thank you @homeedders, yes it is so restricting, I have seen many times the differnce between my girls and those who are in school, mine 3 find it so much easier to express themselves and do so freely. The amount of times I have gotten 'looks' because my children are being themselves and expressing their happiness and sadness openly. I really should have wrote about that above there really are so many wonderful things I could write about, thanks so much for creating this wonderful community xxxx