You are a very wise young man.  Are you like this despite your parents upbringing or because of their upbringing?

I do realise that I am in a luxury position. We have no real problems in our lives. No money problems, no health problems. Free education for our children. No army duty.  and a good healthcare, though becoming more and more expensive, but I can afford it. If you have enough money ( I am not super rich, but belong to the upper middleclass), lots of problems, are not a real problem.

I somehow believe that if you are brought up in poverty and constant problems, and even danger, it is much more difficult as a parent to be rational, because of the stress. Its not an excuse, but I do understand it.

I also believe that parenting will become (generation by generation)better when everybody gets a good education (until 16-18 years of age), inclusive woman, especially woman. With knowledge comes the possibility to understand that children aren't foolish, that you are empowered to choose the right person in power, and understand that witchcraft is bullshit, that mental illnesses  or disabilities are not shameful, but treatable in a society where you can talk about it. Still, here in the West, it isn't perfect. And I am ashamed to say that people are getting polarised, and more violent against each other, and violence at home is also on the rise again. The # met movement showed there is still a lot of sexual abuse as well. 

 This is all happening in a time that the world actually has the capacity to feed everybody, to educate everybody, where equality is possible.