You seem to be trapped into a female perspective of things and I hope I can offer you the other side of the equation. Another view point for you to consider away from the things you where taught (And I say taught because in your text you used very specific keyword that only have meaning in a very strict view of male-female relations).

Unfortunately Steem is geared towards popularity instead of quality. While that is present you will only see the problems you mentioned worsen.

"I am not immune to fear. To be alive is to be afraid."
In a strict sense you are right, but there are many factors that influence our lives, reducing our living experience to fear is not the way to go. Humans mostly fear the unknown, and knowledge gives us the control over our fears and channels them into productive actions towards our happiness. To be alive is to act, to build upon the world instead of letting the world merely act upon you, like an electron unable to leave its quantum orbit around the nucleus.

"Even I have recently been affected by the pressures to show off some aspect of my body in order to get noticed and rewarded by the male whale gaze"
Its not the gaze that will reward you, its the resources that the male will offer you. Its not so much a pressure being put on yourself, more like the natural inclination to follow the easiest path. Sure building a rocket with your bare hands and going to the moon is more rewarding but a lot of hard work ("pressure") compared to just jumping out in a parachute and letting gravity do its work.
On the other side, your image will be a reward for the male. Being allowed the often hidden intimate details of a woman does on a subconscious level increase the pleasure of the male. There is little he can do to avoid feeling that attraction and seeking it, its is a pleasing sight as is a beautiful landscape, an intriguing painting, an emotive sculpture, a melodic song.

Women know this and the ancient art of teasing, or the more modern burlesque is the male equivalent of the rituals of romantic pledges of the man to the woman and dancing to present ones physical fitness. We should not blame often teenagers unaware of these natural impulses to be drawn towards them. We should explain why they are so predominant, why our brains evolved to seek them, and how to take control of those impulses when appropriate to lead a life more freely and truthful. 

"Female power is fairly non-existent and a woman's value becomes synonomous with her fuckability rating"
That is the female power. To have value for nothing else but simply existing. While all men need to earn power by their actions, most women have power just by existing. It is just the nature of things. Men give power to women by their need to be acknowledged by them, and women give power to men that provide benefit for them. Men are not necessarily looking for sex, but they are almost always looking for female validation. There is nothing that can be done for the fact that females have the exclusive ownership of reproductive access. Supply and demand. We can only create a symbiotic relationship, never a fully 'clonable' one. 

"The reason we need a balanced whale population is pretty simple: once female and gay male whales exist, the value of the boys increases."
Unfortunately, no it wont. Female power will only increase (you just need to look at female dominated spaces like Instagram to observe this). The only thing that will be added is female competition, because more 'hot chicks' will start competing for the more scarce male attention (that will translate directly to value for them).
While you do benefit from a balance, it will be for entirely different reasons. A balance of content will drive topics away from the sexual interactions that scarcity introduces. But that will only happen if the rewards stop going for popularity and quality starts being rewarded in a meaningful way.

"Most men are largely unaware of the fact that women like me exist. To them, women are just a one-dimensional fuck tool that can be turned off or on whenever they want."
I'm sorry you think like that, because reality is otherwise. You are putting in the same bag indulgence in ones pleasures like smoking a cigarette or drinking a coffee with an actual human relationship. Men and women react very differently under different contexts. Sexual release will only sustain a man for a couple of hours, but its the multi-dimensional relationship that will provide balance to the male psyche.

I hope you don't take my words as an attack. I understand your concerns. I wish only to offer you the other side of your view point. One that is also not malicious, one that is as natural and freedom seeking as your own.

Best wishes.