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It is a natural to love ourselves and the things that we do. That is something that is inborn and can not be over emphasized- it can not be changed. It is alright that we have people we look up to, who inspire us to be who we want to be. Whose lifestyle suits us well and we are pleased and maybe once in a while mimic them- these are all unique traits of human and good depending on who or what inspires us.

But I know that by now you must have known that too much of everything is bad and sometimes toxic. You have to understand that what is considered bad is not from fundamental evil but from fundamental goodness running out of control. If you are bent on doing things you feel is good but so go over board it harms you or the people around you then that is toxic.

It’s alarming how people have not accepted who they in terms of look and it is so worse in the modern day world. It has gotten to the extent that if you are not in the latest trend or style or look then you are not considered as beautiful. Out of look insecurity people turn themselves into what they are not. Going extra mile to be like someone else… come on, this is a lifestyle that at the end of the day leaves you diminished and fade. Mind you, this is different from making little adjustments in order to be better than what “you” are and not going out of your way to be like someone else.

## He turns and became someone else.
These days there have been names that have been invented to justify lack of content in looks and behaviors. There has been justifications and people have been made to believe that if they do like the way they where created that they can change into anything they want.  Most are based on transgender, body part enlargements, fake looks and all other transformation that people are cool with, though this is not to judge anyone or talk them out of what they believe in. But this is to let you know that you do not have to go on the extreme to do things because you feel you have to be or look perfect, it is wrong.

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Who ever have seen this man’s before and after picture will never believe he is the same person. What do you call this- lack of confidence, getting the perfect look you think you want and maybe beauty?

In as much as it is okay for people to turn into something they are not, I still consider it as not okay. It is the easiest way of saying you are not proud of whom you are.

> The picture above is Bobrisky, a Nigerian internet personality, cross dresser and entrepreneur who is known for his social media skill most notably with the use of Snapchat, a social media application. Born Okuneye Idris Olarenwaju in 1992. Bobrisky, by virtue of his character introduced into the Nigerian society a set of ethics and morals which are not aligned with the Norm (social) of the nation Nigeria as so, he has been received with mixed feelings as he has a fair number of fans and critics alike. 

Where ever we turn today, its one transformation or another, men into women, women into men, body part enlargements, color change and so many of them. For as much as the society accepts this act does not make it right or good. This is practically a transformation that some how takes away your original identity turning you into something else, let this never be confused with, “I made ‘myself’ better” or I tried improving my looks… no no! This simply tells us that you are tired of being who you are, tired of conforming to your originality and tired of accepting you the way you are and now you are something/someone else.

## Going  into extinction

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To me these people are in extinction because they no longer exist. What is alive is another person. Well in a way what makes one is personality, I still wonder if the personality changes. It’s like wearing another body especially in trans-sexuality and then you must act in relation to that body. It’s like a man wearing a wig and making all up, trust me he would try to change the personalities of a man and would take up that of a woman. So I do not know yet but this is what Feran Bambust answered to: *Do transsexuals experience any personality changes after taking hormones?* 

> Everything depends on how you view personality. You do change, of course. You've gone through a huge physical and social transition, and your hormones cause your neural wiring to respond differently. You redefine yourself. So yes, you change.
Often though you take your old assumptions and habits with you, which establish a continuum from the pre-transitioned person you were. After all, a lot of transsexuals transition late in life, which brings quite some luggage to the equation. 
So when personality equals culture + personal history + biology + influential events + social interaction + self definition, I would say that you do become a different person with a recognizable background and recurrent reaction patterns.

What could drive one into extinction is lack of acceptability of who they are. When they look at people and seriously want to be like them. It drives them so hard that they go to the extent of erasing their existence and then they are gone without a trace of their original look.

## Must you go through that stress- you look beautiful the way you are.

If only you have realized how beautiful you are, then you would know that it is not necessary to wipe out who you are. Why are you particular about what people thinks, about how people see you, that you look so down on yourself? If only you know how beautiful you are. You don’t have to change who you are because of anything. If anyone has a problem with who you are, let them deal with it and not you.

If anyone has to change anything, it’s the world that we live in and not you. Maybe they are just too blind to see how beautiful you are, how amazing you are and how unique you were made to be. 

If there must be an adjustment it should be on yourself, on the person that you are and not wearing another person entirely. Be proud of the person that you are. You are a star and you are made to shine.

## Conclusion 
I have a problem with what the society has turned so many people into. People no longer accept themselves because the society does not accept them for who they are, so they try to be something else so that they can be accepted. Some times it is not the fault of these people but the world has become a place where, if you are to be recognized you must be someone else.

I bleed within when I see dark skinned women changing totally into white in order to be noticed and accepted, change in sexuality and all of that. Sometimes these people feel that they can not be loved if they are not transformed into another thing. 

Let’s understand that we have to accept people the way they are and for who they were made to be. The world has to change its thoughts and let people be who they are and not someone else. Let us encourage people who feel inferior to accept themselves and love their looks, body and life. 

Its time to make people happy by letting them know how beautiful they way they are. If there is a change to be done, it should to be a better person and not someone else. Accept yourself and be proud of your color, race, size, stature, height, hair, eyes, lips, looks and the you in you. If there is anything that would be changed it is the way the world thinks! Be proud of who you are and remain beautiful.

*This is dedicated to all the girls, men and women who hurt because they are not accepted for how they were made. Let me be your mirror to tell you how beautiful you are! You are and look beautiful and wonderful the way you are. Accept yourself first and do not mind what the world thinks.*

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### Source:
[1](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bobrisky), [2]( https://www.quora.com/Do-transsexuals-experience-any-personality-changes-after-taking-hormones)

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