge amount of discipline, perseverance and strenght to challenge old habits and replace them by new, better ones. Long-term thinking is hard, since the rewards won't come before your motivation will fade away. Doing things while motivated is easy, but to do them after your motivation has run dry, that's where it becomes hard That's where you need discipline and perseverance to keep your body and mind pushing towards your goal. And maybe that's where ability to adapt or creating environmental awareness won't help you as much in my opinion.

I'm interested to hear your thought on this. Thanks for the article :)

Yes! "Throw away what you think you are". 
When we stop thinking we won't stop being, but we will stop being and identifying with our thought-made Self, assume the position of neutrally observing our thoughts instead of judging them and consequently judging ourselves...

And I also agree with finding out for ourselves instead of following somebody else's "Truth".  When we follow somebody else's Truth there is always a higher chance  of playing victim sooner or later since we "didn't want that in the first place". This is the source of blame...

Thank you for emphasizing the importance of feeling! :)

nice pos... great writting..thaks for your post..

When we change ourselves we change our world. There is almost no reason to try to change outside circumstances, we can act, but try to change someone's mind other than your own. It's very challenging. Whereas if we change ourselves, we will have an affect on everyone around us, not to mention on our own success and opportunities.

Increasing our personal awareness is something that I feel most people need to do, myself included. It's something I've worked on and will continue working on.

I really like this one man, your writing is solid

I think the external changes are definitely what get a lot of people. Since, like you said, that is where they begin to feel helpless and blame that there was nothing that they could do to change what happened.