Thanks, steem on.

I find myself in very similar dilemmas that you describe in your stories. I am often torn as to whether my input will result in a positive outcome. Knowing your audience is a valuable factor when I find myself in these sticky situations. The issue, in my opinion, stems from writing behind computers. I can intend for my message to be delivered one way and another person can perceive it totally different. Face to face interactions allow for body language to help depict the message being sent. Great stories, thanks for sharing! Keep steemin' on

I spent almost 7 minutes reading your post. I just notice on your profile photo I don't know if it is your facebook account profile picture is a condom.. I think even if you did not intended to say rude or to be judgmental as what the other said. That profile picture can add up to a bad impression of you.

we have different perceptions and what see and what we feel  can also affect how we respond to a certain subject. that is only my opinion. ^^

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you truly rock! totally agree with most of your views here. social media has been turned into where people display all manners of immoral and deviant conduct. where hitherto shy and homely ladies because of FOMO has joined slay queens, sharing all manners of uncut photos and posts not thinking of their future aftermath. most forget they gonna be mums tomorrow and will have to imbibe good morals on their kids.  thank you for this post. let the wise read and find the true value in its contents...let the foolish claim its a free world and they can live as they please...
for most royals, i cannot agree more. I watched the burial ceremony of the Thai king in amazement because of how many ordinary Thais were mourning and weeping which means, the former king truly touched the lives of many. He has left a real positive mark in the lives of many of his citizens! good post.upped

An interesting perspective on things, to be sure.

What do you think you would have done if, instead, they were people you were conversing with IRL? Would you have offered your opinion without hesitation? Paused to carefully formulate a reply? Or kept your own counsel on the matter/s?

No, it may not have been your place to change their minds, but if you step back and keep your thoughts private does that also mean an end to real open & honest conversation? (Perhaps that is more of an issue when talking to friends rather than random strangers.)

As the saying goes (I think): *life is too short for bad conversation*. :)

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Oh gosh, I completely know what you mean. 

My go-to method nowadays is to ask them. 
Would you like to hear something that I think you want to hear? 
Or would you like my version of the truth which you might not find very nice to hear? 

By giving people an option, they have a choice which they have given me permission to do. 
It has saved me quite a few times as in that sometimes people were just NOT ready to hear my perspective of truth on a situation (maybe because they knew it was THE truth?) 

Anyway, I can verify, this works! :)

I definately find myself on both sides, both mindlessly posting my opinion and being bothered by someone being insistant on their opinion when it is really annoying, or something I feel strongly about. How do we balance freedom of speach and our own truth with being considerate of other peoples feelings and their truths? It is something I struggle with a good amount, but in real life too.

Thank you for this post.

Sometimes kindness is painful. For example, a doctor amputating someone's limb to save their life. But of course, it is nice if it is as painless as possible. In the case of that woman, I think you went the overly painful way, but I can see your intent was not to harm. I admire your ability to admit your mistakes.

As for necessity, I follow this rule: if I say/write something publicly, I *should* be ready for criticism. If I don't want it, I should stay silent. The same works the other way: I *can* criticize anything I want (while trying to be nice and properly proving my point) if it was shared with me. So, in case of your friend's post about monarchs, I see no problem. It is his property, but he has let you in, allowing to comment on his thought. It's not like you came to his house and started throwing garbage all around. Also, it was not even something personal for him, unlike, for example, religious beliefs.

Although, I agree that sometimes preserving good relationships is more important than proving someone's wrong.