I'm married for almost thirty years, the first years of our marriage produced the glue that holds our marriage together today, for me being intimate with my husband is a spiritual act meant for God, husband and I, in our garden no one is allow but us, no public displays, no imposing our sex orientation onto anyone, since for us it is a gift from our Creator meant to be treated it with respect and care. Lust in the other hand, it is  a fleshy and last just for a short time for when trials and tribulations surge it requires love, courage, patients and hope, but there is none to be found, but just emptiness, pain, dissolution and brokenness and for the most part the female is the one who suffer the most.