Abortion... No matter if it is _abortus intractu_ or _abortus provocatus_ people, society has an opinion about it. What this opinion is is coloured by how one is raised, age, life experiences. The reasons why one is pro or contra is rarely taken objectively. Decisions have to be made or are made at a certain point under certain circumstances. No matter how you put it there will always be someone hurt and frequently whole families fall apart. 

**If it comes to pregnancy, raising children for each parent there is a first time**. Some do a great job, learn, grow into it and like it, others will learn nothing, feel nothing and never be good or like parenting. It's not something you can prepare any parent for. The child on the way is different from the child we have in mind. If we think about having a child we have a baby in mind not a teenager with acne, a big mouth, one who shows no respect, a depressed or jobless child or a disabled one. The wanted child has to be the perfect baby and stay that way. It has to be the precious creature we have in mind to brag about, make life better, not worse.

_Will a course "parenting for dummies" solve these problems laying ahead. It might look that way but it won't. Each person is different, the lifestyles are, hormones, health and finances are and without a click, under the right circumstances, something great can end in a disaster. A disaster no one is prepared for._

**The number of broken souls, among people, adults and children and, foster and adaption children is high**. Sky-high and so is the increasing number of people living underneath the "poverty level". We think raising a child is not such a big deal and all it needs is love but it's hard to spread the love with a broken mind, soul, an empty stomach, a head filled with worries, without any support.

It's nothing to feel ashamed about if you can not get pregnant or **do not want** to have children. Not if you are a woman because it's you who has to raise it and it's you who has to sacrifice and count with health issues. Many of them will show once you are getting older.
How come so many women feel ashamed, not complete without children? It's what society does, men, teachers, religions and the government does. They made you believe you are incomplete, not good enough. You have to fit in and being different is not accepted everywhere. **It's not true a child makes one, every parent complete, it's not true being married does.** If that was the case broken marriages, people and children wouldn't exist. 

Losing a child is hard. It's hard if it's out of your hands but hard too if you had/have to make the decision. A part of women finds a way to live on and a part will not, they end in pieces. 

**An abortion is personal, a hurt**that cannot be shared with anyone else because everyone is different. What doesn't eat you now can eat you in the future. It's what we see around us. Not only in people who are depressed or have Alzheimer's but those who suddenly want to meet their children/biological relatives after 20-30 years as well. 

**It's easy to yell at** women who want or had an abortion. To demonstrate, attack them and say all life matters. It's easy to judge if you are not in someone else's mind, shoes, the one who has to take care, take responsibility, doesn't live that person's life. That's something protestors and governments don't do, they have no idea what you are going through. They will not care for the next 21 years or longer, not provide in all the best or share their love with those who needed. Preaching about love is not the same as practising it!

_An abortion is not a fun day out, easily done. It affects women, no matter their age, in every way and... it affects doctors, caretakers. Abortion hurts but it is part of life_.

Abortion isn't a crime. There are plenty of good reasons for not having children. If you can not take care of yourself, financially and emotionally it's wiser to work on that first, your own future and wellbeing. 
_"You cannot give what you never received,"_ is true for most people especially if it is about love, warm, strong relationships and self-esteem. 
What is a crime is rape, forcing girls/women to have children, steal children and sell them. Molest and sexual abuse is a crime and so is; brainwashing, manipulating, forcing into drugs, and _not_ giving the chance to let each person decide for him or herself what is good or right. 

**Children aren't tools.** They shouldn't be used for personal security, not be used to build an army or expand religions. They shouldn't be raised in a violent, abusive environment, be (ab)used, make anyone look better and be unloved. In a world with so much crime, lack of love and security, an overcrowded world filled with fear and even prisons and psychiatric hospitals are overcrowded, a world where more criminals are walking free as there are locked in, where the streets are filled with drug addicts, many suffer from depressions, are sexually abused and molested and so many make a good income out of all this misery it's good to know yourself and try to avoid more harm. 

**Do not point at, judge those who decide differentlyy** or to whom it happened if you are not the one who has to deal with it if you can not give all those unwanted children a great home, love and guarantee each one of them a bright future. We know CPS can't and most of those being adopted or in foster homes feel lost and empty.

Abortion is not a crime but how we force, judge and break others is.



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