Sorry to hear this. Families can suck. Don't let them ruin your life anymore than they have already.

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Who am I but a stranger who hears the burdens you bear - trying to understand the fate you were forced to face alone. I will not lie and say that it is easy to forgive. But this is what makes what forgiveness is meaningful. It is because these things are difficult to forget - that thoughts of forgiving feel so... non-conclusive. 

I say this. You - a good soul - doing your best to be there for those who chose to act on their own. Let them continue to be strangers to those who ignored you. Forgive them. Not for the sake of letting them off - but for the sake of yourself so that you may move on and turn to a new chapter. What's done is done - and what is simply is. Do not let the past of what happened cause you more burden with worry and pain - forgive because you are strong to do so. Forgive knowing that it is unfair but that you forgive that unfairness as well - to both yourself and to them. Let them go. Flourish with the strength you have gained. That you were given from persisting and moving forward in all the circumstances that you were made to see. It is because you are here - where I listen and hear your burdens - that I tell you that you may release them. 

They more than likely will come across you time to time - this comment isn't meant to be filled with deceit - but realistic life events that simply just happen - and you will be challenged. You will be faced with a door. Each time, you can choose to walk forward, and turn the door knob - forgiving them as you go through it - instead of forcing yourself to hold the knob when deep down you know you have the strength to turn it.

So sorry to hear this, dear Karen. Sometimes a family is not a good family and there's nothing we can do, we can just move on, even it's not simple. Here in Italy we use to say that God give us good friend to apologize for some relatives and it's true, because we can't choose our relatives, but we can choose to have around us just good persons. Warm hugs, dear. ❤️

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This is a tough emotional ride you are having with your family.  Think twice before confronting them though, for your sake.

It's okay to feel hurt, I understand and I hope you feel better soon.

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I am very sorry to hear this and I don't blame you for feeling this anger.  
Forgiveness is the hardest thing to do in the world but it is doable and it is very important even when we don't want to.
This is what I have heard from a lady who has been abused by her father for 16 years and her mom knew and did nothing.  
At the end she forgave her parents, even though she didn't feel like it or wanted to and it doesn't mean that they are right for what they did and she even bought them a house later on.  
But her life has been so blessed afterward and she loves and enjoys her life as a priest.  I don't know if you ever heard of Joyce Meyer who is a Christian speaker.  
This is what she tries to teach people how to forgive.

Now I am not telling you to forgive your family, because I don't really know how or if I could ever forgive my family if that was my case, but as long as you are free from them and you are enjoying your life then that is great.  Please don't let them steal your life anymore or poison your life anymore (I know how hard that is) but their are just not worth you getting stressed or sick etc. because of them. 

Like I said, this is taught situation you are in and I don't know how I would handle the case myself if I was in this position so I can't really help you or advise you of anything, but I just wish you all the happiness you deserve and wish you all the best dear friend.

Hugs.

Oh wow, this is so tough and I'm sorry you have to endure this rollercoaster.

Dear Karen! I understand how upset you are. But I do not think that you should spend your energy on negative feelings about these people. Relatives are often strange, but nothing can be changed. I am not saying that you should build relationships with them. Just don't waste your feelings on them.

I'm so sorry that you have to go through all of this.

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