Why waste your time and energy and risk offending someone when you get it wrong? Have no expectations for any person. When something positive happens, you will be pleasantly surprised. And, when something negative happens, you will not be shocked, sad, or angry.

I prefer it to be faked, even if I can see right through it.  I'm kind and polite around people I dislike because I'd prefer to be treated nice in kind.  If someone has a problem with me, though, I'd still rather know what the problem is.  It's not contradictory either.  I can be polite and say "I dislike you as of late because you X" and I won't have any hard feelings.  It's better than "Fuck you, I hate everything about you, go kill yourself."

They're trying to get something out of you, so they have to be nice or you won't give it to them. After they've got what they wanted, they just go back to their own selves.

I prefer people who treats me in real... but not offensive. It doesn't have to be nice but must be honest. I don't want people around me if they don't like me, too. Great post. Thanks. Upvoted and followed. Hugs from Spain.

Giving each other basic politeness doesn't seem too much to ask, I'd think. It's okay that you don't get along with someone or perhaps even dislike them. That's no excuse for being rude to them in any kind of setting.

It's something I also try to do myself, even though I can't think of too many people that I really dislike.

Mostly, people want you to be yourself. How many times have you heard someone, "Just be yourself"? But once you start being yourself (real), nobody likes you for who you are. 
Sure, I also like when people are nice towards me even if they are pretending. But I much rather have them being real than "fake", so I could know who to keep around and who not.
Most people who are just pretending to be nice to you, often talk about you behind your back. I'd rather have them talk about me to my face, you know?
And just maybe, you can learn or see your flaws when people are not just pretending to be nice. Maybe you could improve yourself this way?

I came from the culture, where we are more direct, to culture, where more weight is put into don't hurt someones feelings.

While I agree, there is not reason to be a jerk, some transparency and honesty is important. If you don't like me I would rather i know this, instead you smile in my face and talk bad about me behind my back.

This is really a food for thought. Come to think of it, I'd rather I am treated nicely even if it came as an act of pretence. 
Thanks for sharing this. 😍 😍 😍 
Am resteeming this piece.

Well, I prefer people who can try as much as possible to be nice to me even if they have their own reasons of not liking me. I do same too, the only thing I will do to give a little sign is not to be close to them. You can't see me having a friendly kind of conversion with someone I don't like but I will be nice to them if somehow something like work brings us together.

I don't mind when people fake it honestly. It kinda goes back to that saying of "if you have nothing nice to say, then don't say anything at all", so maybe the people should just keep quiet at that point...not entirely sure though.

I definitely agree with you that people should always be nice and friendly in formal setting, the problem with those people being nice in informal settings is usually the fact that you can't help but be around them in the informal. One of my best friends is friends with someone that doesn't care for me much, but I end up being around him so much when we go out for drinks and what not.

I'd prefer someone who pretend to be nice. I can tell if they like me or not. Just want life to be easier at the surface

I think we should be real, but learn tact so that we can express our frustrations in a way that doesn't hurt people. That's the real challenge

I think more of it this way, We are all born with different desires built into us,  have you ever had the desire to hit your boss or someone who is just rude?some people have desires to consume drugs but they don't because their morals and brain tell them they should not.

Treating someone nicely even if you don't like them is more about being moral and clever than pretending in my humble opinion. it's like choosing to go swimming in the cold water knowing it's good for your health and body even if your desires tell you to stay in bed. So it's an act of courage to be nice to someone knowing very well you don't really like them.

I act professional, but necessarily 'nice'. I reserve nice for people I like.

Funny how the older you get the less you care if people like you or not :)  I agree with you that I prefer people to be pleasant around me (it's the mature/polite thing to do) and to not waste my time and/or energy if they have a problem with me.

I tend not to trust people who always try to make me smile. i know this is weird.

I agree. In public, don't be a turd but in private, just leave me alone! I do think we need a degree of decorum or we'd have chaos all the time.

I currently live in Thailand, famous the world over for the *'Thai Smile'* and friendly hospitality. A lot is genuine, but most tourists speak little Thai and have no diea what lurks behind that smile....... That's not a criticism, just an observation, and it makes for a much nicer world even when the niceness isn't so genuine.... Thanks .. Geoff  

My parents always taught us to be polite, regardless, and I'm a peacemaker by nature anyway, so it comes naturally for me to be nice.  No pretending needed.

That said, I have bad days like everyone, but on those days I do my best to keep my bad humor to myself, and not to bludgeon others with it, regardless of what else is going on.

On the rare occasions when I meet someone I really don't care to be around, I generally take my leave pretty quickly.  Life's too short, and there are lots of cool people, so no need to hang with the ones who don't resonate.

The bottom line is that I like most people, I can get along with nearly anyone, and the exceptions are few enough that it's never really been much of an issue.

To me - there's no need for others to pretend they love me, if they don't, otherwise it may be confusing when building a friendship. But when people do not like me or I don't like someone - there's still place to kind and nice attitude along with some respect. :) 

I think we are talking about basic etiquette and courtesy. If a person doesn't love me, I don't want him flattering or pretending to love me. I'd rather he didn't talk to me. But if I am forced to communicate with such a person at work or we find ourselves in a common company - we can communicate neutral.

It's a great question and I suppose we all do what we think is right. There is enough trouble in life without us causing more suffering, so I personally try to be nice even if I do not like someone. This is simply because I don't want to be the reason for pushing that person over the edge. 

In my opinion, kindness is basic, because it generates respect by keeping prejudices away. Unfortunately today it is also rudely kind, many people use kindness as a mask. Lucifer is remembered as the demon "beautiful outside and ugly inside". Congratulations for the post!

They're trying to get something out of you, so they have to be nice or you won't give it to them. After they've got what they wanted, they just go back to their own selves.Why waste your time and energy and risk offending someone when you get it wrong? Have no expectations for any person. When something positive happens, you will be pleasantly surprised. And, when something negative happens, you will not be shocked, sad, or angry.