| json_metadata | "{"appParentAuthor":"rasamuel","appTags":["Motives"],"appDepth":2,"musingPostType":"answer","app":"Musing","appParentPermlink":"f33g8l3n5","musingAppId":"aU2p3C3a8N","appCategory":"Motives","appBody":"<p>Hey dude!<\/p>\n<p>Are you a genius of questions? Every question you ask is extremely well thought out and super interesting...<\/p>\n<p>Personally.... I think it's not helpful to have any sort of blanket statement for anything really... as tiring as it is, I do think each case and situation needs to be individually evaluated... because, quite simply, there's always other factors at play....<\/p>\n<p>Was the stated motivation the actual motive? People can lie, omit certain truths or have multiple motivations. I may want to want to help my partner move her amplifier in from the car because it's too heavy for her... but I also want to do it quickly so I can get back to what I was doing... and I rush and bang it into the wall... my overall motive was good, but my other motivation was selfish and so I wouldn't expect my good intentions to shield me from the pain of doing a nice thing badly.<\/p>\n<p>Did the person have a good motivation, but didn't think it through and screwed everything up? I mean, yes, it was lovely that they tried... but if they made everything worse than if they hadn't tried at all... I'm not sure how happy I'd be. If something was a genuine accident, of course I wouldn't be stressed... but if there was a pattern of making things worse, well...<\/p>\n<p>Did the person have good intentions, but then got distracted? Again, if that was a pattern, then I'm not sure how thrilled I'd be... but if was a genuine once-off mistake I don't think I'd be too stressed.<\/p>\n<p>I guess the point I'm trying to make is that forgiveness leads to a happier life... but the caveat is that I'd want to see people learning and growing... and not making the same mistakes over and over... even if their intentions are good.<\/p>\n<p>We can choose to be happy, and it's important to not let other people bring us down... especially since other people definitely go into the category of 'things we can't control'... but I also think it's important to cut people out of our lives if they're not adding to it... it's important for our own happiness and mental health... so forgive, unless that person is the worst, then cut.<\/p>\n<p>Harsh, but fair.<\/p>\n<p>Thanks for asking such a thought provoking question... I have to say, I'd likely give a totally different answer on different days... this one really makes you think.<\/p>","musingAppVersion":"1.1","appTitle":"Is having a good motive a good enough excuse to justify bad outcomes?"}" |
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