RE: It's the little things by lucylin

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thoughts · @lucylin · Oct 30 '19

>What will it be like to not only live debt free, but have multiple revenue streams coming in from various types of work....

I can tell you... it's _fan-fucking- tastic_.

Some people never want to achieve this freedom - and many but would prefer to perpetually work towards it, and _want_ never getting there.
happiness comes from playing the martyr instead, not _actually_ achieving success.
This is why 'knowing oneself' is so important.

> nor do I define myself by the attention others might give me as that leads to attention and validation seeking behavior....

That's funny, and a bit of a contradiction for you, more than most.

You write posts for the attention of others.
(There would be no logic to writing them otherwise, you could just write offline).
_Validation off others, for ones actions you see as positive - is normal human behavior.
It is a learned behavior(or innate, I'm not sure), from being a baby.
It is hardwired into us.
(With the exception of psychopaths and possibly sociopaths/narcissists).

I assume that you are using the definitions of the ' new age psychology', as supported by the life coachy types -and not the philosophical ones?

But here's the funny bit....
(well, it would be if you had any sense of humor or irony)

If I'm not mistaken (going off your posts and your job description), then you _depend_ on the attention and validation of others.
It defines the very job you do.
'Teaching people' various things, (as you describe), _requires_ that you get the attention _from them_ , and the validation also - reports on doing a good/bad job etc.

#### Without the validation from others, of you doing a good job, then you'd have no job!

(I use the words in the classical sense, not the 'put people in box to make things neat, life coachy, sense')

It's not a criticism of either _attention or validation_, they are human behaviors - its a criticism of your hypocrisy.

You criticize, _the very qualities that are ESSENTIAL for you to do your job_.

I wonder _why_ you would criticize those 'looking for attention and validation', when 60 odd hours week of you employ - a large part of your waking life, - revolves around receiving attention and validation, for doing what you do?

You are criticizing yourself, maybe..
Projection, much?
The irony.
Is it the unconscious guilt of a good man, manifesting itself?
I dunno about you, mate - but I know that one myself, very well.
(I discovered it early on in my ' getting to know myself', phase).
Came as bit of a shocker, I can tell you!

Guilt issues about the way you use the talents that you have - and how you use them to get ahead...?
...And then express this inner turmoil, through judgmental opinions on people, and on the world in general?
It kinda fits.

#### A charlatan with a conscience, is merely a wise man, in waiting.
(I know what I'm on about...)

Be nice to yourself.

_I knew there was a reason I stuck in there with you and why I like you_.
I'm trying to help.

Of course, that being said - if you _are_ psychopathic, then all bets are off!

Have a great day, mate.

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@tarazkp · Oct 30 '19

Validation from strangers is what you are after, I believe. 

Also, if a "bank hack" forced you to look for financial aid online, you have problems with your revenue streams and contingency planning. But then, how do you risk manage against people who can hack your bank because you argued with them on Steem? They can get you anywhere, even at the points of your online revenue streams by blocking gateways, threatening your ISP, get your accounts frozen or deleted at the platform level, throttle your supply chain... The list is endless. And just think, if that is what the people on Steem can do, imagine their off-Steem circle getting involved.

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@lucylin · Oct 31 '19

> Validation from strangers is what you are after, I believe.

What do you base it on? the 'happy clappy', life coaching interpretation of what 'attention seeking and validation', is?
The same happy clappy life coaching interpretations such 'stress doesn't have to be unhealthy if you don't _believe_ it to be?

If it's not based on pseudo psychology, I would be very interested in _how_ you come to draw your conclusions.

#### If it based in sound anthropological logic and study - then yes, I would agree with you - _100%_.

'Attention seeking' and 'validation' are _normal human conditions_ - and only seen as 'negatives' by pseudo psychology of life coaching BS.
Everyone on this planet does it, to varying degrees. (except psychopaths)

I think that's covered it, if you have any more to add, I would be delighted to hear from you.

>Also, if a "bank hack" forced you to look for financial aid online, you have problems with your revenue streams and contingency planning.

I never called anything a bank hack - you are trying to construct a false narrative, and put words in my mouth.
Very disingenuous..
Adapt and change, (which I did)...I recommend that you try it. I no longer have any problems, and now have various revenue streams.
....Life is very peachy, mate.

> But then, how do you risk manage against people who can hack your bank because you argued with them on Steem?

You use hack your bank again, trying to continue to build a false narrative.
Why would you do this? it makes you look disingenuous.

...Or do you _know_ that this occurred, somehow? Or are you hypothesizing a false reality. You wouldn't be trying mind games would you, you little tyke.

Are you intimating at some insider knowledge of something?(I don't think so, but hey, using your words not mine).
Or are you still trying for 'attacking the man', trying besmirching, and vapid psychological tomfoolery?
Clever move.
Very clever. (shit, you don't get sarcasm, I forgot).
I'm really tying to say that you are looking more and more like an idiot, rather than the wise guru...
The facade is slipping.

Neither are very good moves that you've just made, btw .
Very bad, in fact.
You've just shown them on the block chain.
(an explanation below).
Learn to play chess.

....but as you say, small minds talk about people, and you do it a lot - have you not yet realized that?Opps.
You forget _actual arguments_ as quickly as you can, and then switch to 'the person' as quickly as possible.
As you said, small minds talk about people.
(using a twig in a sword fight? )

#### Lifecoaching 101, : avoid the logic argument at all costs, and if anyone sees through bullshit, attack their character.

I'm glad you are showing it up for what it is, though.
thanks.

> They can get you anywhere, even at the points of your online revenue streams by blocking gateways, threatening your ISP, get your accounts frozen or deleted at the platform level, throttle your supply chain... The list is endless.

I know you can be as green as the grass sometimes, but c'mon... perleeeeease.

I only let shit like that happen once - call it coincidence, or synchronicity, or whatever. it doesn't change anything.
It's hard to freeze anything that no longer exists!
I don't hodl my position, I change, I won't watch my net value go down, day, after day, after day....
....I move, and adapt .

....Really, you need to give it a go - but being so risk averse - I understand why you cant- your mindset doesn't work that way. I get it, I really do.

Work less, and live a little...hiding in your work , is a classic defense mechanism - and one of avoidance, btw. (you can be noble in it's justification as well - giving you a watertight alibi...)

>And just think, if that is what the people on Steem can do, imagine their off-Steem circle getting involved.

_If i was paranoid_ ..... that could very well sound like a veiled threat, couldn't it?
Priceless.
Is that the sound of someones clothes coming off?
Is the emperor feeling naked?

It's interesting though, seeing you trying the head games.

First off....

.... the explanation as I mentioned to you above, is here...

_You might wanna go and get yourself a stiffy - I mean a alcoholic beverage, btw- not an excited male member, (although if that's you preference, go for it..)_

Here we go...

#### If you _truly believed_ that I was mentally ill, _('delusional' as you've stated, on many occasions)_
........then _what kind of evil fucker_ , would _intentionally_ play psychological head games with a mentally ill person?
....because here, that's what you would be doing, (_irrelevant_ of whether or not your assessment of my mental condition was accurate).

#### Independent of it's actual accuracy, it would still make you an evil fucker with bad intent, wouldn't it?
Are you happy attacking someone that you see, (in your own assessment), as mentally ill?
Seriously?

What does that tell the world about the person you really are, deep down. Who would do such a thing? Not me, that's for sure...
(It that the kind of behavior of a true psychopath?).

The alternative of course, is that you _don't_ think I'm mentally ill, at all - and your bullshitting.
Your strategies are being called out, and are falling apart under scrutiny, and logic - so instead, you're lashing out like a petulant schoolchild, resorting to having to try and smear me, use scholboy psychological games, - and use any strategy that you can think of to win a game that you've already lost. ( you just don't know it... yet).

_It's a good job that you're not competitive, though eh?...lmao.._.

Know thyself, matey.
I'm trying t help you.

Think this through, I'll help you....because I believe you do need some help in thinking things through.

Whichever way you look at it, after this round of jousting, support will dwindle away from you.
Or not. Time will tell...

....fortunately you are not not seeking approval or validation, so it won't matter to you that much either way, will it?...
Doh! that was sarcasm again...apologies for going over your head.

Why would support dwindle, though, you may be asking - I do hope so for your sake, it shows thiking things through?... you're a relatively big player in these parts, after all...

#### ......Because who would _want_ to be associated _on the blockchain_ ....for _everyone else to see_, ...(and that bits very important), with either:

a/
A psychopath, or someone with severe sadistic tendencies, who likes to bully the mentally ill and play mind games with them to achieve their goals?

b/ A manipulative person who will , smear, belittle, and do anything that it takes, including throwing accusation of mental illness, and veiled threats - to defend an indefensible position that's exposed through logical criticism?

You might keep some ongoing sycophantic support ( even serial killers get mail in prison), and low IQ individuals who don't see thorough your strategies, but I doubt it, not over time...

We are here 'playing it long', aren't we?

Oh, here's another thought for you...

_Imagine_ , just for one moment - - if there _was_ 'an offline circle' who was there to intimidate and threaten people offline?
Lets just say _there was_ , for a moment.
....it was you that suggested it, through inference, in your prepubescent attempt at mind games ( with someone that you see as mentally ill....ffs).
It would then also mean, that you you've now just announced a knowledge of this 'circles' existence, to the entire world! ...
...and broadcast it on the block chain, to boot!
....maybe steemfest is a possibility, after all...

Hows that stiffy that you have in your hand, tasting?
Learn to play chess.

....have a brilliant day, matey! (I mean it).

No hard feelings.
(I'm not talking about your stiffy, either!lol).

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