@anotherjoe 
Thats the whole point indeed. I love Jesus so much! Who would not? 
He did not teach us to be selfless but without self love we would not know how to love our neighbors. 
I have the urge to reach the highest form of love and share it to the whole universe like 
BUDDHA who teaches about Metta! 
The Universal ❤️ for all mankind and living beings.  

I found  this here

>The word 'love' is used to cover a very wide range of emotions human beings experience. Emphasis on the base animal lust of one sex for another has much debased the concept of a feeling of amity towards another being. According to Buddhism, there are many types of emotions, all of which come under the general term 'love' First of all, there is selfish love and there is selfless love. One has selfish love when one is concerned only with the satisfaction to be derived for oneself without any consideration for the partner's needs or feelings. Jealousy is usually a symptom of selfish love. 
Selfless love, on the other hand, is felt when one person surrenders his whole being for the good of another. parents feel such love for their children. Usually human beings feel a mixture of both selfless and selfish love in their relationships with each other.