时间一天一天过去，距离母亲离开就快一周年了，不时不时地，心里面总是有些异样的感觉。父亲过世以后，我知道，能陪着母亲的时间并不是太多。除了2023年被封控的那一次，每年的清明节，我都会回家，其他时间，只要有借口，我也会回去晃一晃。家里有大姐照顾母亲，我回到家里，只是陪着母亲聊聊天，听她讲各种时期的往事。没有回家的时候，每个周六下午的4点钟，手机总是会提醒我，该打个电话给母亲了。 2022年底，因为新冠疫情封控策略的突然变化，又没有合适的准备和药物。母亲在12月份感染上了新冠病毒。最初的时候症状不明显，大家又不敢到家里去。等到用抗原试纸检测到阳性，已经是感染了数日。医院也并没有合适的药物，每个病床上都是新冠感染的老人。在2022年的最后一天，我急匆匆赶回家去的时候，母亲已经在住院了。1月份春节的时候，终于，母亲没有抗住，往生天国去了。 回到广州后，心底的变化无言描述。转用篮球明星乔丹的一句话说，母亲的离去，意味着我的一部分也永远的失去了。每个周六，不再有手机闹钟提醒我，该给母亲打个电话，让母亲听听我的声音，我也听听母亲的声音。 母亲不在了，于我是个巨大变化。送母亲上山那天，我难受，我伤心，却并没有特别的痛哭流涕。但是在2023年，却有3次，因着对母亲的思念而情不自禁地痛哭流涕。 第一次是2023年的年中，已不记得是哪一天了，我陪冬梅一起看电视剧。电视剧的情节是，一位早年离家参加革命的军人，阔别多年后回到家里，见到他母亲。他母亲视力不好，没有第一时间发现是自己的儿子回来了。儿子坐在他母亲面前，两个人，你一句我一句地说着话。我不记得他说了什么，只是心中一惊，似乎有一鼓突然敲在胸口，一口气接不上来，我想控制住这情绪，却无法做到，胸口起伏和抽泣，眼泪止不住往下流，情绪一发不可收拾。火山底下的情绪再也无法掩饰，也无法压抑，只能由它爆发。 第二次，我和冬梅一边吃晚饭，一边聊天。我说，有位名人，黄永玉，2023年6月3日去世。他在生前最后一份遗嘱中明确：“请将我的遗体进行火化，不取回骨灰。希望我的骨灰作为肥料，回到大自然去。”我说，我也可以学习黄永玉这位99岁的老先生，我还开玩笑地说，我并不在意老一辈人看重的那些事情，或许可以将我葬在海里，再不济将我骨灰埋在一棵树下就好了。 一棵树下？我想起中华民国的书法家于右任，他在49年后去到台湾，远离家乡。于先生在去世前就要求将自己葬在可以看到大陆的高山。他在日记中写道，我百年后愿葬于玉山或阿里山，树木多的高处可以时时望大陆。 是的，可以时时望大陆，这是怎样的一种思念呢？十几年的隔海相望却始终不能得偿所愿。我何尝不是这样思念我的母亲呢？眼泪就是这样不知不觉的流出来。我只能将筷子放在一旁，说不出话来，也无法用餐。我竟是个自欺欺人的家伙，我也和于老先生思念家乡一样思念我的母亲。我并不愿意将自己的骨灰撒向海里。我还是更愿意和自己的家人在一起，不管以什么样的形式。 最后一回，是在下班后的通勤车上，我戴着耳机听音乐。有人推荐一首《大梦》给我听，瓦依那/任素汐演唱。歌词的内容从六岁到八十八岁，呢喃吆喝中唱尽了一个充满无奈而又飘渺“生而为人”的一生。当歌词唱到：“我已五十八，母亲已不在”。母亲已不在，我的母亲也不在了，我的母亲也不在了。所幸我的旁边并没有人，没有人察觉到，我闭着眼睛，听着他接着唱“我该怎么办？”然后任由眼泪肆意地流向脸颊，流向嘴唇，也从鼻孔从流出。天下人对母亲的思念都是一样的，就如贾平凹那篇《怀念母亲》文章中描述的一样。 是的，母亲已经离去快一年了。母亲始终在我的心里面，母亲始终和我在一起。 妈，我想你。 幺儿 2024年1月14日星期日
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This story is a powerful and moving reminder of the human toll of natural disasters like earthquakes. The photo taken by Mr. Adam Altan captures the raw emotion and heartbreak of a father losing his daughter, and it serves as a testament to the pain and suffering that so many families experience in the aftermath of these kinds of events. The fact that the photo has touched so many people around the world is a testament to the power of photography to tell a story and to evoke empathy and compassion in those who view it. It's important to remember that behind every news story and every photo, there are real people with real emotions, and that it's our responsibility as a society to do what we can to help those in need in the wake of disasters like earthquakes. - In recent days, one of the photos of the earthquake in Turkey, in which a man is holding the hand of his dead daughter, has been widely reflected in the media and social networks. The photographer of this photo, Adam Altan, is a veteran photographer with 40 years of photography experience who has been photographing for the AFP for the past fifteen years. On Tuesday, one day after the earthquake, Mr. Altan was photographing a man sitting next to the rubble of a collapsed building in the city of Kahraman Maresh, one of the epicenters of the earthquake. No rescue team had arrived yet and residents were trying to search the ruins themselves to save their loved ones. But Adam Altan was surprised to see a man wearing an orange jacket who remained motionless in the midst of so much commotion. Altan then noticed that this man was holding a hand in his hand. This photographer started filming the scene: a father holding the hand of his dead child and not letting go. As the photo was being taken, the man followed Altan with his eyes and whispered, "Take a picture of my baby," as his voice trembled. He let go of his 15-year-old daughter's hand, which he never wanted to let go of, for a moment to take a picture, and immediately took it again. Mr. Altan said: "At that time, I was very affected, I had tears in my eyes, I kept saying to myself: My God, this pain is unbearable." Altan then noticed that this man was holding a hand in his hand. This photographer started filming the scene: a father holding the hand of his dead child and not letting go. As the photo was being taken, the man followed Altan with his eyes and whispered, "Take a picture of my baby," as his voice trembled. He let go of his 15-year-old daughter's hand, which he never wanted to let go of, for a moment to take a picture, and immediately took it again. Mr. Altan said: "At that time, I was very affected, I had tears in my eyes, I kept saying to myself: My God, this pain is unbearable." Altan then noticed that this man was holding a hand in his hand. This photographer started filming the scene: a father holding the hand of his dead child and not letting go. As the photo was being taken, the man followed Altan with his eyes and whispered, "Take a picture of my baby," as his voice trembled. He let go of his 15-year-old daughter's hand, which he never wanted to let go of, for a moment to take a picture, and immediately took it again. Mr. Altan said: "At that time, I was very affected, I had tears in my eyes, I kept saying to myself: My God, this pain is unbearable."  Adam Altan then asked this man his name and also the name of his child. The girl's name was "Irmak" and her father's name was Masoud Khansar. This photographer said that it was difficult to ask more questions in that situation. Because people had to be quiet to hear the voices of possible survivors under the rubble. Mr. Altan said that when he photographed this mourning father and his dead daughter, he thought that this photo was a summary of the pain of the earthquake victims. He said that after the photo was published in the media, he received thousands of messages from all over the world and people told him that they would never forget this photo.
In recent days, one of the photos of the earthquake in Turkey, in which a man is holding the hand of his dead daughter, has been widely reflected in the media and social networks. The photographer of this photo, Adam Altan, is a veteran photographer with 40 years of photography experience who has been photographing for the AFP for the past fifteen years. On Tuesday, one day after the earthquake, Mr. Altan was photographing a man sitting next to the rubble of a collapsed building in the city of Kahraman Maresh, one of the epicenters of the earthquake. No rescue team had arrived yet and residents were trying to search the ruins themselves to save their loved ones. But Adam Altan was surprised to see a man wearing an orange jacket who remained motionless in the midst of so much commotion. Altan then noticed that this man was holding a hand in his hand. This photographer started filming the scene: a father holding the hand of his dead child and not letting go. As the photo was being taken, the man followed Altan with his eyes and whispered, "Take a picture of my baby," as his voice trembled. He let go of his 15-year-old daughter's hand, which he never wanted to let go of, for a moment to take a picture, and immediately took it again. Mr. Altan said: "At that time, I was very affected, I had tears in my eyes, I kept saying to myself: My God, this pain is unbearable." Altan then noticed that this man was holding a hand in his hand. This photographer started filming the scene: a father holding the hand of his dead child and not letting go. As the photo was being taken, the man followed Altan with his eyes and whispered, "Take a picture of my baby," as his voice trembled. He let go of his 15-year-old daughter's hand, which he never wanted to let go of, for a moment to take a picture, and immediately took it again. Mr. Altan said: "At that time, I was very affected, I had tears in my eyes, I kept saying to myself: My God, this pain is unbearable." Altan then noticed that this man was holding a hand in his hand. This photographer started filming the scene: a father holding the hand of his dead child and not letting go. As the photo was being taken, the man followed Altan with his eyes and whispered, "Take a picture of my baby," as his voice trembled. He let go of his 15-year-old daughter's hand, which he never wanted to let go of, for a moment to take a picture, and immediately took it again. Mr. Altan said: "At that time, I was very affected, I had tears in my eyes, I kept saying to myself: My God, this pain is unbearable."  Adam Altan then asked this man his name and also the name of his child. The girl's name was "Irmak" and her father's name was Masoud Khansar. This photographer said that it was difficult to ask more questions in that situation. Because people had to be quiet to hear the voices of possible survivors under the rubble. Mr. Altan said that when he photographed this mourning father and his dead daughter, he thought that this photo was a summary of the pain of the earthquake victims. He said that after the photo was published in the media, he received thousands of messages from all over the world and people told him that they would never forget this photo
<div class="text-justify"> <i>হ্যালো **আমার বাংলা ব্লগ বাসী**।আশা করি সবাই ভাল আছেন।আমি ভাল নেই, আজকের দিনটা দুখের একটি৷ দিন।  সোর্সঃ[বন্ধুমহলের বানানো ব্যানার]() আমার বন্ধুর সংখ্যা প্রচুর।খুব সহজে বন্ধু বানানোর ক্ষেত্রে আমি এক্সপার্ট বলতে পারেন।কিন্তু বন্ধু আর কাছের বন্ধুর মাঝে অনেক পার্থক্য থাকে।কাছের বন্ধু হল সে যে সব আনন্দ সুখ দুঃখ সব ভাগাভাগি করে নেওয়া যায়। বন্ধুত্বের সম্পর্ক হল আত্মার সম্পর্ক,এটা এমন একটি সম্পর্ক যেখানে আপনার চোখে তাকিয়েই আপনার বন্ধু আপনার মনের খবর জানতে পারবে।অনেক পবিত্র একটি সম্পর্ক এই বন্ধুত্ব।যেখানে কোন স্বার্থ থাকে না। শিহাব আমার কাছের বন্ধুদের মাঝে একজন ছিল।শিহাব আমাদের হাইস্কুল ফ্রেন্ড ছিল।কিন্তু আলাদা শাখায় হবার কারনে বেশি পরিচয় ছিল না।ওর সাথে আমরা ভালবাসে মেশা শুরু করি আমরা ইন্টারে। অল্পদিনের মাঝেই শিহাব আমাদের গ্রুপের খুব কাছের হয়ে ওঠে। শিহাব এর সব থেকে বড় গুণ ছিল ওর সেন্স অফ হিউমার।ওর মত মজার মানুষ খুবই কম দেখেছি এজীবনে।পরিস্থিতি যতই গম্ভীর হোক, আপনার মন যতই খারাপ হোক শিহাবের সাথে ২মিনিট থাকলেই আপনার মত ভাল হতে বাধ্য।আর পরিস্থিতিও হালকা হয়ে যায়।খুব সহজেই মানুষের সাথে মিশে যেতে পারত।ওর মেসেই আমাদের আড্ডা জমত। তবে ওর এই হাসিখুশি মুখের পেছনে থাকা দুঃখ গুলো জানতাম শুধু আমি আর নাফিজ।ফলে আমাদের মাঝের বন্ড টা আরো স্ট্রং হয়ে ওঠে।এভাবে চলতে চলতে একসময় ইন্টার কমপ্লিট হয়।নাফিজ নৌবাহিনী তে জব পায়।আমি বাড়িতেই থেকে যাই।আর শিহাব পারিবারিক সমস্যার কারনে পড়াশুনা কমপ্লিট না করেই চাকুরি শুরু করে। ওর চাচা সিভিল ইঞ্জিনিয়ার হওয়ায় খুব সহজেই সে কনস্ট্রাকশন সাইটে জব পেয়ে যায় ইঞ্জিনিয়ার এর সহকারী হিসেবে।এভাবে বছর খানেক যাওয়ার পর ওর চাকুরি হয় **রূপপুর পারমাণবিক বিদ্যুৎ** কেন্দ্রে।যাওয়ার আগে ওর সাথে আমার কথা হয়।ও বারবার বলছিল আমার ওখানে যাওয়ার কোন ইচ্ছাই নাই।আমাকে জোর করে পাঠাচ্ছে। এরপর দুইমাস পার হয়।আসে আজকেই এই দিন।সকাল থেকে কেমন অস্বস্তি লাগছিল।সারাদিন খাওয়াদাওয়া করি নাই।রাতে মা জোর করে খাইয়ে দিচ্ছিল।তখনই হঠাৎ নাফিজ কল করে বলল ভাই শিহাব আর নেই।আমার মাথায় যেন আকাশ ভেঙ্গে পড়ল।আমার গলায় ভাত আটকে গিয়েছিল।কিছুতেই মেনে নিতে পারছিলাম না শিহাব আর নেই।। কিন্তু মেনে না নিলেই বাস্তবতা পরিবর্তিত হয়না।অবশেষে বাস্তবতা মেনে নিতেই হল।চোখের জলে বন্ধুকে কবরে রেখে আসতে হল। মনে হচ্ছিল কলিজা খুলে রেখে আসতেছি।দেখতে দেখতে একবছর হয়ে গেল শিহাবের মৃত্যুর।এখনো যে কোন অনন্দের মুহুর্তে মনে পড়ে ওর কথা।ওর বিদেহী আত্মার শান্তিকামনা করে আজকের পোস্ট এখানেই শেষ করছি।সবাই আমার বন্ধুর আত্মার শান্তির জন্য দোয়া করবেন।</i> </div> ***<center> **VOTE @bangla.witness as witness**  **OR** </center> **SET @rme as your proxy** <center>  </center>***   <sub> আমি বৃত্ত মোহন্ত (শ্যামসুন্দর)। বর্তমানে ছাত্র। নতুন কিছু শিখতে, নতুন মানুষের সাথে মিশতে আমার খুব ভাল লাগে। তেমনি বই পড়া আর ঘুরে বেড়ানো আমার পছন্দের কাজগুলোর মধ্যে অন্যতম। মুক্তমনে সব কিছু গ্রহণ করার চেষ্টা করি আর মনে প্রাণে বিশ্বাস করি,"বিশ্বজোড়া পাঠশালা মোর, সবার আমি ছাত্র"। </sub> 
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 [ImageSource:Pexels.com:FreeStock:Rodnae Productions](https://www.pexels.com/photo/photo-of-a-grieving-elderly-woman-holding-white-flowers-8865738/) **Ecclesiastes 7:2** **King James Version** >> It is better to go to the house of mourning, than to go to the house of feasting: for that is the end of all men; and the living will lay it to his heart.
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One of the most difficult aspects of life is mourning after the death of a loved one. It's challenging, demanding, and stressful. It's a normal and natural process that's difficult to overcome but necessary to go through. We grieve not only when a loved one dies, but also after a separation, divorce, immigration, bankruptcy, illness, or the loss of a friendship, job, or house, contrary to common opinion. The essential thing to note here is that something significant in our lives has vanished.  [](https://rectanglecirclee.blogspot.com/2016/06/sitting-alone-alone-girl-walking-drawing.html) Mourning is not synonymous with forgetting. We have physical, emotional, cognitive, and behavioural reactions during the grieving process. They are, in some ways, a part of the process of acclimating to change. As long as it does not go to extremes and interferes with one's life, it is deemed normal. Aside from the fact that grieving is a tough process in and of itself, there are a number of other elements that contribute to the difficulty of this time. One of them is the interpretation of the law. For some, grief entails forgetting about the person they've lost. They believe that mourning will cause them to forget about the person's recollections, experiences, and happy memories. Or, to put it another way, they are frightened of forgetting it. Mourning, on the other hand, does not imply forgetting. Grief entails acknowledging what has occurred, attempting to adjust to it, and going on with one's life, no matter how difficult it may be. Because they are grieved, a person is not forgotten. Everyone's grieving process is unique. Another factor that complicates the grieving process is that different people react to loss in various ways. This can lead to major issues, particularly between spouses. While one side is crying and expressing their feelings, ideas, and suffering, the other may remain mute, possibly not talking about what happened or giving more time to their work and pursuits, which can lead to interpersonal disputes. Because one side isn't grieving "properly." However, the situation is not so straightforward. The way people express themselves and process their experiences vary from person to person. Temperament is crucial in this situation. Our reactions are determined by our temperament. Grief is similar to how someone reacts enthusiastically to a pleasant event while another reacts quietly. Everyone laments the loss of a loved one. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to mourning. The main thing is to mourn and terminate this process after a while, not to disregard what happened.  [](https://media.istockphoto.com/photos/woman-holds-candle-on-black-background-space-for-text-picture-id1195553439?k=20&m=1195553439&s=612x612&w=0&h=k7lWJhtZwEbMfrOiueQ67kyFQrCkJzboMODLQGp-nKI=) The grieving process is one that must be lived through, but also one that must come to an end. It is an unavoidable fact that the grieving process is a trying time for everyone involved. It's critical to enlist the help of family members during this time. In this time, sharing feelings and thoughts with a loved one, as well as being understood by another person, has a healing effect. However, it is critical to not disregard what has occurred and to accept it, even if it is tough. Despite all attempts, this process might often take longer than expected, interfering with the person's life. Professional assistance is required at this time. ***
 <p></p> <center><strong></strong> Cover image by @sidalim88, using public domain image.<a href="https://pixabay.com/es/photos/cementerio-veterano-vdo-tristeza-269663/" rel="noopener" title="This link will take you away from steemit.com"> Source: </a></center> <p></p> <p></p> <div class="text-justify"> Hello dear readers, today I want to share with you a topic that has to do with the death of a loved one and having to know how to live with that grief. This situation is something that everyone in life has had to go through in one way or another and can certainly be approached in different ways depending on the subject who suffers it. </div> <p></p> <div class="text-justify"> Death is part of our lives and can be defined as the absence or loss of a person who has already departed from earthly life and we will not see them anymore. It is there where our pain begins in knowing that physically that loved one will never be seen again and we begin to experience a series of emotions and transitory stages.</div> <p></p> <center><img src="https://images.hive.blog/DQmUHw2W2di5HEdNjo94YFvGycR5cg4LpGaZvmJXYcGmfTh/portada.jpg"/></center> <p></p> <p></p> <center><strong></strong> Public domain image.<a href="https://pixabay.com/es/photos/muerte-funeral-ata%c3%bad-luto-2421820/" rel="noopener" title="This link will take you away from steemit.com"> Extracted from: </a></center> <p></p> <p></p> <div class="text-justify"> In the same vein, grief arises as a result of the loss of that loved one, this is the trigger to awaken in the human being these emotional stages that indicate to the people around us how we are coping with grief. Sometimes we begin to remember the experiences and memories we shared with the deceased person.</div> <p></p> <div class="text-justify"> Many authors indicate that grief is that transitory stage in which the person begins to discuss the absence of the loved one. However, the psychiatrist Elizabeth Kübler Ross, states that the human being must overcome 5 steps, which will be described below:</div> <p></p> <div class="text-justify"> 1. Denial: consists of not accepting the death of the person, it is produced as a consequence of a state of shock that prevents the individual from being aware of reality. In the same way, the case of simply not giving importance to the absence of the deceased may occur, all this as a consequence of the state of shock.</div> <p></p> <center><img src="https://images.hive.blog/DQmT4gBwS4TcJpj7xE6GZuWpp3G9nKfTC9GBvcpT2rPECKb/negacion.jpg"/></center> <p></p> <p></p> <center><strong></strong> Public domain image.<a href="https://pixabay.com/es/photos/triste-dolor-mono-blanco-y-negro-659422/" rel="noopener" title="This link will take you away from steemit.com"> Extracted from: </a></center> <p></p> <p></p> <div class="text-justify"> 2. Anger: it is produced as a consequence of the same denial and this is due to not being able to accept the death of that loved one, which causes such a strong pain that we tend to doubt even our religious beliefs and reproach God, we doubt his existence and end up losing faith. All this is generated as a consequence of the absolute absence of the dead person and even more if his death occurred unexpectedly. It can also be the case of blaming another person or, failing that, oneself, or looking for a cause in the environment.</div> <p></p> <center><img src="https://images.hive.blog/DQmZjxfot8SF4dfG88eJ2bX9SSgbao6oEgWv7Eq9ZGMGSuN/ira.jpg"/></center> <p></p> <center><strong></strong> Public domain image.<a href="https://pixabay.com/es/photos/depresi%c3%b3n-hombre-enojar-tristeza-2912404/" rel="noopener" title="This link will take you away from steemit.com"> Extracted from: </a></center> <p></p> <p></p> <div class="text-justify">3. Negotiation: it consists of maintaining the illusion that things will change, that everything is a terrible nightmare or, if the person is going through a final phase of cancer, it seeks different options in order to change the predestined destiny of the loved one.</div> <p></p> <center><img src="https://images.hive.blog/DQmUAad9oyZq18CgfmPFhK1o7sjzaqhPzQcjNTRZp2TaGMy/negocia.jpg"/></center> <p></p> <center><strong></strong> Public domain image.<a href="https://pixabay.com/es/photos/suicidio-depresi%c3%b3n-triste-adiccion-5127103/" rel="noopener" title="This link will take you away from steemit.com"> Extracted from: </a></center> <p></p> <p></p> <div class="text-justify"> 4. Depression: it is something you can not escape and even more if the deceased person was very close to you, this is one of the most difficult stages of grief to cope, we are totally discouraged, we do not want to do anything because everything reminds us of the person who left and sometimes we do not even feed ourselves for being immersed in a deep pain and thoughts to end, we also tend to close ourselves and isolate ourselves from our family environment.</div> <p></p> <center><img src="https://images.hive.blog/DQmRoTX71CvVRvwu7BCixzeP5RfM2PKiTtTKnigW1n1pSTJ/deprimido.jpg"/></center> <p></p> <center><strong></strong> Public domain image.<a href="https://pixabay.com/es/photos/hombre-deprimido-sentado-en-el-piso-2734073/" rel="noopener" title="This link will take you away from steemit.com"> Extracted from: </a></center> <p></p> <p></p> <div class="text-justify"> 5. Acceptance: this is the last phase of grief that the psychiatrist explains, once the stages mentioned above have been passed, the process of accepting the loss of the loved one begins and understanding their departure as a process that all humanity must go through.</div> <p></p> <center><img src="https://images.hive.blog/DQmZm69UCEp9zLKW71nGFdHqLPbLnQwtuhrgdq9NLF2pHRz/aceptacion.jpg"/></center> <p></p> <center><strong></strong> Public domain image.<a href="https://pixabay.com/es/illustrations/tumba-recordar-muerte-memoria-luto-4442626/" rel="noopener" title="This link will take you away from steemit.com"> Extracted from: </a></center> <p></p> <p></p> <div class="text-justify"> Understanding that grief is a process that is lived according to each person and as such should be respected is the first help you can give to the person who is suffering from it. Some individuals tend to live with grief for a long period of time, while others tend to remember the loved one according to their favorite places, objects, dates and important events.</div> <p></p> <div class="text-justify"> What is really important is to know how to deal with this situation when you are suffering from it. And if this process can be overcome in its entirety. The great unknown lies in whether you forget the death of a loved one or simply enter the stage of acceptance where you learn to live with his or her absence and only remember him or her with love and affection.</div> <p></p> <div class="text-justify"> And you, dear readers, how have you dealt with the loss of a loved one? I would like to read your comments related to this topic in the corresponding section.</div> <p></p> <center><h2><strong> MATERIAL CONSULTED </strong></h2></center> <p></p> <p></p> <div class="text-justify"><strong></strong> Soler Nuria.(2012). The loss of a loved one <a href="https://www.sfbsa.es/sites/default/files/guia_duelo_perdida_ser_querido.pdf" rel="noopener" title="This link will take you away from steemit.com"> Source: </a></div> <p></p <p></p> <div class="text-justify"><strong></strong>Bleda Perez Montserrat. Guide for bereaved family members.<a href="http://ico.gencat.cat/web/.content/minisite/ico/professionals/documents/qualy/arxius/doc_guia_para_familiares_en_duelo.pdf" rel="noopener" title="This link will take you away from steemit.com"> Source: </a></div> <p></p> <p></p> <hr> <hr> <hr> <p></p> <center><img src="https://images.hive.blog/DQme82WmhnV4FnHY9JSp4xJGnykF2L9RVxjqSxfXvDcSuVr/logo%20miladis%20PROJECTHOPE.png"/></center> <hr> <center><img src="https://images.hive.blog/DQmVTPM1ndZy6DKbGixYwEEWBTYqnoaFiaWpHgDUcoo5MN9/Banner%20Steemit.png"/></center>
 আজ 15 ই আগস্ট। আজকের এই দিন ভারতের জন্য আনন্দের দিন হলেও,বাংলাদেশের মানুষের জন্য শোকের দিন। আজকের এই দিন ভারতের জন্য খুশির দিন। কারণ আজকের দিনে তারা ইংরেজদের কাছ থেকে তাদের স্বাধীনতাকে ছিনিয়ে নিয়েছে। অথচ বাঙালি জাতির জন্য এই দিনটি একটি শোকের দিন। কারণ আজকের এই দিনে বাঙালিরা তাদের জাতির পিতা বঙ্গবন্ধু শেখ মুজিবুর রহমানকে হারিয়েছে। শুধু যে তারা বঙ্গবন্ধু শেখ মুজিবুর রহমানকে হারিয়েছে তা নয়। শেখ মুজিবুর রহমানের পুরো পরিবার এবং জাতীয় চার নেতাকে (তাজউদ্দিন আহমেদ, সৈয়দ নজরুল ইসলাম, মোহাম্মদ মনসুর ও কামরুজ্জামান) হত্যা করা হয়েছে। অর্থাৎ এই দিনে বাঙালি জাতি নেতৃত্বহীন হয়ে পড়েছিল। বঙ্গবন্ধুসহ জাতীয় চার নেতা হত্যার পেছনে যে মানুষটি প্রধান ভূমিকা পালন করেন, তিনি হলেন খন্দকার মোশতাক আহমেদ। খন্দকার মোশতাক আহমেদের নেতৃত্বেই কতিপয় বিপথগামী সেনা বাহিনী 14 ই আগস্ট মধ্যরাতে অর্থাৎ 15 আগস্ট এর সূচনা লগ্নে বঙ্গবন্ধুর বাড়িতে আক্রমণ করে তার পুরো পরিবার কে হত্যা করা হয়। এরপর বিপথগামী সেনা সদস্যরা জাতীয় চার নেতাকে হত্যা করে। পরবর্তীতে নেতৃত্বের অভাবে দেশে অরাজকতা দেখা যায়। ১৯৭৫সালের ১৫আগস্ট এর পরবর্তী কালীন কিছু সময় দেশের আইন-শৃঙ্খলার ব্যাঘাত ঘটে। আজকের এই দিনে দেশের সকল জনগণ বঙ্গবন্ধু শেখ মুজিবুর রহমানকে স্মরণ করে শোক প্রকাশ করে। 
 Md. Matiur Rahman, a teacher of Mohanpur Union in Godagari upazila of Rajshahi district, died at 9:30 last night due to an incurable disease. Inna-lillahe wainna ilahe rajiun. He was about 72 years old at the time of his death. He was working as a religiously skilled teacher in Bishwanathpur High School and College under Godagari Upazila. His death was deeply mourned by his family, colleagues at the institution, former colleagues, students and locals. He was buried in the graveyard of Bishwanathpur village at 11 am today.
রাজশাহী জেলার গোদাগাড়ী উপজেলার মোহনপুর ইউনিয়নের শিক্ষা প্রতিষ্ঠানের শিক্ষাগুরু মোঃ মতিউর রহমান গতকাল রাত আনুমানিক ৯টা ৩০মিনিটে দুরারোগ্য ব্যাধিতে আক্রান্ত হয়ে ইন্তেকাল করেন। ইন্না-লিল্লাহে ওয়াইন্না ইলাহে রজিউন। মৃত্যুকালে তার বয়স হয়েছিল আনুমানিক ৬২বছর। তিনি গোদাগাড়ী উপজেলার অন্তর্গত বিশ্বনাথপুর উচ্চ বিদ্যালয় ও কলেজের একজন ধর্মীয় দক্ষ শিক্ষক হিসেবে কর্মরত ছিলেন। তার মৃত্যুতে গভীরভাবে শোক প্রকাশ করেন তার পরিবার, প্রতিষ্ঠানের সহকর্মী প্রাক্তন সহকর্মী, শিক্ষার্থী এবং এলাকাবাসীরা। আজ সকাল ১১টায় বিশ্বনাথপুর গ্রামের গোরস্থানে তাকে সমাহিত করা হয়।
It is now 5:08 PM in the Philippines. An hour ago, they held a mass before my grandfather will be buried. We can only watch a livestream of the mass because its held in the province. I'm in Bacoor City in Luzon, and the location of the mass is in the Southern part of Visayas. Distance and the pandemic made it not possible for us all to go there, only my mother is there right now with her other siblings. I honestly don't know what to feel. <br> <br> <br> https://i.imgur.com/5se6ooF.png @steemchiller @steemitblog @shortsegments @steemingcurators @steemcurator01 @cryptokannon @steemcurator02 @steemcurator03 @steemcurator04 @steemcurator05
 <br>"Death comes as a friend" It was one of the most unforgettable quote in the Harry Potter: The Deathly Hollows. It was said when the last of the Peverell brothers in the story of "The Tale of the Three Brothers" by Beedle the Bard, who asked Death for a thing that he can go to any place without people knowing that he was there. I've now understand the lines being said in the story. We've just recently lost our grandfather. He had an heart attack that make him go to the hospital. We were inform that in his stay in the hospital, he shown signs that he was leaving us. I won't go into details to that, but I can only relate to the story what have happened. Given the signs that he gave us, we've taken the bad news lightly that expected. Although obviously some of us cried when they've heard the news. Writing this, is hard and heavy. We know that he's in a good place now where there's no more pain. Mourning is normal. Crying is normal. Feeling empty is normal. But we all know that it will pass. This heavy feelings will be lighter in time. https://i.imgur.com/5se6ooF.png @steemchiller @steemitblog @shortsegments @steemingcurators @steemcurator01 @cryptokannon @steemcurator02 @steemcurator03 @steemcurator04 @steemcurator05
These are definitely *"trying times"* in which we live. I have always tried my best to stay positive and to keep myself moving along with a good attitude and some optimism and hope that tomorrow will bring something better.  But sometimes even the best of us just run out of energy, and it just feels like life goes from *"hopeless"* to *even worse.* And you start to wonder whether there will *ever* be an end to the stream of depressing news. I'm sorry if this is going to be a bit of a *bummer* of a post, but *part* of the purpose of this blog I have been keeping for almost *four years* is to serve as a sort of catharsis through writing. And I need to count on it to be just that, as I try to make sense of the past seven days.  ## *Bad News DOESN'T Come in Threes...* Late last week, we learned that our long-time friend Bruce has an inoperable brain tumor, and has perhaps months to live. Immediately *after* that, our friend Jim lost his battle with cancer and moved on to another plane of existence. That was just five days ago. Then our daughter's boss' daughter and son-in-law were hospitalized after an overdose. Both 23, he died, she lived but remains critical... we only met them a couple of times, but they were bright young sparks.  Yesterday, the husband of a dear friend who passed from cancer last February was found dead, slumped over the steering wheel of his truck. He was 41... most likely complications from neglected diabetes, but suicide hasn't been ruled out. Also yesterday, our long-time friend Amy — whom I'd periodically attend retreats and workshops with — passed away suddenly; she was in her 50's. Meanwhile, we just learned that one of my wife's counseling clients who has also become a bit of a family friend... is now in Intensive care with Covid *"complications."*  ## *Numbness...* There has just been so much death and darkness over the past seven days that it feels like my *"get up and go"* has basically gotten up and *went.* And I have reached a point where I just feel *numb* and sort of *blank.* Someone could walk into my office right now and announce that an asteroid is heading this way and we will all die in a few hours... and all I'd be able to do would be shrug and say *"Oh, OK...."* You get to a point where you just don't *HAVE* any more... any more sadness, any more tears, any more emotion, any more *ANY*thing.  I'm forcing myself to write this because writing *does* help and if I can just *dump* it all into words, maybe I get at least get a decent night's sleep. And that's about all I have to say today... I apologize in advance for the depressing post! Thanks for reading! ***How about YOU? How is your week going? As always, comments, feedback and other interaction is invited and welcomed! Because — after all — SOCIAL content is about interacting, right? Leave a comment — share your experiences — be part of the conversation!*** ***(All text and images by the author, unless otherwise credited. This is ORIGINAL CONTENT, created expressly for this platform — NOT A CROSSPOST!!!) Created at 20210113 23:40 PST x085***