You are mis-attributing the extremes. The two extremes are attachment towards society and resentment towards society. Being alone is the most natural thing. It's the moment where you can truly understand yourself. Think of the situation in terms of money. A person that is chasing money all the time will live in vanity devoid of meaning. A person who resent money would starve and suffer in bitterness. But money itself has __absolutely nothing__ to do with these extreme situations. Money is just a medium of exchange which you use to make your life better and easier. 

The extremes happen in the attachment- resentment dichotomy in the mind of the individual. Bit of both isn't the solution. You need freedom from both. As @dmwh mentioned, Don't Mind What Happens :-)